Post by OHM on May 19, 2009 20:39:41 GMT -5
We read Tuesdays with Morrie in my "Contemporary Literature" class and for our final project for that unit, we had to write a personal reflection on a lesson we leaned. Rather than talking about how I learned how to treat others nice and all that elementary school crap, I wrote about confidence. This is what I wrote:
Confidence is something that lies deep within ourselves, a fuel of sorts that can propel us to do the things we must wish to do even when we fear the action will be discarded, disregarded, or just plain ignored.
A fear of not succeeding is when confidence would factor in to the equation. Our confidence kicks in and for a moment we are free, no problems, and you can do what you were originally afraid to do. When we can cut the strings that attach us to our most deep-seated worries, our strongest fears, and just let go.
“A valuable asset that many do not possess, and wish they did”, is the viewpoint many have on the possession of confidence. A viewpoint that is possibly as wrong as it could be. Confidence is not something you can attain, such as the ability to lift a heavy weight, it is something that you must find.
Everyone has confidence. Your confidence comes from your sense of self, what makes you, “you”. It is just a matter of finding your confidence, finding your true sense of self, which can be the most difficult part of your journey. Essentially, to be confident, you need to be who you are, and be happy with who you are. Be who you wish to be in every aspect. Not only will this give you confidence, but your self-esteem, which is directly related to confidence will increase, and the fact that you are living your life how you wish to live it, will only help you in accomplishing your goals.
Find your confidence, become comfortable with who you are and who you want to be. Become that person, and be confident.
The reason I appreciate this lesson so much is because when I was in eighth grade I did not have much confidence socially. I was confident in myself in respect to academics because I had good grades, but beyond school, I didn’t have much. Sure I had plenty of friends, but I spent most of my time being the person I thought other people wanted me to be. Deep down, my sense of self was not congruent with the image I was displaying to everyone else, and I wasn’t happy. Then ninth grade came along. It was a new beginning and I changed. You can probably tell by my outright cockiness and gregarious nature that I don’t really care what people think of me anymore. I have my own style, quite different from the athletic shorts and tee shirts wearing kids you see walking around most of the time. I’m different, and I’m confident, and I wouldn’t have it any other way.
Confidence is something that lies deep within ourselves, a fuel of sorts that can propel us to do the things we must wish to do even when we fear the action will be discarded, disregarded, or just plain ignored.
A fear of not succeeding is when confidence would factor in to the equation. Our confidence kicks in and for a moment we are free, no problems, and you can do what you were originally afraid to do. When we can cut the strings that attach us to our most deep-seated worries, our strongest fears, and just let go.
“A valuable asset that many do not possess, and wish they did”, is the viewpoint many have on the possession of confidence. A viewpoint that is possibly as wrong as it could be. Confidence is not something you can attain, such as the ability to lift a heavy weight, it is something that you must find.
Everyone has confidence. Your confidence comes from your sense of self, what makes you, “you”. It is just a matter of finding your confidence, finding your true sense of self, which can be the most difficult part of your journey. Essentially, to be confident, you need to be who you are, and be happy with who you are. Be who you wish to be in every aspect. Not only will this give you confidence, but your self-esteem, which is directly related to confidence will increase, and the fact that you are living your life how you wish to live it, will only help you in accomplishing your goals.
Find your confidence, become comfortable with who you are and who you want to be. Become that person, and be confident.
The reason I appreciate this lesson so much is because when I was in eighth grade I did not have much confidence socially. I was confident in myself in respect to academics because I had good grades, but beyond school, I didn’t have much. Sure I had plenty of friends, but I spent most of my time being the person I thought other people wanted me to be. Deep down, my sense of self was not congruent with the image I was displaying to everyone else, and I wasn’t happy. Then ninth grade came along. It was a new beginning and I changed. You can probably tell by my outright cockiness and gregarious nature that I don’t really care what people think of me anymore. I have my own style, quite different from the athletic shorts and tee shirts wearing kids you see walking around most of the time. I’m different, and I’m confident, and I wouldn’t have it any other way.
