Being Yourself *

[Sloth]

I've seen a lot of posts on here saying 'pick up is nothing really, it's all about being yourself' stuff like that

personally, i think it's bullshit, pardon my language.

for one thing a lot of people don't know who they really are when they act, you don't really recognize when your being yourself.

Also a main point on PU is being confident around people, and most people are uncomfortable being themselves because 1) they have genuinely bad personalities or 2) they feel like being themselves isn't good enough as PUA material seems to work so much better.

Now i think if a post is made trying to help people become comfortable being themselves it's good and helpful

a post saying, 'Here's what you've gotta do lads, cut the PUA bullshit and be yourself!' is shit, cause it's harder to cut the pua then be yourself, nearly every afc has little confidence and therefore would find it hard being themselves.

Now i don't wanna start an argument cause i don't know, maybe someone on this forums is lame enough to actually do that, from what I've seen i highly doubt any of you will.
This post is open to criticism, what I'm saying is don't be a nob.
And i wasn't attacking people who post that stuff i just thought I'd try and get another opinion across because as grape once told me when you have different opinions about it is more beneficial than just one.

Finally, i believe PUA is about bettering yourself, so you can't tell people to be themselves cause they'll act like they USED TO be, they need to act like the improved them and that's where many PUA concepts come in.


sorry if i offended any of you, I'm probably in a lousy mood.

still i hope this post is worthwhile

Sloth x

[OHM]

You're being your best-self. You want to be yourself in that you're not changing who you are. You become who you want to be, and the image in your head of who you want to be must be congruent with what you are displaying yourself as. Mental and physical image must be the same, in that, be yourself, be your best-self.

[Grape]

I actually haven't seen a lot of that around here xD

but yeah, i know what you mean.
A lot of AFCs do asshole things and are simply not liked for THOSE reasons.

Well here's the thing. They are assholes because of two reasons:
1. They are insecure about them trueselves so they act stuck up and like an asshole to boost ego.
2. As children growing up, they grew up in such an environment that required heavy focus on self and little focus on others.

#1 is simply a confidence issue.
#2 is simply a psychology issue.

For #2, it just means that the person couldnt help but grow into thinking about himself and very little about others. He doesn't have any rapport with his environment, or *the rest of the world*. He never learned to care for others, to realize how friends were important, how being SOCIAL was important. He never learned that in order to be social, he needed to put himself in other people's shoes.

He never applied the concept of a reverse role of thinking about how the outside reality is being affected.

However, once he is appealed to all these concepts and such, he can easily adapt and change to fit into the social world.

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So Sloth, I most definitely agree with you. Some people should never be told "be yourself" in the context of which you defined it with. They'll just focus on themselves and nothing more.

However, I think when people say "Be yourself", they really just mean "hey, relax. trying to be cool by acting stuck up wont get you anywhere."
Not "be the same asshole you are now! Because who you are right now isn't getting you laid so stay that way!"

"be yourself." A mere ego-boosting sentence without turning the person into an ego-hungry asshole. An ego-boost that will make the person want to Validate and Qualify others imo.
So, "bullshit escalation"? Possibly.

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p.s. i posted an article on what bullshit escalation is in the A&R section for those of you who are not familiar with the term (I made it up xD)

[OHM]

[SenorBubbz]

"Being your best self."

That's a term commonly used but first you must develop and FIND your better self.
Something I would definitely reccommend that you read is "Blueprint" by Tyler Durden.
Not the DVD's but the book. It hasn't been offically released but there are some beta's floating around and it's excellent.