Different world view?

[Paetar]

SO I'm having another brain-picking phase. This time I want to discuss something that has crossed my mind a lot of times, perhaps today we might shed some light on it.

Mindset: "I am willing to give everyone a fair chance" - is it useful?

I know for sure that it's great for socializing. If you're willing to give everyone a chance, you're not going to chase someone off automatically, and that's called being social. In my opinion, being social is all about giving everyone a chance to prove themselves to you. If you get the feeling that they're useful to pursue some relationship with (whether it is friendship or sexual relationship), your investment (time) has paid off.

BUT is it useful when meeting girls? I don't know. On the one hand we have the "social" point, being direct (I always try to be direct and honest, as these are some of most important values in life in general) and confident (you're not actually hiding your interest). ON the other hand we have the challenge and secrecy, along with the "higher status" switch. Because (that is the way that people around me think) higher status people have someone come to them, not the other way around. Even though huge numbers of PUA's are a proof that it's the other way around.

Any ideas?

BTW I know I've been away for so long, it's just that I can't seem to find time to get here. I am so sorry guys, it's the end of the school year and you know how it goes....

[Alek]

what exactly do you mean? Like if they do something bad to you? Forgive them?

[OHM]

Giving everyone a chance is definitely useful for expanding your base of friends, people you hang out with. I personally run game on just about everyone except for my close friends. Just because you run game on a girl, doesn't mean she has to be a potential target.

Meet everyone, talk to everyone, be friends with everyone. Besides being a happier person and making other people happy (smiles spread like wildfire I hear), it's a huge DHV if you're connected (in a positive way) with everyone around you. Sure you are the one that initiates most of the first meeting conversations, but eventually everyone will start to gravitate towards you. You become the center of the social "circle", the proverbial sun so-to-speak. The center earns the high status and the DHV's, and you have all the new friends, win-win to me. Girls, guys, it doesn't matter.

So get out there and BE SOCIAL!

[SenorBubbz]

I'm pretty sure what he means is....
To not judge people by a first impression, and to give everyone a chance no matter what.

Don't really get the meaning for the girls though, could you elaborate on that bud?

[Paetar]

I'm saying that the "slightly arrogant, cocky guy" is a very attractive stereotype. And that perhaps it's more useful than being... well... social when meeting girls for the first time.

[nutrick]

i like it. it gives you a screening mindset, but at the same time, there are no biases and you're being completely truthful. you're also showing that intially, you aren't giving any "special attention" to a girl just cuz she's hot. so it's a great starting point, but of course at one point you're gonna have to up the ante with a girl you wanna get to know better through screening/qualifying etc.

there is still definitely challenge and secrecy w/ being social. IMO if you're social and you have intent/desire coupled with it, you'll be way more successful than when you're being slightly arrogant, cocky, because in a sense although you know you are the prize/catch, you still grab and take what you want, you aren't like "i'm pretty cool babe, you should get to know me" it's "hey, come here, you seem cool, i wanna get to know you" make sense?

[Zomga48]

This is actually what I try to do all the time. A lot of the time you will have the non-popular kids hatin' on the popular crowd behind their back. I just tell them, hey give 'em a chance they aren't all bad. It shows dominance and friendliness imo.