sqhizzel
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Post by sqhizzel on Jun 16, 2009 8:19:05 GMT -5
Hey guys , so yesterday I hung with these two rich girls from a suburb of my city. And one of them was my friends gf hb 7.5 (btw she threw me more IOI'S then mystery has gotten in the past ten years combined.) But my friends gf friend hb 8. kept saying faggot and how all this stuff was gay. Not in a mean way towards me (she thought I was hilarious) but as a joke towards everything. Now I kinda felt uncomfortable, because I hate the word faggot. I only use it when im making fun of like a stereotypical macho man calling someone else that. Now if you use it alot, thats your thing, I aint here to judge. But I kinda felt like I should of said that to fit in, I eventually didnt ,and they still liked me. But ive been noticiing lately with alot of suburban kids ive been hangin with. Ive been having this feeling that I have to go against a couple morals I have. what do you guys think?any experience with this? should I go against my morals?
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nutrick
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Post by nutrick on Jun 16, 2009 11:32:22 GMT -5
no, never undermine your values/morals to try and fit in with your friends. like you said, that's their thing, and you aint here to judge. i was asked to smoke some cigs at a party, and i felt like i should have, and i kinda wanted to, but i said nah i'm cool, and i got mad respect for it. not saying that you always will, but it felt good that i was staying true to myself. peace
Patrick
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Cobra
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Post by Cobra on Jun 16, 2009 16:37:11 GMT -5
Not at all man. Patrick's post is right.
It's sooooo beta if you do something to fit in. Think about it, only a beta would alter their morals to fit in. An alpha on the other hand assumes people like him, because he is the leader, and he does not need to comprimise himself so that others will like him.
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Volt
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Post by Volt on Jun 16, 2009 18:36:34 GMT -5
Not at all man. Patrick's post is right. It's sooooo beta if you do something to fit in. Think about it, only a beta would alter their morals to fit in. An alpha on the other hand assumes people like him, because he is the leader, and he does not need to comprimise himself so that others will like him. +1 If you reaaalllly have a problem with them saying faggot, just tell them so. People realize it's a hateful word and cut it out most of the time. |
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Alek
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Post by Alek on Jun 17, 2009 9:39:47 GMT -5
yeah dont accomidate yourself for other people. And you could even call them out on it
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manslaughter
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Post by manslaughter on Sept 12, 2009 12:56:01 GMT -5
I've had the same problem i live in southern Illinois and its a small back wards community and my parent taught me its the personality that matters not the background noise and when ever anyone said the word fagot i called them on it this happened in middle school by the way so they started to call me gay because thats the only real reason for me to stick up for gay men and women right? and back the i was on a a.d.d medicine that caused depression so being treated as an outcast just made me suicidal around 7th grade i was taken of the drug against my teachers and principles wishes and became a completely different person like a phoenix from the ashes reborn from the shallow emotionless husk that i once was however I'm still recovering my social standing
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risen
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Post by risen on Sept 12, 2009 20:59:52 GMT -5
Behaviors are behaviors. I have a friend who smokes, but I don't he tells me all the time about how I should never start. It isn't worth it. If I did start, he'd be cool with it because it's my choice. But that's just it it's my choice. One little difference doesn't affect your standings.
I know this isn't about drugs, but it's the same concept it's hard enough for people. When you state that a certain thing won't be tolerated around you they cut it out. If anything they'll just have respect for you.
Have you seen kids who are submissive when a teacher yells at him? They look pathetic.
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sparkogre
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Post by sparkogre on Sept 22, 2009 19:17:03 GMT -5
I think you guys kinda miss the point. The point is NOT to always have to prove to yourself that you have morals and that you're so dedicated to them that you're willing to call people out on their bullshit.
The point is, do what you feel like doing. If these people keep saying faggot, just reflect. If you don't feel like spending time with these guys, go find other friends. But if it doesn't bother you, don't feel any sort of "self-obligation" to have to be authentic to yourself. That makes no sense. How can you be authentic to yourself in doing something you don't want to do? It's almost a fucking paradox. There's not much point to faking your inner game.
Have you seen kids who are submissive when a teacher yells at him? They look pathetic.
I think you're losing your grip on reality here. Pickup and being alpha is great and all, but if you're being enough of a douchebag that the teacher actually yells at you, you shouldn't compound your asshattery by acting self-righteous.
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