swimmergirl
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Post by swimmergirl on Aug 15, 2009 1:41:44 GMT -5
hi im victoria im a female im gonna be a junior in high skool...im 15 almost 16 and live in ct i need some help determining players from real genuine guys and my guy friend recommened i wrote on hear for help ive been hurt by sum players lately and my friend is worried for me...he told me u guys would be able to give me some advice how to determine a real guy vs a player...ive been lied to and taken advantage of by these players and i want it to stop thanks in advance <3, victoria
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Alek
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Post by Alek on Aug 18, 2009 1:07:05 GMT -5
Hey welcome. Well you see, players will just try to get down your pants. They wont actually care about you. But Im guessing that they have built up a false sense of comfort with you...and thats where your problem lies, because they seem sorta legit, but at heart of it arent, right?
What I can say, is a real guy will actually care about you, respecting your choices, and actually keeping in mind what you like, and giving you value in a way that is special.
I mean, its even hard to explain it but its something that you have to feel out. Like, if he knows there is absolutely something that you like, and he surprises you with that...but in his own unique creative and unpredictable way (otherwise it would be boring and predictable). That would be one example, but you kind of have to feel around if whether or not he is trying to build comfort with you or is just after one thing.
A true guy would build attraction with you, and comfort. A player would build attraction and go to seduction, or he might even build false comfort...and you just have to really feel it out
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nutrick
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Post by nutrick on Aug 18, 2009 1:59:50 GMT -5
hi im victoria im a female im gonna be a junior in high skool...im 15 almost 16 and live in ct i need some help determining players from real genuine guys and my guy friend recommened i wrote on hear for help ive been hurt by sum players lately and my friend is worried for me...he told me u guys would be able to give me some advice how to determine a real guy vs a player...ive been lied to and taken advantage of by these players and i want it to stop thanks in advance <3, victoria welcome to the forum. As you may or may not know, attraction is not a choice, and as much as all this stuff makes sense, in the heat of the moment, that might not be the case. In high school, there are those few cases where there are those super suave, player esque types that are blatantly obvious, but to avoid getting played, I suggest you keep your options open and see other guys. Now before you ex out this message and prepare to send me hate mail or google how to e-slap me, let me explain. There's a phenomenon called one-itis, where you pretty much just think that the guy/girl is "the one." This has happened to countless people, both guys and girls and kids and adults alike. The guys turn into spineless, obssessive pussies in an attempt to always please the girl in fear of losing her, and the girls turn into obsessive, interrogating dicks for the same reason. Talk about a gender switch eh? So anyways, the reason I suggest you see other guys is to keep your perspective and your "head above the water" so to speak. It will show you that there are more guys out there and that there is more to life than just this guy. You'll also be able to compare and see who fits your lifestyle more. Alek makes a great point however, that players usually do skip the comfort stage and just wanna get in your pants, but some of them are sneaky bastards, which is why i suggested that you have options. If you have any questions, feel free to IM me or email me. I hardly go on here anymore. Ciao Patrick
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RedDog
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Post by RedDog on Aug 18, 2009 3:49:51 GMT -5
Neither of you dipshits diagnosed the real problem here. Well I like Alek so Nutrick, you failed to diagnose the problem. It's a simple self-esteem issue. We've already talked about it. Which thereby raises my awesome level by OVER 9000
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SenorBubbz
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Post by SenorBubbz on Aug 18, 2009 9:16:52 GMT -5
I taught her to flirt.
Suck my cock faggots, I win.
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Alek
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Post by Alek on Aug 18, 2009 13:22:17 GMT -5
Neither of you dipshits diagnosed the real problem here. Well I like Alek so Nutrick, you failed to diagnose the problem. It's a simple self-esteem issue. We've already talked about it. Which thereby raises my awesome level by OVER 9000 I can diagnoise any problem of lovee.. cuz i am...dr feeel gooood
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RedDog
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Post by RedDog on Aug 18, 2009 13:42:38 GMT -5
I taught her to flirt. Suck my cock faggots, I win. I am questioning your sexuality since you taught her how to flirt with guys...
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nutrick
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Post by nutrick on Aug 18, 2009 14:31:52 GMT -5
I don't diagnose problems, I find solutions. biatch. Thanks for giving us the problem, alas with no real solution to her problem. So you've pretty much added absolutely no value to this thread/conversation/diagnosis. Cheers, Mr. Specialist.
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RedDog
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Post by RedDog on Aug 18, 2009 14:34:01 GMT -5
I don't diagnose problems, I find solutions. biatch. Thanks for giving us the problem, alas with no real solution to her problem. So you've pretty much added absolutely no value to this thread/conversation/diagnosis. Cheers, Mr. Specialist. I found a solution too. I recommended Push Up-Bras for her. She is a little low on the self esteem at the moment but she should be good.
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Alek
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Post by Alek on Aug 18, 2009 14:36:52 GMT -5
lmao nutrick.
I think i need sum of dem push up bras too
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Post by Ace of Diamonds on Aug 18, 2009 22:09:46 GMT -5
hi im victoria im a female im gonna be a junior in high skool...im 15 almost 16 and live in ct i need some help determining players from real genuine guys and my guy friend recommened i wrote on hear for help he told me u guys would be able to give me some advice how to determine a real guy vs a playerwith respect, i think that all of you guys are missing the real question here. AOD's How to determine a REAL guy 101: 1. does he like techno music, doin the robot, and often says he feels the need to "recharge"? then hes not a REAL guy. hes a ROBOT. 2. does he love ET, his skin appears to fit loosely around his body, and you once walked in on him secretly communicating with the "mothership"? then hes not a REAL guy. hes an ALIEN. 3. does he smell of rotting flesh? brain-dead? then hes not a REAL guy. hes a ZOMBIE(remember, like Alek said: "A true guy would build attraction with you, and comfort. A zombie would build attraction and go to seduction, or he might even build false comfort ..... and then eat you") moral of the story is: just because a guys seeking to improve himself with women doesnt necessarily make him a bad person. there is a distinction between our PUAs and your "players". not saying that some PUAs arent dicks, but there is a difference. self-improvement is not a bad thing. oh, and victoria. nice nails, are they fake? (yeah, thats right, you just got negged. mmmmmm, yeah, u-huh, thats old skool. hi-5.)
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RedDog
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Post by RedDog on Aug 18, 2009 22:28:01 GMT -5
Ace of Diamonds, you win RedDog's seal of approval for that post.
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Post by Grape on Aug 19, 2009 8:04:39 GMT -5
hi im victoria im a female im gonna be a junior in high skool...im 15 almost 16 and live in ct i need some help determining players from real genuine guys and my guy friend recommened i wrote on hear for help he told me u guys would be able to give me some advice how to determine a real guy vs a playerwith respect, i think that all of you guys are missing the real question here. AOD's How to determine a REAL guy 101: 1. does he like techno music, doin the robot, and often says he feels the need to "recharge"? then hes not a REAL guy. hes a ROBOT. 2. does he love ET, his skin appears to fit loosely around his body, and you once walked in on him secretly communicating with the "mothership"? then hes not a REAL guy. hes an ALIEN. 3. does he smell of rotting flesh? brain-dead? then hes not a REAL guy. hes a ZOMBIE(remember, like Alek said: "A true guy would build attraction with you, and comfort. A zombie would build attraction and go to seduction, or he might even build false comfort ..... and then eat you") moral of the story is: just because a guys seeking to improve himself with women doesnt necessarily make him a bad person. there is a distinction between our PUAs and your "players". not saying that some PUAs arent dicks, but there is a difference. self-improvement is not a bad thing. oh, and victoria. nice nails, are they fake? (yeah, thats right, you just got negged. mmmmmm, yeah, u-huh, thats old skool. hi-5.) You completely fail in my world. who got negged now bitch. =pp victoria, all i can say is this: guys naturally want to have multiple women in their lives. it goes all the way back to the ages of cavemen, but i wont get into that with you. i'm pretty sure the question is "how do i have sex with a guy without having him break up with me a couple of days after?" here it is: don't fuck him until you know everything about him. most guys just use their charm to win girls over, but what you gotta do is actually talk with him for a long enough time you'll know whether or not he's truly the guy you want (player vs genuine) players will get confused at this kind of talk because they're so used to simply getting girls to laugh and then fucking them. genuine guys will know exactly what you want and ONLY genuine guys. they'll tell you their 'life story', tell you what their goals are in life and stuff they really care about. but dont expect him to do all this by himself, you both have to open up to each other and tell each other about your passions, values, beliefs, etc. players look at you for two things: - Looks - Nice or bitchy genuine guys look for more: - looks - personality - beliefs - goals - values - passion ya get it?? <33
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anarchy
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Post by anarchy on Aug 19, 2009 9:00:18 GMT -5
I agree grape but, now A days its kinda hard to tell really. You can open up to someone and fuck them over you know. One of my friends back in the day would talk to a girl all sweet and emotional have her trust get what he wants then get rid of her quickly. Its fucked up but guys go it man =/
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SenorBubbz
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Post by SenorBubbz on Aug 19, 2009 20:44:46 GMT -5
hi im victoria im a female im gonna be a junior in high skool...im 15 almost 16 and live in ct i need some help determining players from real genuine guys and my guy friend recommened i wrote on hear for help he told me u guys would be able to give me some advice how to determine a real guy vs a playerwith respect, i think that all of you guys are missing the real question here. AOD's How to determine a REAL guy 101: 1. does he like techno music, doin the robot, and often says he feels the need to "recharge"? then hes not a REAL guy. hes a ROBOT. 2. does he love ET, his skin appears to fit loosely around his body, and you once walked in on him secretly communicating with the "mothership"? then hes not a REAL guy. hes an ALIEN. 3. does he smell of rotting flesh? brain-dead? then hes not a REAL guy. hes a ZOMBIE(remember, like Alek said: "A true guy would build attraction with you, and comfort. A zombie would build attraction and go to seduction, or he might even build false comfort ..... and then eat you") moral of the story is: just because a guys seeking to improve himself with women doesnt necessarily make him a bad person. there is a distinction between our PUAs and your "players". not saying that some PUAs arent dicks, but there is a difference. self-improvement is not a bad thing. oh, and victoria. nice nails, are they fake? (yeah, thats right, you just got negged. mmmmmm, yeah, u-huh, thats old skool. hi-5.) You are the coolest guy on this forum.
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