recovering situation at HS possible ?

[silverbull]

Hi everybody,

So I'm 16 year old kid and I go to Hs , I learned about a year ago about the game, it helped me alot to uderstand social cue's but I haven't applyed any of it yet on high school...I gues I have approach anxiety or somethin. But than there's another thing !
Since my first year in high school I have developed some mayor "negative socialproof" with the girls , I mean by this that I tried to game some girls , but it didn't work out because I was like the player guy trying to get attention from them , without even getting attraction first .....so the girls started hating me and made me very low value with th other girls. And now when I try to talk to them they treat me like low value and give short answer and turn their head away and then other girls see this and this even makes me lower value than I was.

I don't now what I'm doing wrong but here's some of my behaviours:

-In the class I'm always trying to get attention and then they think....it's the low value guy again.Maybe I should try and just pay attention more in the class??
-And when I'm with the guys I'm always trying to get them laughing and reacting on them so the grils see this and I'm like
the dacing monkey performing for the alpha-males->low-value
-When I'm talking to the girl I'm trying to be funny make them laugh and than they give me the look or just amog me!!!

I also find out that If give attention to chick without her having put effort , you are automaticaly blown out and that social proof is everything in Hs -> I have a nedr friend , very ugly guy totally AFC but 1 girl started liking him and the next day all girll liked
him ->> chicks do exactly what they see other chicks do!!
And so when one chick blows u off and thinks your low-value THEY ALL DO !!

i'm serious guys i still have 3-4 years of high school to go and I don't wanna end up the lonely guy, btw I'm pretty good looking so looks don't matter , either u have game or you don't!

SO COULD ANYBODY HELP ME WITH THIS CAN I RECOVER MY SITUATION ?? CAN I BE THE GUY WHO EVERYONE IS REACTING TO ?? PLS GUYS I REALY NEED YOUR HELP ON THIS.

[Alek]

I think that your problem is that to are seeking validation form other people. Stop doing that, dont try to impress others. And when you try to say something funny, your doing it to get a laugh. You have to be outcome independent. When I say shit, I say it for myself, my own benefit because it adds to MY OWN REALITY. Not anyone elses, nor do I care if they like it or not. I do things to satisfy only myself, and I dont give a shit about others. You should too.

I think thats your problem, but you cant really pin point stuff over the internet either. Just work on becoming internally validated, and work on your inner game. And you will be better off. And hopefully, you will develop an understanding of whats goin on.

Oh and about the recovering thing, try to transfer schools. Its really hard to change an impression once its made, but it can be done surely. But really, what youll need to do in that case is start off the year with a bang. Make there be a lot of good talk being spread about you, how cool you are and thatll help. Otherwise, its really hard. You need to have a lot of buzz going around (thats a lot of talk being talked about you), because thatll open up peoples perceptions a lot. If not, then people wont bother to get to know the new you, or atleast put a lot of effort into understand it. So its harder to spread your new personality