Post by Chris on Oct 15, 2008 17:20:59 GMT -5
Okay i go to a relatively small HS so there isn't a ton of targets. Still quite a bit, but it helps to be able to come back to old targets. So a while ago i came up with a step by step process to get OUT of the LJBF (lets just be friends) zone, and i have modified it to its new and improved updated version. Here it is:
Step one: Long Term Freeze Out
So you know you are in the LJBF zone. The first step is a long term freeze out. Stop talking to her for sometime... usually 2-3 weeks is perfect time. The key to the freeze out is POLITE disinterest. You are freezing her out because you are busy. If it seems like you are pissed at her... bad news. The freeze out should be long enough so you feel like you haven't talked forever. SOMETIMES... this is all you will need, plus regular gaming. If she comes back to you, remember POLITE disinterest. You are too busy to hang. Once she really starts missing you, or its been a while since you have talked is when it ends. Which ever comes first.
Step Two: Peacock
Change your peacocking style or get some new stuff. Maybe change your hairstyle, get some new style of clothes, or just accessorize. Doing this will eliminate the old stale image of you she has in her mind and it will create a fresh, new attractive one.
Step Three: Raise Social Proof
During the freeze out... this is where you raise your social proof. Not just being seen as an Alpha, but to show her that other girls want you. She will start seeing you in a different way because all the girls around you. This might make her realize she like you.
Step Four: Begin Gaming Target and Incorporate Light Kino
This is where the freeze out ends. Begin gaming her like you normally would (or not if you are AFC lol) and make sure to get some light kino going. High fives, cocky funny kino, hugs, anything. This will release oxytocin in her body bonding her more closely to you.
Step Five: Create Jealousy
So after you get some attraction going, this is where jealousy plotlines come in. Game other girls and make it seem to your target that SHE COULD LOSE YOU ANY DAY. Dont just game other girls for social proof, actually try to carry out the PU with them. You now have options.
Step Six: KINO ESCALATE
This is where you escalate, if your game was tight before, the reason you got LJBF'd was probably no escalation. So read up on some kino tactics such as the freeze out and kino routines. YOU MUST ESCALATE! Like Grape has said, kino is the game. You cant JUST create attraction and expect to get laid. YOU have to advance physically.
Step Seven: Use SOIs
When i say SOI, it means "sign of intent." Your intent is a sexual relationship. Kino is an SOI but im talking about verbal ones that show you are sexual. This is what will REALLY get her thinking of you as sexual material. If you say something sexual, wether she rejects it or not, she still thought about it. You should make SOIs cocky/funny, push/pull, or ambiguous. GM style cocky/funny is great. Here's my favorite SOIs.
-I would take you home so we could massage lotion into eachother's skin.... but im too tall, wouldn't have enough lotion for you.
-Hey, im not the kinda guy thats gonna give you pleasure and continuous orgasms all night this early... at least buy me a drink first.
-If you buy me a drink, maybe you will get lucky tonight.
-HB: you make me laugh
PUA: I can also make you scream.
Come up with some now and throw them into your late attraction phase.
Step Eight: Continue to Game and Escalate Untill Seduction is Reached
Keep doing what your doing now, game, escalate, untill you get to the point of seduction. You should've k-closed after you began using SOIs (late attraction/early comfort). Comfort could have been what got you into this so the kclose should be a bit earlier than usual (i prefer late attraction.). You can still build comfort as long as you continue to escalate and keep up sexual tension. Do this untill you reach sex. K-closing tho will be a sure sign you have gotten out. After a few SOIs, the thought of kissing you will be normal to her because the SOIs made her think of you as a sexual partner.
Well there it is, you are out now. I want you to realize tho that putting this much focus on one target could result in ONEITIS! Bad news. Make sure she isn't your only target, always avoid oneitis.
Now this is my version 2 of anti-LJBF zone. Its probably not perfected quite yet but its pretty damn good. If I find more good ways to get out of LJBF, i will update the post. If you guys got any ideas, I would LOVE to here them.
Step one: Long Term Freeze Out
So you know you are in the LJBF zone. The first step is a long term freeze out. Stop talking to her for sometime... usually 2-3 weeks is perfect time. The key to the freeze out is POLITE disinterest. You are freezing her out because you are busy. If it seems like you are pissed at her... bad news. The freeze out should be long enough so you feel like you haven't talked forever. SOMETIMES... this is all you will need, plus regular gaming. If she comes back to you, remember POLITE disinterest. You are too busy to hang. Once she really starts missing you, or its been a while since you have talked is when it ends. Which ever comes first.
Step Two: Peacock
Change your peacocking style or get some new stuff. Maybe change your hairstyle, get some new style of clothes, or just accessorize. Doing this will eliminate the old stale image of you she has in her mind and it will create a fresh, new attractive one.
Step Three: Raise Social Proof
During the freeze out... this is where you raise your social proof. Not just being seen as an Alpha, but to show her that other girls want you. She will start seeing you in a different way because all the girls around you. This might make her realize she like you.
Step Four: Begin Gaming Target and Incorporate Light Kino
This is where the freeze out ends. Begin gaming her like you normally would (or not if you are AFC lol) and make sure to get some light kino going. High fives, cocky funny kino, hugs, anything. This will release oxytocin in her body bonding her more closely to you.
Step Five: Create Jealousy
So after you get some attraction going, this is where jealousy plotlines come in. Game other girls and make it seem to your target that SHE COULD LOSE YOU ANY DAY. Dont just game other girls for social proof, actually try to carry out the PU with them. You now have options.
Step Six: KINO ESCALATE
This is where you escalate, if your game was tight before, the reason you got LJBF'd was probably no escalation. So read up on some kino tactics such as the freeze out and kino routines. YOU MUST ESCALATE! Like Grape has said, kino is the game. You cant JUST create attraction and expect to get laid. YOU have to advance physically.
Step Seven: Use SOIs
When i say SOI, it means "sign of intent." Your intent is a sexual relationship. Kino is an SOI but im talking about verbal ones that show you are sexual. This is what will REALLY get her thinking of you as sexual material. If you say something sexual, wether she rejects it or not, she still thought about it. You should make SOIs cocky/funny, push/pull, or ambiguous. GM style cocky/funny is great. Here's my favorite SOIs.
-I would take you home so we could massage lotion into eachother's skin.... but im too tall, wouldn't have enough lotion for you.
-Hey, im not the kinda guy thats gonna give you pleasure and continuous orgasms all night this early... at least buy me a drink first.
-If you buy me a drink, maybe you will get lucky tonight.
-HB: you make me laugh
PUA: I can also make you scream.
Come up with some now and throw them into your late attraction phase.
Step Eight: Continue to Game and Escalate Untill Seduction is Reached
Keep doing what your doing now, game, escalate, untill you get to the point of seduction. You should've k-closed after you began using SOIs (late attraction/early comfort). Comfort could have been what got you into this so the kclose should be a bit earlier than usual (i prefer late attraction.). You can still build comfort as long as you continue to escalate and keep up sexual tension. Do this untill you reach sex. K-closing tho will be a sure sign you have gotten out. After a few SOIs, the thought of kissing you will be normal to her because the SOIs made her think of you as a sexual partner.
Well there it is, you are out now. I want you to realize tho that putting this much focus on one target could result in ONEITIS! Bad news. Make sure she isn't your only target, always avoid oneitis.
Now this is my version 2 of anti-LJBF zone. Its probably not perfected quite yet but its pretty damn good. If I find more good ways to get out of LJBF, i will update the post. If you guys got any ideas, I would LOVE to here them.
