Destroyed

[DTM]

So I'm new here and i'll be pretty honest with you guys.
I just came out of a year long relationship with a girl, and before her I've had only one girlfriend who I've done nothing more than kiss. And worse than that I was pretty shy, despite being relatively high in my 'middle school' social ladder. So before this girl I've pretty much done nothing.

And so now after this year long relationship, I've done everything sexually imaginable, definitely one of the benefits of a long term relationship. But here's where the problem is and why I'm even posting in this board:

I was whipped. My first 'real' girlfriend who gave me any sort of sexual pleasure essentially took control of my life, causing me to loose friends, hobbies, self esteem, and I ended up being completely dependent on her. The problems started 5 months in and I couldn't ever break up with her for being scared to loose her (and all the sexual benefits).

So now after a year and a month I'm finally out, but I'm fucked. My social status is almost gone, I feel like I've lost the ways I used to be able to communicate people with and getting any girls may be a little challenge.

So I was seeing if you guys could help me out in getting my shit back together and hopefully raise my score too.

Thanks

[Sye~]

Wow embarrassing.
You should start reading up on some inner game.
highschoolpuas.proboards.com/index.cgi?board=general&action=display&thread=2844&page=1

[Chris]

Wouldn't be a bad idea to add us all on AIM. if you don't have one
make one. There's a post stickied of a bunch of members AIM
screen names. I'm not positive which board it is, i think general.

[gansta344u]

this is a new beginning for u as this is the day u start off improving urself... as we all are here for the same reason... to improve our love lives... look under the educational articles. Forget bout the past and push on to a brighter future...

All the Best...
Gansta344u

[extra]

I never get how "whipping" happens, especially with guys in the community. It seems as ridiculous as the "nice-guy" stuff to me; how does a girl get control of your life? I wouldn't be happy in such a situation, and no happy = no happy with girl = no girl. Plus, girls like guys to be the dominant one usually, even if some make guys fight for it, so it seems lose-lose to me.

I definitely get you with the loss of skill though. Same shit here kinda scares me, though I try to practice a bit now and then

[Alek]

well atleast uve reached the end. You've got the experience, and learned from your mistakes. As long as your not a dork, you can get your social status back lol. You've got a fresh start, and you were social before. Your still the same person. Just your in a bad state, so start being active and you should get into a good one.

+ if you live in a city...youve got tons of resources. High school doesnt mean shit, just take the lesson and knowledge, and learn from it.

[DTM]

Jan 21, 2010 18:11:06 GMT -5 extra said:

I never get how "whipping" happens, especially with guys in the community. It seems as ridiculous as the "nice-guy" stuff to me; how does a girl get control of your life? I wouldn't be happy in such a situation, and no happy = no happy with girl = no girl. Plus, girls like guys to be the dominant one usually, even if some make guys fight for it, so it seems lose-lose to me.

I definitely get you with the loss of skill though. Same shit here kinda scares me, though I try to practice a bit now and then

Yeah I used to wonder that too, until I was getting head literally 3-7 times a week. And after about 8 months, getting laid at least once a week...

For the longest time I'd balance which is more worth it, happiness or sexual happiness...and for the longest time I picked the sex :/

Yeah...really embarrassing I know but I figured I should be honest. I'll put up my aim for sure.

Thanks guys for all the responses.

[sharkoffs]

There are three things you have to watch out for on these forums.

1. Forum Jockeys, they never leave their house and think their experts by doing all of the reading but they never actually "play" the game.

2. Don't get stuck just reading and reading, you want too take small bits of knowledge and start applying it in real life. This is the secret to success.

3. Don't you dare ever call yourself pathetic or think of yourself as a loser.
YOU ARE FUCKING GOD. Say it to yourself over and over again until no one can convince you otherwise. Inner Game is the key, now go unlock the door.

[casanovareborn]

Your preachin to the choir shark. Especially with number 2, because the whole applying small bits thing really is the way to go. It actually makes things much easier. Things have to be taken one step at a time. And it really works wonders. ;D ;D

Jan 23, 2010 19:44:45 GMT -5 sharkoffs said:

There are three things you have to watch out for on these forums.

1. Forum Jockeys, they never leave their house and think their experts by doing all of the reading but they never actually "play" the game.

2. Don't get stuck just reading and reading, you want too take small bits of knowledge and start applying it in real life. This is the secret to success.

3. Don't you dare ever call yourself pathetic or think of yourself as a loser.
YOU ARE FUCKING GOD. Say it to yourself over and over again until no one can convince you otherwise. Inner Game is the key, now go unlock the door.

[DTM]

I've been looking around the forum actually and started reading Rules of The Game. Man thats a good book, it really gets you to do it step by step, not just read theory like you all are saying that you shouldn't do.

[MarthXII]

When getting out of a Relationship and Feeling like shit basically, You feel the world isnt bright anymore, it looses its color. What you want to do now, is just take a bit of your time and instead of thinking about the good things that happened, Think of all the things that you guys didnt see eye to eye on. Its hard at first but as you emerge from your sad state and start realizing your alone again without a relationship, You must buck up and find the happiest things you can do. Hang out with friends, You dont have any? Make some! Chilling with the Fam, You dont like to? Chill with someone you know! Talk about it when the time comes and the subject arrives and Reflect on what happend, not as a bad thing, But as a major improvement! Youre out and about again man! Free to do whatever! So start doing things you couldnt or didnt do when you were in a relationship. Read these worlds and Put in a theme song if you must, They are guidelines to Proceed on this journey back to were you left off before she was around.

-BanYa