Question :: A little bit of a fail...

[bph]

Hey guys over the weekend I went to dance and grinded with a buncha girls, got their numbers and all that. Yet, here's the aftermath when I actually text them.

2 Girls don't really remember me

1 Girl thinks she's too old for me

1 Girl won't really text back

and 1 Girl isn't really talking at all TODAY

Any advice or whatnot? Plus the 1 Girl that won't really text back was the best girl there so if anybody has something specific for how to win her over I will LOVE you!

[secret]

you built no rapport with them, you didn't make yourself memorable at all. honestly most of those im not surprised flaked, what you need to do is build rapport with all of them so they know it not just some fling type thing

[bph]

Not that it's a huge deal or anything but...how do you build rapport with girls at dance where they can barely hear anything...especially when they're grinding on your balls?

Plus it's kinda difficult to tell a girl my name is "Bryce" when the music makes it sound like Brian or Rice...

[Alek]

you gotta move them out of the area first. See, dance floor game is a bit tricky because of just that.

Im still trying to figure out how to do just that...because a lot of times girls are there to dance, and not really interested to move. I havn't tried this out yet, but this is what i'd try to do (but yes I have been to clubs). When your dancing with them, slowly escalate, to the point when your kissing - But it can't be a full on makeout just yet...because that would be a weird drop in emotional buoyancy (I just think i coined a term ha ha) referring to the next step.. Then whisper in their ear, lets find someplace more quiet, because I need to show you something awesome (you need to justify the move).

Since you already kissed, theres a bit invested between both of you...so it should make the move easier. Then once you move, just build some rapport and go from there.

[darkpwns]

Mar 7, 2010 23:05:49 GMT -5 Alek said:

you gotta move them out of the area first. See, dance floor game is a bit tricky because of just that.

Im still trying to figure out how to do just that...because a lot of times girls are there to dance, and not really interested to move. I havn't tried this out yet, but this is what i'd try to do (but yes I have been to clubs). When your dancing with them, slowly escalate, to the point when your kissing - But it can't be a full on makeout just yet...because that would be a weird drop in emotional buoyancy (I just think i coined a term ha ha) referring to the next step.. Then whisper in their ear, lets find someplace more quiet, because I need to show you something awesome (you need to justify the move).

Since you already kissed, theres a bit invested between both of you...so it should make the move easier. Then once you move, just build some rapport and go from there.

That sounds eerily familiar .

Either way, this is correct, unless you're a major boss at physical escalation and can manage to get something done right then and there on the dance floor (no...not pounding her vagina for all to see), they're going to flake on your ass. You've got to show them a good time...and as Hitch said....girls make dancing similar to sex, although you don't have to be a good dancer. Just make it exciting and they'll be inclined to follow you to somewhere "more quiet" if not for some more of that excitement, that magnetism they felt on the floor with you. Justifying isn't exactly 100% necessary, but if you are unsure a justification would suffice. "Showing them something awesome" might not fly though, try "to get a drink"...vitamin water, alcohol, what ever's there...you don't really have to get to getting the drink anyway.

Dance floor game is really fun.

[Alek]

if ya jusify something, theyre that much more likely to do it. It doesnt really matter what you say to jusitfy it - really.

Afc adam justified taking a girls seat "because he had a nose", and it worked 100% of the time lol.

[bph]

My problem is NOT dance floor game...I enjoy the fuck out of dances because I know I'm gonna get a lot of action...

The one that I'm asking for advice about had me getting tons of grinds and some boob action lol.

So I'm fine in that aspect, I just failed with all 5 girls that gave me their numbers lol...the hottest one, Tara, won't really reply to me with the only thing she said being "who is this?" lol

[Chris]

Then your problem still IS dance floor game dude. Listen, just
cuz your grinding with a girl or even making out with her at a
dance does NOT mean youve got solid game. Maybe some, but
what solid game typically does, it gets them to text back. The
guys above are right, it will be hard, but youve gotta isolate and
build rapport, unless you are extremely high value.