Should PU be kept as a private thing in life?

[Traxx]

Something just dawned on me today when I was looking through my files of everything PU. When I read an ebook, watch a video, or browse these forums I treat the situation like someone would when messing with porn. I have everything password protected and put into a long list of folders where my possibly snooping parents won't find them. Whenever I do anything with pick up I'm almost embarassed. No one knows that I study any of this and I always change the topic when something like this is questioned. Should I even be concerned? Is it natural to worry about this? Is it just time to tell some people that I'm close to that I study this so I no longer have to worry?

It's probably time to get a wingman but I just feel awkward towards this whole thing. I don't know why this gets me. I guess it's just that natural part of being a man where we feel weak if we need help lol

[RMO]

wingmen help. I just preface everything with evolutionary biology and social dynamics, I get my friends involved with active tips and showing why a girl does that. I never use PUA terminology, and I wouldnt use the moniker because this is what most regular people see PUA as

Guys who cant get girls so they find ways to cheat the normal system.

This isnt really true, but its the idea that sticks.

[perceverance]

Mid im exactly like you. and prodigy, that is exactly the thoughts that go through anyone's mind if they find out that you are in PU. I like to be pretty private about it because i don't want to be seen as the guy who analyzes every situation when talking to people and uses strategy's to talk to a girl. it seems degrading and disrespecting to the girl but none of us can help it right? we wouldn't have met half the girls we know if it wasn't for this art.

[Traxx]

I should get wingmen but only tell them the basics and workarounds? So there's still gonna be that guilt/pride of having a "secret"? Guilt for the "what if" when someone could find out you use the stuff and pride for knowing it?

It just feels so weird how something this helpful can instantly hurt you. Life ain't fair haha

[RMO]

well im not the guy who breaks it down, but girls find it pretty sexy when all they know is i know exactly what their feeling and thinking at any given moment

intuition is a turn on.

dont view it as this stuff, just dont call it PUA, be all natural

[Traxx]

Yea but the resources we use are labeled pua, so if we were to mentor someone and give them a book or show them these forums, there's still a possibility that it would hurt us?

[perceverance]

if your scared of people judging you, dont talk to people about it at all. if you tell one person, no matter how much you trust them, chances are that its gonna spread. I dont trust anyone with personal things because even your best friends can betray you sometimes, sometimes its not even intentional.

[RMO]

if you dont trust it, then dont use a book or the website to teach, i dont.

[perceverance]

^ just wondering, are you a natural? like, did you have confidence and social skills before you discovered pu?

[Traxx]

I bet alot of it came from his genes haha

But yea I understand where you guys are getting at. I just wasn't sure of the consequences of gettin ratted out

[owl]

Like prodigy said, help them not to become a PUA, but a natural.

If you make yourself out to be a "negA1IoIColdReading' word spitting 'PUA', then yes, there's a chance you make come off as a tool.

Don't try and teach them. Unless you are mentoring someone, the worst you can do is start spouting advice to someone who really doesn't want it or need it.

[perceverance]

its definately a genetic trait that got passed down to him haha

[Nick]

I'm kind of reaching a point in my life where I'm just completely opening myself up. I almost want everyone to know everything I do. The more and more open I get, though, the more and more people doubt me which kind of sucks.

I've actually told ONE of my friends about it. Not the forum, but I've showed him The Game, The Power of Now, and The Secret. Personally, I don't think PUA books are really that good. They build a lot of confidence, though.

Personally, if you want to teach, be an example. Actions not words.

[RMO]

I have always been hyper confident and i wasnt a socialite but talking with people was never an issue

I grew up around a wide variety of adults, i was actually speaking with the vocabulary and social experince, other then sex, at the level of a 25 yr old by 4th grade. My only issue was being around people like me, they fucked the whole dynamic of real life up with their stupidity. It totally fucked my escalation and even though i was fun to talk to I never escalated.

The reason i joined PUA was not becuase i wasnt happy i wasnt getting women, it was better understanding the whole social dynamics and why highschool was retarded. Its hilarious for a time i was better at flirting with 18-21 year olds then i was 14-17 year olds.

just dont make it a big deal, just say you saw the pick up artist show and some of the stuff was kind of cool. Dont say your a 'pick up artist' or any of that shit, its just a cool thing you saw.

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I added Neil Strauss, Mystery, and palm reading to my likes on Facebook. No one ever really questioned me about any of it except for palm reading. They could all see that my confidence went up after all this and I started attracting popular girls. In my opinion, I don't think anyone really cares if you are or if you are not a PUA.