aussieenergy
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Post by aussieenergy on Sept 9, 2011 7:32:08 GMT -5
Okay, I went to ask someone out, she says she would go out with me but she "can't deal with it emotionally at the moment". What the hell does this mean, and what do I do?!?
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Post by looknlisten on Sept 9, 2011 12:10:57 GMT -5
It means your not the one
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Post by Sloth on Sept 9, 2011 16:54:10 GMT -5
savant if you're going to give SHIT advice, then get the fuck off this forum. People will look at your replies and potentially believe your BULLSHIT.
Aussie, sometimes the timing is wrong, a lot of girls won't get into relationships while theyre doing exams, and a lot of the time it's because they're going through something, like a death in the family or something. In my experience that's usualyl what it means when she says she's having a hard emotional time and can't commit to a relationship -after all relationships require a large amount of effort, emotionally especially.
But if she said she likes you then that's a plus, you can wait around or move on, maybe someday she'll be ready
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aussieenergy
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Post by aussieenergy on Sept 9, 2011 23:14:33 GMT -5
Good advice sloth. Dead on, we're actually going through exams and stuff at the moment. So I dunno, wait till they are over, ask her out and then do something on the holidays?
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Post by looknlisten on Sept 10, 2011 2:06:16 GMT -5
Stop selling him dreams like "maybe just wait for her if you wanna she might be having emotional problems or is writing exams" "maybe someday she will be ready" dude this is not a soap opera, if you wanna be with a chick like that then oh well do you but there's better girls honestly. Exams don't cripple chicks emotionally. Your OP means two things and two things only -she gave a shit test and you need to tep up your game with her or your just not the one
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Post by RMO on Sept 10, 2011 6:09:57 GMT -5
savant if you're going to give SHIT advice, then get the fuck off this forum. People will look at your replies and potentially believe your BULLSHIT. Actually he's 100% right. Now he didn't offer the kid any advice, but he did answer what it meant. You really need to take your tampon out. Now I know I'll get -9999999 rep for siding with savant, but honestly aussie, be understanding of her feelings. That means a.) be able to know that what a girl says and what she means are two different things b.) don't push things on girl, its like putting an animal in a corner The best thing to do is just be the superior man, and don't give a fuck, just go with it, continue to game as normal. Also you don't really need to ask girls anything, just escalate and exude good feelings. |
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Post by looknlisten on Sept 10, 2011 6:55:37 GMT -5
Yeah she gave him one of those "its not you its me" things. Come on now, girls decisions lean towards what they where feeling in the moment, kinda the same as if you where feeling good you wouldve said sure. So why ask a girl out if your both in the middle of your exams and you know you can't go out and you can feel the vibe isn't the right one emotionally. Either that or "its not you its me", which means ... |
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Post by Contempt on Sept 10, 2011 14:37:04 GMT -5
it means she doesn't want a relationship, she just wants to fuck you on the side with no emotions involved. Atleast, thats how i'd take it cause i'm an ass.  |
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Post by jmac on Sept 10, 2011 14:46:16 GMT -5
it means she doesn't want a relationship, she just wants to fuck you on the side with no emotions involved. Atleast, thats how i'd take it cause i'm an ass. I wouldn't listen to this tool, he's using his imagination as if he HAD A CHANCE. He strays away from girls cause they make his heart pump faster  |
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Post by Contempt on Sept 10, 2011 15:06:18 GMT -5
it means she doesn't want a relationship, she just wants to fuck you on the side with no emotions involved. Atleast, thats how i'd take it cause i'm an ass. I wouldn't listen to this tool, he's using his imagination as if he HAD A CHANCE. He strays away from girls cause they make his heart pump faster Of course they do, it takes a lot of blood to make my 12 in dick hard. |
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Post by Sloth on Sept 10, 2011 16:40:36 GMT -5
no thats absolute bullshit, if a girl says she's not there emotionally BUT SHE WOULD GO OUT WITH YOU, she's not just telling you your not the one, it could easily mean exactly what i said. We can't read the mind of every girl, but setting the standard of advice at 'you're not the one' IS FUCKING BULLSHIT.
h's not pushing anything on her, you can't keep asking a girl out. But i know countless guys who've been in this position, an emotional problem has caused them grief and they can't commit to a relationship, oh and guess what, they're dating the guys who they couldn't commit to last year now. This ain't no fucking soap opera, but girls get their psychology from tv, they look and think 'on tv a girls dad died and her relationship fell apart' and subconsciously the problem is communicated in real life, they think they can't handle relationship.
I'm not saying that's always the case, it saying he's not the one is utter bollocks. and i'm not promoting 'oneitis', if i were him i'd still be gaming others and trying to branch out to all kinds of girls, but he can still get this girl.
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Post by looknlisten on Sept 10, 2011 17:39:27 GMT -5
Girls dont get their psychology from t.v stupid, if girls are emotional creatures and she says she's not emotionally available and your not hooking up with her then your just a friend. Stop being so soft, best advice for this dude is lead, lead the interaction instead of asking stupid questions, have fun with her, go out with you, her and friends, vibe and you won't even need to ask for her to go out with you cos the stage would have been set, she would be asking you its pointless settling down if your negotiating terms with her
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aussieenergy
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Post by aussieenergy on Sept 10, 2011 20:09:53 GMT -5
Exactly what I'm doing, and I think that quote worked :L
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Post by canadiankid on Sept 10, 2011 20:29:34 GMT -5
It could be one of two things
1) she's actually into you but shits going on in her life like Sloth said, or on a just as likely and related note she's scared of being hurt
2) she's rejecting you but trying to be nice like Savant
In a week or so you'll be able to tell by the way she acts. I know this sounds gay but look for IOIs in a week, cause right now her body language will be fucked while around you because as a teenage girl she will feel weird inside around you for a while
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aussieenergy
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Post by aussieenergy on Sept 10, 2011 22:10:11 GMT -5
okie dokie
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