Are You Introverted? -- Because I Am.

[milehighclubber]

I've just recently acknowledged the fact that I am an introvert. ;D

(fanfare)

TBH, I'm pretty proud of myself, considering how long it has taken me to realise without kidding myself anymore that trying to be more outgoing/adventurous (extraversion) is the de facto way to go. After trying so hard to be an extrovert like everyone else "should" be really did me a number. But since then I've tried to get back on my feet but not before hitting a few bumps on the way.

So I'm an introvert, but everybody knows old habits can stay sooner if not longer too. After being so used to the premise that extraversion is the way to go,

"I really have no idea of having to go about as an introverted PUA (if you want to call it that)."

What are your thoughts on this? Because the whole PUA scene tends to lean on the extroverts more than introverts, the ideas that came with that are still stuck to me.

Personally, I feel a lot better without having to fake my attitude just for the sake of socialising.

But seriously, thoughts? Or in this case, 'help'?

[looknlisten]

Become extroverted .. Fake it till you make it

[milehighclubber]

Not really what I had in mind bro. Gone through that way, not going back again.

If it works for you, great. For me, not so much.

[looknlisten]

I'm normally that way anyway .. I say fake it cos there's not much attractive characteristics of and introvert

[milehighclubber]

I beg to differ actually because most of the pupils in my school's student council are introverted, that includes me.

As it turns out, introverts are pretty good leaders and isn't being a good leader a trait that we all aspire to have? Not saying that I'm a great leader but you get the idea.

EDIT:
- A sentence didn't make sense

[DanZy]

Being introverted doesnt mean you're a good leader. Majority of good leaders I know are extroverts.
Savants saying that introverts have very few attractive characteristics, which is true. Introverts tend to be boring loners who don't associate with anyone. Personally, I love being by myself every now and then but put me in a room full of people and I'm the main attraction. Balance is key.

[gettingskills]

I am/was very introvert. My story is messed up. I live on this random island in the caribbean and the main language here is only spoken in 3 different countries in the world. Curacao, Bonaire, Aruba. They are right beside each other in the caribbean. Out of the 6 billion people we have, around 225000 speak this language. It is a moderately useless language. My parents are not from this island, so they dont speak the language. So i have to learn the language on the streets. When i was 6 years old we moved to europe for 1.5 years. So i forgot the language. And the we came back here. This whole dont speaky yo language thing messed me up bad and i turned into an introvert. I was in a football (soccer) team and they promoted me to the older better group. I was new. And for the weeks and months i went there they LITERALLY thought i was a mute, i never said a word. But about a year ago i changed that. I started approaching girls and try'd to pitch in the convo even more. If people im talking to switch to the main language here, i dont say a word and let them do there own thing. So i am known as the quiet one. But i believe you should become more extroverted. Cuz if not, then have fun waiting until a girl approaches YOU, but since your introverted they cant see much of your pesonality unless there talking to you. And since girls dont only judge on looks, dont expect to get approached anytime soon. Your gonna end up being that guy who has a few close friends, but wish you had even more. Introverts dont make good PUA, they dont help a party be even more awesome, introverts are just there. You dont have to be a Will Ferrel, but atleast try to do get more extrovert. You said you try'd extrovert and changed back to intro. What is there not to like about being extrovert, meet more people say a little more. Your just changing for the better. Its not like you just changed religion and didnt like it so you changed back.

[Shampoo]

Being an introvert means outside stimulus doesnt effect you. So usually their loners who keep to themselves. But within introverts there are different types.

[milehighclubber]

Oct 28, 2011 12:03:59 GMT -5 DanZy said:

Introverts tend to be boring loners who don't associate with anyone.

The thing is that we don't have the same mentality compared to extroverts but that doesn't mean that we're shy or don't like to talk. Pretty ignorant of you to say that man, I've been told that a lot of times

I love high energy places. Infact the bigger the crowd and the more anonymous I feel, the better.

Unlike most people, I feel really at ease in these places. It's like there's so much info to be taken in but I can ignore most of that, which keeps me calm and collected. I think this gives me an advantage over extravert people.

Lol, in the end I was expecting a bit of support for being an introvert and how I could use it to my advantage but it appears that there's no acknowledgement of that here.

www.carlkingdom.com/10-myths-about-introverts
www.theatlantic.com/magazine/archive/2003/03/caring-for-your-introvert/2696/

[looknlisten]

Its just that the definition of an introvert itself doesn't fit the characteristics of any type or style of person that's good with girls .. And its understandable, our cave man days say so, the female brain says so .. So you can't really go against it

[Adam]

Lol I made a thread awhile ago talking about me testing out the whole inrovert pua things. It is Here

Bottom line:

IT WENT GREAT (aka. made out with an HB8 and felt some massive titties)

Field Report

Looking back I wasn't very informative but you can take what you want from it.

[Shampoo]

Oct 28, 2011 19:01:37 GMT -5 @milehighclubber said:

I love high energy places. Infact the bigger the crowd and the more anonymous I feel, the better.

This would make you an Extrovert

[RMO]

personality types are... bullshit.

BUT if you are more low energy living in your head kind of fag rather then a super energetic outgoing douche, then your best bet is to create a strong inner reality.

You don't have to be loud and controlling to be alpha, in the end don't give a fuck about whatever you think you have to do, have some genuine fun, and escalate with all the hot bitches.

EDIT:

This whole thread is 100% gay, I'm surprised savant didn't troll it yet. Stop making excuses, accepting your introversion, and being retarded in general.

Look I'm an extrovert AND an introvert. I'm a leader and a follower, its all based on context, and THERE IS NO SUCH THING AS A FUCKING INTROVERTED PUA!

a pick up artist is a social plasma. This is a much nerdier metaphor then i wanted, but it works, he's fluid to the vibe, things just don't make him lose value, he's chill. On the same token he's fun, he provides value. This can be emotionally, intellectually, or through sheer drunken debauchery.

the 'way to go' is testing different approaches and going with the ones that work. This forum has our results and tips on this, but in the end, just go out and be yourself, and see whats holding you back, and whats helping you succeed.

[looknlisten]

Haha yeah dude, another mental debate thread .. Na I saw the amount of times its been read compared to the other new threads - like 100 .. People are interested in it I guess. Your right though. The way I see it is it doesn't matter if you are an intro/extro if you really have to reflect and look this deep into it then your gay. Its irrelevant to getting girls or living life, introverted pua ? Cool. Just take action, in the end of the day you will find your doing traits of an extrovert

[Adam]

I think this is less of a thread discusing intro vs extroversion and more of high energy vs low energy.

I also don't think this thread is pointless because what if your more introvert and try to do the high energy FUCK YEAH stlye of pua. First of all it wont work and you'll think somethings wrong with you. Second of all it will drain your energy ending up in you trying to take value.

So what I'm trying to say is: BE YOURSELF EVERYBODY ELSE IS TAKEN
-Oscar Wilde (I think )