new here, not sure what to say

[benny]

Ok, so, I'm Ben. I started on Sosuave, and that definitely opened up my eyes a lot. It's just a bit too street sarging orientated for my liking, this place seems more about opening up your social circle which is much more natural in my opinion. So, yeah. Hopefully I can get to know some of you guys

[Contempt]

welcome sire

[akpua]

You can start by telling us a few things, age/grade?
How experienced are you?
That sort of thing, tell us some of your strengths, weaknesses, goals.

I just started here as well so welcome.

[benny]

Well, I'm 15 in Year 10. I go to a pretty small school so my options have always been VERY limited. Strengths, well, I have been told that I'm good looking by girls before, I have a pretty developed sense of humour and natural comedic timing, I lift weights so im in pretty good shape. Weaknesses, I get very nervous around girls ive never met before. It becomes almost impossible to speak because my heart rate shoots through the roof and I start breathing really fast. It really gets to me and destroys my confidence. Experience wise, ive never really had a girlfriend. Yeah, thats me I guess.

[akpua]

So your whats called an AFC, Average Frat Chump. dont take that badly, we all started there. I know how you feel on the small town thing, its a big problem here in alaska as well. it helps to have a car to be able to go out places and meet girls.

As far as confidence goes, this is something most people pick up from practice, quite fearing the rejection and just try it out. Worst case scenario is shes not interested, oh well, go try again check out some of the posts, there are quite a few on the confidence issue, 'm sure we can get you helped out

You said youve got good humor, so when you approach a girl, use humor. Use your strong points to get a foot in the door, then practice your weak points on them. It's the only way to get better.

I reccomend a book by Niell Strauss called "The Game" It will give you as good introduction to being a PUA so that way you have a basic knowledge to work with.

[Michal]

Sorry man but he is not AFC if you want to use terminology. He is rAFC.

As he said, you must to try ,you must grow confidence. If girl is not interested she wont bite you,kick you or push you And if she is,wooow ,the best feeling on world(right after winning lottery,but this is something like winning lottery )

Humour is good,but tell the jokes with your smile on face. Smile everytime. Be the guy you see to have all girls. Be natural -> Change your mind to get girls so you will become natural ,its better than use routines,openers etc.

Get some friends which are better with girls than you,ask them for advice. Watch them gaming. Competite with them!

Yeah I used to tell everyone which wanted to help with girls to read The Game from Neil Strauss , its good reading. But it just help you understand which way you should go. It wont transfer you to beast.
Only thing which will help you mostly is...wait for it....Practice

[akpua]

thanks womanizer for the tip, I'm unsure of what rAFC is, please do inform me so I wont make another mistake in the terminology.

Also womanizer basically just took what i said and put it better. Many of the guys here are very experienced, so get out there read, and ask some questions. Someone will be able to help u, if not everyone.

[Michal]

rAFC is AFC which knows that he is AFC and he is trying to do something to change that

[canadiankid]

Fuck Labels. Your trying to define a person you do not know solely based on how well they can pick up girls.

@ benny - don't worry about labels like AFC, PUA etc, its just a limiting belief. You sound like a cool dude. Your still young, just practice my man. The more your around new girls (or girls in general) the easier it'll be to be yourself around them and bring out your good traits like humour.

Welcome

[canadiankid]

Also, don't read "The Game", its not in anyway shape or form applicable to high school. Perhaps "Conquer your Campus" would be better.

[Michal]

Hey man I know you are right,I was just correcting akpua

I can definitely say that The Game is great book, its great to read and it has nice story but its more like autobiography than manual. I know some good Slovakian and Czech books,but that wouldn't help you anyway so I think that Conquer your Campus which canadiankid has adviced to you will be good

benny you are totally in true when you say that this site is more about natural gaming. We were guys which tried to use canned routines,openers and so on. After a while many of us understood that much more better and easier way is just to act in some way which will get you girls.
That better then repeat after someone is to become one which is repeated by other.

Again welcome here and when you will need any kind of help you can PM me,Im there often in the same sequences

[benny]

Ok, thanks a lot guys. I started reading CYC two days ago, so hopefully I can learn something from that.

[Contempt]

Ok Wtf is happening to this place. Fuck all your terminology. Yes i understand what you were doing womanizer, no hate.

Although i gotta agree with Canadiankid on this. "The game" is shit in terms of PUA.

CYC is an awesome book. I read it like 3 times when i was starting out, so good pick man.

Books are great dude but the only way to overcome your nervousness with girls is to get out there and do exactly what makes you nervous. The more blown out you get, the better.

-Contempt

[akpua]

How about fuck all ya, high school puas sounded like a good idea since it fit the general situation, but you half ya are immature fucks. im out. once again, fuck all ya.

[akpua]

Oh and fuck canada, you bunch of faggots