URGENT How to bounce back and begin my journey...

[thecamdenslag]

The thing is i used to be popular, the center of my group. I used to arrange everything, do good with girls, get invited to everyones house-parties and shit like that. Like a twat on my 14th birthday i decided to invite everyone to get totally shit-faced with me .

If your wondering why its cos i was extremely depressed as my dad, the alcoholic fuck (not the nice alcoholic fuck), who forgot my birthday while getting drunk at home (spending my mums hard earned money and shouting at her and shit). I know i was stupid but i felt i had reason to "go off the rails". I ended up downing two bottles of vodka, passing out in the middle of a park (all my mates were standing there wondering wot to do), getting hypothermia due to high alcohol levels in my blood, breaking my collarbone by doing some drunken back-flip of a wall (i know...LOL) getting rushed to hospital then dying (not so much LOL)...for 8 seconds... luckily resuscitation did its job and i was alive...just.

My "friends" got more concerned with whether they were gonna get in trouble (the feds were involved) than whether i was gonna be okay. Word somehow got round my school and rumors started to spread. one was that i told police that my friends spiked my drink (which is fucking ridiculous as i drank pure vodka and boasted drunkenly to the ambulance people) So everyone started to hate on me...not even to my face. i returned to school after an exclusion and a lecture from police to find everyone pissed at me. I told them the truth and after a while they finally believed me and they said sorry for talking shit behind my back.

But since then my part in the social circle has slowly drifted further and further away. Iv come from being at the top to being at rock bottom. They all go out and hav fun but don't invite me. They aren't doing it to spite me but since i was grounded for ages and had to refuse loads of invites they just slowly stopped inviting me. I seem to have lost respect and am no longer the amog. The group has grown rapidly recently and i feel if i do not socially rank up it will become too late. Im not saying iv got no social life, i hang out almost every weekend with my peeps from another school (and have scored sum pretty hot babes ) but i feel its important to make the most of school while im still there. To try and meet mutual friends to gain status and just to hav fun. I know before, i was acting like a stupid dick. But i feel iv matured since then and i just want to improve myself to be the best i can be. Just to be as successful as i can be in everything.

What happened was a real blow on my confidence and i fell from a great height in self-esteem. A lot of my people skills have gotten rusty and i feel my inner-game has been fucked. I need to move up on the social scale but its kinda hard when your in my position. I looked at the articles in the social circle but i feel kinda confused with what i should do .

Please could someone giv sum guidance? im really keen on this pick up shiz, not just to hook up with girls but to feel better about myself and be better with people. Im determined to make this work and i think i have potential, i just need a helping hand

Cheers

xXCamdenSlagXx

[Luis the awesomest of awesomes]

Well first off i think that you should just find new friend trust me I know it sucks but it's necesary.
and more importantly, SOCIALIZE with everyone I MEAN EVERYONE. im sure you will meet new friends in no time

[Sloth]

Finding new friends is fine, but if you're saying 'forget about it and move on' then i gotta disagree

Arrange an event, invite all of the old group, but none of the new guys that have joined recently.
Make sure you have a good night out, and make them a little guilty for not seeing you enough, like 'it's good to see you guys again' - but don't sound too needy. Be alpha the whole night to, like your old self.
When the nights going on/ending, bring up that you should all meet up again soon, and see what everyone thinks, keep arranging these events until your back in.

I know sometimes, when you see everyone, it's hard to get a word in. So here's what i do, and it usually works a treat
Think up a good little story, that will keep people interested and has a good ending - not too long, and start t elling the story, from there you have the chance to get into a covnersation
If you don't know where to start find the alpha female, the one all the guys won't leave alone and tell it to her.

For example i had a story about how id woken up for skl 5 minutes before i usually leave, and my friend was the one picking me up. - Now this story sounds pretty boring, but believe me, i can tell a story like this, stretch it out and make it very funny. Practise your story telling.

Anyway that's what i'd do. You've deffinitely got to remain alpha, which can be awkward to get into, but is actually easy.

Good luck, and don't be such a dum ass next time..