Say hello to worst case scenario.

[wetrytoohard]

The 15 year old nightmare. Worst case scenario.

"How bad? oh it can't be that bad," you say.
This summer has consisted of me sitting inside playing videogames. I wouldn't say I'm unattractive, I just cannot talk for the life of me.

I've made 1 approach in my entire life. It was a K-close, but I'm pretty sure it's only cause we were both drunk. After, the girl obviously had no interest in me and I actually ended up pissing her off a week or two later, got declined twice.

I have a huge, no, gargantuan problem with inner game. I have approach anxiety like no one ever. I know some basic concepts and canned shit but if I can't open a single fucking conversation they all are useless.

Inner game is sort of alright when I'm under the influence. I actually know that I have good kino, I just don't have the guts to do it when I'm anything less than drunk.

I tried every goddamn AA cure in the book. Well, not really, I had too much AA to try them.

Anyone think they can fix it? Ha.

[jaycp]

just gotta put yo self out there man. Go in with the mind set that youre the shit. you gotta REALLY believe it though. Works for me! no more AA (mostly :-P)

[RedDog]

Dude, so do I! I play videogames all the time haha

There is no such thing as Approach Anxiety. It's basically your body getting you excited for the approach.

One thing I've learned is to really just Go out there and get experienced. My first rejection was sooooo bad lol but I ended up laughing it off(I laugh off all rejections now, therefore I never get rejected in my mind) So once you see it isn't that bad, you'll realize "Oh wow, This is easy."

It's easier said than done but you can only learn so much until you have to start applying what you have learned.


Good Luck.

[OHM]

Pushing your comfort zone to it's limits and beyond is one of the hardest things to do, but the only way to get in, is to jump in with both feet.

[Alek]

Alcohol is not a proper way of handling approach anxiety...weed is.

lol jk. But yeah man, ohmega hit the nail on the hit. You gotta push your comfort zone, and look at ways into doing so. You gotta go out, just open anyone...guy or girl, young or old. And build from there. Try saying hi to every girl you see at the mall.

But ill tell you something that makes me feel cool. Is peacocking. When you dress like a rockstar, and people take notice i always like that attention. And its always important to keep your style up to par. So if you need help on that, feel free to talk to me on aim: alekallen

Once when you get over image and look stylish and desirable, and get over approaching, you can be more at ease.

And as far as lifestyle goes, look into whats going on in your town. And build from there. If your into music, figure out whos playing where, and where the concerts are. If your into chicks (I hope so!) find out a good chick spot (like beaches). You just gotta find something that interests you, and flow with it. Your defintly more limited if you dont have a license, but you sure as hell can make it work. And thats what is important for you man, building a lifestyle.

[wetrytoohard]

Thanks guys for your response.

Pushing out of my comfort zone has always been too fucken scary for me. I try to rationalize (whatever, i dont even know this girl, it wont be embarrassing) but I still can't do it. My limiting mind builds up disqualifiers for any girl I look at.

Alek, my style and attractiveness are not what I worry about. I've actually gotten a lot more comfortable about that, and even think of myself now as moderately good-looking.

It's just that I'm freaked out about running out of stuff to say, stuttering, looking like an idiot or creep, and stuff like that. I can't do AA exercises or jump in with both feet because of it.

[enigma]

Hey don't worry I pretty much have been doing nothing for the last 2 weeks except playing video games...and doing school summer work. For awhile it kinda shot my confidence to hell but then I just went out with some friends last night and realized I was still fine. I actually think school starting again is gonna help me out because I have nothing to do right now.

As for the AA it's just something you gotta get over. I once made a metaphor about AA that involved a swimming pool. You're either the guy who jumps right into the pool not caring if it's cold, or the guy who goes in one step at a time, hesitating and complaing that the water's too cold.

Well that's my two cents

[Alek]

^ dude, I GET THE SAME THING. Like fuck man, when im home doing nothing for a while...my confidence is like shot too. But then when I go out, ill laugh at myself because im the kind of person who would streak down a street naked and not care. But if i stay inside, my mind gets fucked. But when i go out, i feel fine

weird huh? Im glad to know that im not psychotic, and other people are the same way

[lilprodigy]

if ur confidence s realy low try talking to realy old people it always helps me. A few days ago i was practising and some 55 year started giving me ioi's. I didnt kino but a got her number. anyway it realy helped my confidence.

[Alek]

omg lol

[zegoni]

Think of Nike: Just do it.
Think of the consequences:
What's the worst that could happen? - If you're very fucking rude, you could get slapped. Otherwise, just a rejection. We all get rejected.

What's the best that could happen? That's up to you. Maybe, right now, the best that could happen is a smile from her, I don't know. Maybe some kino, mild escalation or a #-close.

The ONLY TWO things you should have in your mind is:
Your main focus & NOT BEING OUTCOME DEPENDANT!
Outcome dependance kills your game. Destroys it like a sledgehammer hitting the skull of your game. It's gone if you do so.
Rawr

[Storm]

Ok,
I would say that the most important thing to keep in mind is definitly:

That as soon as you see a girl that you want to approach DO IT. use the 3 second rule. Otherwise your going to build up anxiety and never actually approach her. Don't think about the consequences. Honestly, who cares if she rejects you. There are millions of girls out there that are just as if not hotter than she is. I cannot emphasis it enough how important it is to approach immediately. Not only does it minimize anxiety, but it lets her know that your not that pussy across the room who keeps looking at her but is too scared to approach.

Just my 2 cents

[ridiculous]

Wow this thread is like a year old haha

[perceverance]

i personally think the "im the shit" mentality helps a little. but the true secret is: just do it. dont even think about the results. JUST FUCKING DO IT. thats my mentality anyways.