WHY AM I AN AFC??

[Grape]

Aug 29, 2009 2:29:47 GMT -5 @cork said:

The problem, it feels like, is that I'm peering with my nose pressed against the glass at a world of people who do what i've always dreamed of doing, and make it look like they're tying their shoes, it's so easy. I have no problem walking up to a set and opening. I can get to where I sit down and talk. I can strut up to a girl, smile, say "hey, whats up" or "hi i'm Truett"(my name) or any other pathetic, plastic line, but every single time, i get fried, because i don't know how to read the god-forsaken language.

The aforementioned mall girls sought ME out. and not because I'm some kind of AMOG, and not because I made them feel special, but because they liked my shorts, and later discovered that my hair and eyes are even better.

I'm gifted with looks, and have exceptional skill with words, but I ice out whenever I try to shine, because I can't read the cues and duly react.

And therein lies the rub. That's where I need help.

If this is your true problem, then you've got a problem with your confidence.

Read up on IOIs (which can be found on this very forum), Approach Anxiety (as it's closely tied with sexual escalation anxiety).

[Lego]

Aug 28, 2009 1:23:47 GMT -5 @cork said:

Next thing I knew, I found myself making out with both girls at the same time.

Holy shit dude thats your answer right there, you're definetly not an afc.

But i totally see why you feel like one, i actually got the same problem. See there is a huge difference between feeling like an afc, and actually BEING an afc. Just like there is a huge difference between KNOWING how to get girls, and actually getting the girls, understanding it etc.

See the books will teach you the stuff, after reading and watching courses alot, you will KNOW how to get girls, you will feel like you know exactly what to do. If all you've done is reading books then you got nothing, you may have an advantage but you dont got anything to show for untill you've gotten yourself out there and started sarging your ass off. (i'm actually in this situation myself)

It's the only thing that take you past that glass you're talking about, and also destroying that feeling of being an afc you have, get out there and practice, In Field Practice.

When it comes to your feeling of being an afc, you shouldn't worry about it, it's just an expression. It doesn't mean anything.
But either way stop thinking about it because you are not an afc.

[zegoni]

The only way to succeed, is to practice. You don't practice by reading books at home, wishing you were somewhere else. You gotta stay real with yourself too, and live now. If you wish you were somewhere else, you're not 'here'.

As it's been said, it seems like you lack confidence. The only help I have is to run some textgame to 'train' your confidence. I know you only need a little (if any) confidence to run some cell/cell game, but you push yourself more and more, and you know you're ready when you can create some massive attraction that way.
You be sure you CAN be real if you ever gotta meet the girls you've been attracting - and that's the hardest part. It'll fail the first... many times.
Good luck!

[jaz]

what's an afc?