terabate
Newcomer
Posts: 7
Registered: Mar 12, 2010 1:06:33 GMT -5
|
Post by terabate on Apr 1, 2010 13:17:53 GMT -5
Ok, so basically my parents make me go to church. Our church has a fairly large youth group of 150. It's also not what you might be picturing right now. It's basically a party every week with a 1/2 hr sermon. There are guys who purposely peacock and yell and such to look cool. And it works. I've been really shy and timid the last 2 years, but I want to change that. My question is can I quickly become the amog with a personality shift or will I come across as incongruent? Would it be better if I just cut my losses and switch churches and start over? A few of these guys I could swear have read pua material because they conciously purposely use some of these tricks. What's your thoughts guys?
|
|
owl
Newcomer
Posts: 32
Registered: Dec 21, 2009 23:47:26 GMT -5
|
Post by owl on Apr 2, 2010 2:13:07 GMT -5
Hmmm well sudden changes in personality usually aren't good, it can be different for every situation. Experience talking here: I tried to go from quiet and timid to more outgoing, with mixed reactions from everyone. In the end it worked out for the better, even though I got some flak shot at me for the change, I just ignored it.
Being outgoing is never bad, but if your personality change is SO significant and in the slightest for the worse, people are going to notice and call you out on it. But they will get used to it. Make them get used to it. Make that personality yourself. Try to be friends everybody and the peacocks. Then it should be all peachy.
Don't give up the fight, just step outside your comfort zone. You got a golden opportunity, with that many people.
|
|
|
|
Post by wespeezy on Apr 2, 2010 10:44:32 GMT -5
this isnt young life or k-life is it?
|
|
terabate
Newcomer
Posts: 7
Registered: Mar 12, 2010 1:06:33 GMT -5
|
Post by terabate on Apr 4, 2010 22:58:12 GMT -5
young life, k-life?
|
|
Johnny Bravo
Extremely Active Member
Posts: 1,078
Registered: Dec 23, 2008 13:03:27 GMT -5
|
Post by Johnny Bravo on Apr 4, 2010 23:04:10 GMT -5
My thoughts are you know to much kid.
You shouldn't know terms like that if you can't even manage to fake an alpha male role. No offense, I'm just saying you read to much.
just do it. Stop reading until you see some results. If you read how to survive on a island, when would you use it if you live in a desert?
Don't post again, until you've gotten some decent IOIs from being an alpha male.
|
|
|
|
Post by breakthrough311 on Apr 6, 2010 17:01:29 GMT -5
it's all about coming out of your shell man. i used to be so deep in mine that i couldn't interact with people and i'd sloth around. now i can talk to anyone pretty much. (well with limits). i just eventually overcame it.
don't approach it like some people do and become a complete asshole, just try to make alot of friends and talk with people it's not so bad, it's actually easy.
if you see somebody texting in church or school, just start with a "tsk tsk you shouldnt be texting!" and have your phone sitting on your lap. people are just like you.
if you don't try you have a 0% chance at success.
if you try, your odds could go anywhere from 1%-200% (yes it's possible)
|
|
