Why I Won't Let Myself Be a PUA

[sylar]

I have a problem.
I'm a little embarassed about it...
I have...premature EJECTulation.

I've been leaving sets right after my opener...for a few weeks now. It's really starting to bother me. So I looked deep inside myself, figureatively of course, and I realized that I have some major limiting beliefs. I've been working hard the past few days to correct them and I've made major progress. But I can't seem to do anything about my biggest limiting belief when I'm in set: I'm just bothering these girls.

It comes up EVERY TIME. This is the one thing that I've targeted as the major belief holding me back. I'm trying affirmations, but is there anything else you'd suggest?

[Rusty]

'I'm just bothering these girls'. Man, that is SO wrong. Good work on identifying it though. But seriously, why would you be bothering the girls? You need to realize, that you are an absolute gun. Your a legend. You can offer these girls something no one else on the planet can. If you were hanging out with your boys and Heidi Klum said hi to you, would she be bothering you? No. Shit, even if you were doing something important you'd probably drop it. Why? Because she can offer you something amazing. Because she is valuable. And you know what? So are you. I think the issue here is that you don't think you a cool enough guy. Which is ridiculous because you are man.

[Johnny Bravo]

Being pickuped properly is a privledge

[Volt]

Whenever I dress up in my peacock gear I feel like I'm a different guy, like I matter, and that these people want my attention. Call it superficial, but get some new clothes and see how they make you feel.

[Luc]

fuck dude people want to talk to you
you are bothering by leaving, not by opening

[SenorBubbz]

Luc just said something extremely smart. Accept his words!

[Luc]

Damn right i said something smart!
Now go fuck some women!

[Alek]

go see a doctor...

haha jk. Gay stole the words right out of my mouth...

Man you just gotta know that your the highest valued guy at any given place. You are the most interesting guy that they will meet. And you have tons of fun value to give, and people will seek your validation.

You gotta get over your demons dude. What is more scary? The fear of not getting any. Or the fear of trying, and crashing?

If you dont shoot, you wont win.

Now go get em tiger!

[dante3x3]

this was my problem back in the day.
i would open wonderfully, and then i would just..... freeze
all of my pua would fly out of my head, and i would have no idea what to do
so i would eject
i got over it my memorizing, like a script, what i had to do
step by step, having game plans like: opener- neg. and then opener, neg, dhv, eventualy working my way up to seduction.

[panaboy]

i'm actually going through this too, it sucks. It is just the worst feeling in the world when you don't know what to do in set. another bad habit of mine is that i keep the smile throughout the set and it appers tryhard, but whatev

[Volt]

Don't script things, just fluff talk when you don't have anything to say.

[Paetar]

I've just heard a 40-minutes audio done by Sinn. A guy had the same problem about limiting belief so here is Sinn's answer (actually):
1. See why it's wrong. Try to just write 3 reasons why is that belief crap.
2. Look for incongruities. Whenever you see that someone IS enjoying your companionship, make a mental note. You'll be surprised to see how many people actually like talking to you.
3. Relax. Be comfortable in that position. Hell, you open so well so it's not a problem to get another set. Don't be a pussy and hang in the next set until they reject you ("make the ho say no").
4. And start doing things that help you, even with that belief. You think that you're bothering them? What is the opposite? Making them laugh? Having an interesting conversation? Adding value to their night out? DO IT.

[Volt]

3. Relax. Be comfortable in that position. Hell, you open so well so it's not a problem to get another set. Don't be a pussy and hang in the next set until they reject you ("make the ho say no").

Makes me think. Next time you're in an anonymous situation, get blown the fuck out. Try to escalate WAYYY too quickly and see how long it takes for them to really get mad.

[curlyhairedbastard]

Dude, people are social beings; we all love to talk and be heard. So look at it like this, either you pick up properly and she is welcomed in your world. You both get what you want and everything is fine.

or you fuck up and make a douche out of yourself, ya' know what? it's perfectly fine because in the end your giving her a story she can share with other people. the only time your wasting by not talking to anyone is your own.

[Grape]

"stick your tongue down her throat" - Robocop