jaycp
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Post by jaycp on Feb 5, 2009 23:51:32 GMT -5
I hope you guys are ready for a challenge. I am a High School Senior. Just turned 18, has never touched a woman. I don't even that many female friends. I come before you because I want to start living. I don't wanna look back and regret that I didn't go to any high school dances. I think I am an alright kinda guy. I'm pretty happy with myself (except for the social aspect). I can do fine with cracking jokes in class, etc. But my social skills need help. One on one conversations with me get awkward pretty.... quickly. So think you guys can help out with my total transformation? How long's the transformation process usually take anyway? (Hopefully I can get a date for Prom too)
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jeez
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Post by jeez on Feb 6, 2009 0:25:28 GMT -5
dude im pretty sure i can help you with social problems. Not to be cocky but i have been pretty popular all my life although one on one talkin with a girl was my biggest set back before the pua community. basically when you talk about something dont make it trivial as that gets old and boring. You can really chose any topic(even boring ones) as long as you make it fun/funny. Dont overexaggerate too much because its sounds very tryhard and you come off as an idiot. Try to be laid back yet still engaged and laugh and smile. Also build on the conversation dont bring in new topics randomly or you cant have a real intimate conversation.
if you have any more question just ask
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Grape
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Post by Grape on Feb 6, 2009 15:03:32 GMT -5
welcome to the community bro.
let me first start off by saying that you are not alone. your challenge isn't something we haven't encountered before, there are many people with the same problems you have. so we can help you out easily =]
and, the community is not a place for a quick fix or an easy lay. it's really about letting you become a part of the social flow, getting laid just like others, etc. and making you really become one of the 'cool kids', which i know is an ugly term to use, but it's the only term there is to classify the people.
the transformation is probably going to take 1-2 years. but you'll start getting results within a matter of 2-3 weeks. you'll be able to kiss girls, get a few lays, etc. but until you've hit that 1-2 year time, you won't be a natural, because it takes time for people to truly change.
I hope you stay around man, looking forward to see how you turn out. <33 Grape
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sunny321
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Post by sunny321 on Feb 6, 2009 15:42:32 GMT -5
Welcome to the community man. I can see myself in you. 6 months ago i had less than 10 friends and ZERO girlfriends. I wasn't even into the friend zone. Last two months i improved a lot. It's kinda a happening too fast for me. I made two girlfriends, who are very crazy about me. I now have to balls to talk to ANYONE. My body language is very solid too; i think so caz whenever i walk in the hallways, most of the girls looks at me. I talk a lot more, my English improved significantly. All within two months, a little more maybe. goalsof2009.blogspot.com/Keep an eye on my transformation, checkout my weekly blog. If you believe that you are capable of doing something, than you will be able to do it. Stick around, checkout the articles and read the three MUST books(i saw the link somewhere in this website), practice and ask questions.
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SamethP
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Post by SamethP on Feb 7, 2009 16:07:59 GMT -5
welcome to the community conversation is simple once you get the basics. what i did, i stopped worrying about what i said, and put more focus on how[/u] i said it. if you hold your frame then no matter what you say will DHV you heck, if said right, you can tell girls to go away and they will stand closer xD good luck man
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jaycp
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Post by jaycp on Feb 10, 2009 20:18:20 GMT -5
alright, can anyone point me into the direction of starter materials?
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SamethP
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Post by SamethP on Feb 11, 2009 2:23:53 GMT -5
*points at grape*
get a copy of "the game - neil strauss" "conquer your campus" ummm, those are just my two favourites, but there are plenty more that i cant think of right now x]
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Rusty
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Post by Rusty on Feb 11, 2009 8:10:48 GMT -5
Hey man! Dude, don't worry. Last year, I was worse then you. I don't care how bad you were, I was worse. Like WOAHHHH! worse. Urgh, I was disgusting. Anyway. Give it 3 solid weeks of change, you'll be miles from where you are now. You WILL have a date for prom if you apply yourself with this. Conquer your campus is great, read that first. Work on some social circle expansion first, concentrate on getting more friends in general, especially friends that are girls. Then work the friends you make. Add me smiie_man@hotmail.com and we'll talk on specifics and stuff. Good work man, you'll do well =D
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jaycp
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Post by jaycp on Feb 15, 2009 22:25:36 GMT -5
Wow, I've only been exposed to this stuff for a few days, but already it feels like it's taking effect. However, being in the zone is still a toughie. It's easier when there is someone with me that I know. When meeting with a group of total strangers, I act all quiet and inhibited (this semester I got into some merchandising/design class and the teacher puts us all into little groups/tables).
Anyone have advice for getting me to be like how I am around buddies in this situation?
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Grape
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Post by Grape on Feb 15, 2009 22:40:00 GMT -5
Smile, crack a few jokes, have fun. =]
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jaycp
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Post by jaycp on Feb 27, 2009 1:41:52 GMT -5
I kinda just wanna hang out with new people. The group I hang with at lunch has gotten kinda boring ever since my best friend moved schools. Moving up the social ladder is hard... Pointers, anyone?
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nutrick
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Post by nutrick on Feb 27, 2009 2:10:44 GMT -5
Welcome to the forum! just have fun, be that fun guy during class, don't care what others think about you, be your best self. it takes patience, practice, and definitely time. just a couple, also check out "social circle game" on the home page, you'll find what you're looking for there.
Cheers, Patrick
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amantheman
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Post by amantheman on Feb 27, 2009 13:56:07 GMT -5
This is helpful depending on where you're at. www.tsbmag.com/2007/12/11/how-to-be-popular-in-high-school/As for having the conversations getting awkward, it really helped me to pace it. Instead of rushing through the conversation and filling EVERY silence just slow up a bit. Alot of guys have the tendency to just rush through social interactions; whether its the cashier at mccdonalds or the cute chick your trying to game.
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jaycp
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Post by jaycp on Feb 28, 2009 3:04:03 GMT -5
Oh, I met a girl at a convention on Wednesday and she gave me her AIM. Is there any guide for seducing over the internet? ;D
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Grape
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Post by Grape on Feb 28, 2009 13:35:52 GMT -5
Talk to Gay if you want cyber sex and shiz.
Talk to me if you want to day 2 her and start a relationship.
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