Post by Grape on Nov 8, 2008 19:56:01 GMT -5
The Game
Concept: The game is played by a constant breaking and making of rapport.
A typical 'PUA' method is to meet a group of people, break rapport with a 'target' while making rapport with the rest of the 'set'. This will not only make the target feel shy and awkward, but RELY on the PUA to make the rapport and give validation. With this power, the PUA gives the illusion that the target is slowly winning him/her over. Ohh yes, it goes both ways.
Examples of concept:
Have you ever met a person who would constantly switch from being nice and flirty to evil and wicked? This is something called push-pull. This will not only confuse the person being push-pulled, but will drive that person crazy and crave for the artist's full attenion, validation, and rapport.
Applying the concept:
To successfully "open & hook" a set, the PUA approaches with the belief and projection that he is someone who has a life of more value and excitement than the set, breaking rapport. He has created the illusion that his survival value is better than the set's so now the set wants to keep him around and earn his rapport, thus boosting their own egos and survival values.
If the PUA approaches with the belief and projection that he is someone who has a life of less value and excitement than the set, the set will not want him because:
1. He's a stranger who has no rapport with them.
2. His own rapport is not of value to them.
Become the rockstar, the celebrity, the player, the pimp. Become the one who has power over others and makes his own decisions in life.
Creating the Illusion of Having A High Survival Value
Concept: Illusion is the act of taking an audience's focus away from one thing and towards another.
The PUA has mastered the art of illusion. He can control the focuses of others and direct them towards his values.
The values he aims to portray are all part of this: He will take the audience on a pleasuring thrill ride they have never experienced before.
Examples of concept:
Have you ever seen a person who was ugly, short, fat, and completely unattractive?
Did you ever end up losing some of the girls you were hanging out with to him?
Were you wondering why?
It was probably because he showed that he didn't care about his looks and directed the girls' attention towards the values that were attractive about him.
Applying the concept:
The PUA doesn't reveal himself more than he needs to in order to 'hook' the set or audience.
He only gives them a glimpse of the real deal, thus sparking something called ATTRACTION.
Only once that people are attracted to the PUA does he build rapport with them and boost their egos and survival values.
In order to give oneself the value he needs to be powerful, he must use the tools of the trade that've been made over the hundreds of thousands of years of human past.
On approach, the PUA focuses on:
- Vocal Tonality
- Eye Contact
- Body Language
- Smiling
- Weasel Statements
- Negging, Teasing, Bantering, Disqualifying
Vocal Tonality
The tonality of one's voice tells a lot about that person. If the tone is weak and struggling, it shows that the person has little confidence and power over himself and the people around him. The PUA has a tone that is strong, loud, confident, masculine, deep, and soaring. Become the PUA.
Eye Contact
Making eye contact with others without flinching shows that one is not afraid of the others' validation towards him. The PUA can give many looks to others that show that he validates them, rejects them, looks down at them, respects them, and more. Make eye contact with the people within a set. It will convey dominance, leadership, and power.
Body Language
If you're slouching right now, take a big breath, stick your chest out, and breathe with your stomach. Not only will this portray confidence without words, but will also strengthen your vocal tonality. If you approach with a totally inconfident body posture, people will know that you are not confident with yourself and will shut you down.
Smiling
Smiling shows that you are someone who is social and is comfortable with your surroudings. Having an over-friendly smile will convey neediness, but a nice confident smile will be attractive and valuable. Smile as you socialize. It's a must.
Weasel Statement
In order to approach a set, the PUA must have a reason. Those reasons are called 'openers'. They are pre-made lines that have been field-tested and are known to work. The openers themselves don't matter so much, but they are used to give the PUA an opportunity to show off the values about him such as his voice, body language, smile, eye contact, etc. The openers are every day questions that are interesting to talk about. Don't say things like "Hi, you're extremely beautiful." It shows that you are desperate for the others' value and rapport. Say something that doesn't put the attention on the target. Say something natural and something a high value guy would do such as "Hey guys, do you think I look like I play in a band?"
The replies will be sincere and committed if you portray the other values on approach.
The replies will be effortless and awkward if you don't portray the other values on approach.
Negging, Teasing, Bantering, Disqualifying
These are things that only a person with high value would do. He intentionally points out things that embarass the target and make her feel lower value to him. If this is done to an attractive girl with ten guys surrounding her, she will get very curious as to why you aren't acting like every other guy and craving her rapport. Don't be so obvious and stupid as to say "You're stupid and ugly and fat." It's immature and try-hard. The art of teasing and bantering is to be humorous and 'unintentional' while making the target feel shy and low value. Look into the works of Mystery for more explanations and examples.
Once again, these attributes are essential in order to have power and control over a group of people. Use these tools to your own benefit and become successful.
Rapport Guide
Concept: Defining rapport and how it's built through FOCUS.
Rapport is the feeling of comfort with others.
To have something in common with someone is to have a feeling of "one-ness" with that person.
So the more one mirrors and shows that one is very similar to one's mark, the more rapport the mark will have towards one.
It is achieved when people have commonalities in things like:
- Lifestyles
- Events/Situation
- Social Circle
- Emotions
- Kinaesthetics
- Body language
- Vocal Tonality
- Gender
- Ethnicity
- Beliefs
- Personalities
It is very easy to build rapport. Since the conscious mind can only focus on one thing at a time, the sub-conscious mind figures that what ever it is focusing on is pretty damn important.
Everyone has so many things in common with each other. The only difference in the levels of rapport are the amount of knowledge and focus that one has on another.
Examples of Concept:
Have you ever felt like you knew someone you just met really really well? It's because you guys had direct rapport! There are many factors that contribute to rapport and sometimes you and the other person could have totally different lives. This is because the focus was NOT on the things that were different, but the things that were common.
You could go to a different classroom or lunch table and you would feel VERY uncomfortable because you would have no rapport with anyone!! That is until someone 'breaks the ice' and builds rapport!
You could find a girl very attractive and pretty, but you guys may have almost nothing in common with each other as where you may find that you and a normal pretty girl to have many things in common. Which one would you date if you were to? I'd say the normal pretty girl.
Applying the concept:
So now you must know how to bring another person's focus on the commonalities that you guys share.
This is done through: socializing!
Just talk about something you did the other day, while intentionally knowing that the other person has done something very similar to it.
Talk about the feelings you got, the way your mom yelled at you, the way a friend made you mad, and something that almost ANYONE has experienced!
This way, it doesn't matter who you are talking to, because that person has experienced the same thing you have whether you and him like it or not!
Not only this, you can also 'mirror' the other person's body language, breathing rates, facial expressions, moods, vibes, voice tonalities, and just everything that the person is showing directly.
The point of the system is: Focus not the differences, but on the commonalities that you share with another person.
As stated before, you need to first break rapport and build value. Only once you do this and attract the target can you start building rapport and emotional connection with her.
<33 Grape
Concept: The game is played by a constant breaking and making of rapport.
A typical 'PUA' method is to meet a group of people, break rapport with a 'target' while making rapport with the rest of the 'set'. This will not only make the target feel shy and awkward, but RELY on the PUA to make the rapport and give validation. With this power, the PUA gives the illusion that the target is slowly winning him/her over. Ohh yes, it goes both ways.
Examples of concept:
Have you ever met a person who would constantly switch from being nice and flirty to evil and wicked? This is something called push-pull. This will not only confuse the person being push-pulled, but will drive that person crazy and crave for the artist's full attenion, validation, and rapport.
Applying the concept:
To successfully "open & hook" a set, the PUA approaches with the belief and projection that he is someone who has a life of more value and excitement than the set, breaking rapport. He has created the illusion that his survival value is better than the set's so now the set wants to keep him around and earn his rapport, thus boosting their own egos and survival values.
If the PUA approaches with the belief and projection that he is someone who has a life of less value and excitement than the set, the set will not want him because:
1. He's a stranger who has no rapport with them.
2. His own rapport is not of value to them.
Become the rockstar, the celebrity, the player, the pimp. Become the one who has power over others and makes his own decisions in life.
Creating the Illusion of Having A High Survival Value
Concept: Illusion is the act of taking an audience's focus away from one thing and towards another.
The PUA has mastered the art of illusion. He can control the focuses of others and direct them towards his values.
The values he aims to portray are all part of this: He will take the audience on a pleasuring thrill ride they have never experienced before.
Examples of concept:
Have you ever seen a person who was ugly, short, fat, and completely unattractive?
Did you ever end up losing some of the girls you were hanging out with to him?
Were you wondering why?
It was probably because he showed that he didn't care about his looks and directed the girls' attention towards the values that were attractive about him.
Applying the concept:
The PUA doesn't reveal himself more than he needs to in order to 'hook' the set or audience.
He only gives them a glimpse of the real deal, thus sparking something called ATTRACTION.
Only once that people are attracted to the PUA does he build rapport with them and boost their egos and survival values.
In order to give oneself the value he needs to be powerful, he must use the tools of the trade that've been made over the hundreds of thousands of years of human past.
On approach, the PUA focuses on:
- Vocal Tonality
- Eye Contact
- Body Language
- Smiling
- Weasel Statements
- Negging, Teasing, Bantering, Disqualifying
Vocal Tonality
The tonality of one's voice tells a lot about that person. If the tone is weak and struggling, it shows that the person has little confidence and power over himself and the people around him. The PUA has a tone that is strong, loud, confident, masculine, deep, and soaring. Become the PUA.
Eye Contact
Making eye contact with others without flinching shows that one is not afraid of the others' validation towards him. The PUA can give many looks to others that show that he validates them, rejects them, looks down at them, respects them, and more. Make eye contact with the people within a set. It will convey dominance, leadership, and power.
Body Language
If you're slouching right now, take a big breath, stick your chest out, and breathe with your stomach. Not only will this portray confidence without words, but will also strengthen your vocal tonality. If you approach with a totally inconfident body posture, people will know that you are not confident with yourself and will shut you down.
Smiling
Smiling shows that you are someone who is social and is comfortable with your surroudings. Having an over-friendly smile will convey neediness, but a nice confident smile will be attractive and valuable. Smile as you socialize. It's a must.
Weasel Statement
In order to approach a set, the PUA must have a reason. Those reasons are called 'openers'. They are pre-made lines that have been field-tested and are known to work. The openers themselves don't matter so much, but they are used to give the PUA an opportunity to show off the values about him such as his voice, body language, smile, eye contact, etc. The openers are every day questions that are interesting to talk about. Don't say things like "Hi, you're extremely beautiful." It shows that you are desperate for the others' value and rapport. Say something that doesn't put the attention on the target. Say something natural and something a high value guy would do such as "Hey guys, do you think I look like I play in a band?"
The replies will be sincere and committed if you portray the other values on approach.
The replies will be effortless and awkward if you don't portray the other values on approach.
Negging, Teasing, Bantering, Disqualifying
These are things that only a person with high value would do. He intentionally points out things that embarass the target and make her feel lower value to him. If this is done to an attractive girl with ten guys surrounding her, she will get very curious as to why you aren't acting like every other guy and craving her rapport. Don't be so obvious and stupid as to say "You're stupid and ugly and fat." It's immature and try-hard. The art of teasing and bantering is to be humorous and 'unintentional' while making the target feel shy and low value. Look into the works of Mystery for more explanations and examples.
Once again, these attributes are essential in order to have power and control over a group of people. Use these tools to your own benefit and become successful.
Rapport Guide
Concept: Defining rapport and how it's built through FOCUS.
Rapport is the feeling of comfort with others.
To have something in common with someone is to have a feeling of "one-ness" with that person.
So the more one mirrors and shows that one is very similar to one's mark, the more rapport the mark will have towards one.
It is achieved when people have commonalities in things like:
- Lifestyles
- Events/Situation
- Social Circle
- Emotions
- Kinaesthetics
- Body language
- Vocal Tonality
- Gender
- Ethnicity
- Beliefs
- Personalities
It is very easy to build rapport. Since the conscious mind can only focus on one thing at a time, the sub-conscious mind figures that what ever it is focusing on is pretty damn important.
Everyone has so many things in common with each other. The only difference in the levels of rapport are the amount of knowledge and focus that one has on another.
Examples of Concept:
Have you ever felt like you knew someone you just met really really well? It's because you guys had direct rapport! There are many factors that contribute to rapport and sometimes you and the other person could have totally different lives. This is because the focus was NOT on the things that were different, but the things that were common.
You could go to a different classroom or lunch table and you would feel VERY uncomfortable because you would have no rapport with anyone!! That is until someone 'breaks the ice' and builds rapport!
You could find a girl very attractive and pretty, but you guys may have almost nothing in common with each other as where you may find that you and a normal pretty girl to have many things in common. Which one would you date if you were to? I'd say the normal pretty girl.
Applying the concept:
So now you must know how to bring another person's focus on the commonalities that you guys share.
This is done through: socializing!
Just talk about something you did the other day, while intentionally knowing that the other person has done something very similar to it.
Talk about the feelings you got, the way your mom yelled at you, the way a friend made you mad, and something that almost ANYONE has experienced!
This way, it doesn't matter who you are talking to, because that person has experienced the same thing you have whether you and him like it or not!
Not only this, you can also 'mirror' the other person's body language, breathing rates, facial expressions, moods, vibes, voice tonalities, and just everything that the person is showing directly.
The point of the system is: Focus not the differences, but on the commonalities that you share with another person.
As stated before, you need to first break rapport and build value. Only once you do this and attract the target can you start building rapport and emotional connection with her.
<33 Grape