candyviper
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Post by candyviper on May 11, 2011 21:17:44 GMT -5
Hey guys, this is the problem that caused me to look into the high school pua community. So there is this girl, bet you didn't see that coming did you, and i have this problem. I was texting my friend when she gave the phone to her friend, she started txting me on my friends phone and we kind of hit it off. It was goofy fun stuff about how she was a strong lady knight and I was the Man in distress. We had never met but we kept txting back and forth for a couple days. I had avoided her in the halls a couple times to try to prevent awkwardness and this had been communicated to her. She expressed dislike at the fact that I was avoiding her and then eventually we met briefly and we said hi, talked briefly, and left. This is when our "relationship" started kinda going downhill. One day I started txting her and unfortunately I was the only one asking questions so the conversation kind of died out. I had attempted to expand on similar interests but it didn't really work out. She later told my friend that I had problems with "small talk" and that was the problem. Fast forward a week and we've met a couple of times and apparently she thinks that I'm pretty awkward. The thing is, I'm normally not awkward but I kind of get anxiety around her and I don't know how to start/continue a conversation. I made the mistake of telling her that I think shes really pretty as the reason for my being awkward, in a text no less, and the brief conversation that ensued was about how I needed to be less shy. The thing is, this girl is SMOKING and seems really really nice, just my type. I've never had a girlfriend or even kissed a girl. What can I do to try to fix this situation and maybe escalate it. I only see her briefly before school and then through texts but I think that I would be able to see her more often if i worked it out. We have one really good common friend and I am a Sophomore in High School. Any help would be greatly appreciated.
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Post by taxman on May 11, 2011 22:05:42 GMT -5
This sounds kinda rough but dude its not gonna happen, your post smells of pusification. We or rather I can't help you. Your asking for this one specific girl. You can't even be confident around her,you can't start a conversation with her, you haven't had the experience, you value her more than your own pride. And even if someone here gives you some help and maybe some things to say or do, because of your inexperience your gonna fuck it up along the way or even worse get your heart smashed. Your not asking how to become good with girls, your begging for a shot with a girl. Dude to be completely honest its not gonna happen I'm a 100% sure. But maybe you can get your first kiss from her I dunno, do what you have to do and then come back and Speak to the specialists about getting started
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infamous93
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Life is easy.
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Post by infamous93 on May 11, 2011 22:06:59 GMT -5
I'll be honest here, I don't see a way you could make good of this situation.
"The truth may set you free but first its going to piss you off."
One of my favorite quotes right there.
If you still want to get with this girl severe all connections to here until you got your shit together then talk to her again
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candyviper
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Post by candyviper on May 13, 2011 16:30:31 GMT -5
Thanks guys, I pretty much figured I had no chance. So now I guess I basically just won't talk to her. Maybe say hi in the hall but other than that, no contact? It won't be too hard because we have no classes together and summer is coming up. I have time to work on my game. Thats my goal this summer, that and get buff, I'm hoping to live at the gym basically
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lindsay62
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andrew made me pick this one... hes very demanding.
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Post by lindsay62 on May 19, 2011 7:21:20 GMT -5
nonsense, i can help you fix it. awkward guys can always make a turn around. i remember not being interested in andrew at all in high school even after we had had classes together but once he showed me how confident he was and that he wasnt intimidated by me but rather humbled me a bit, and by that i mean he just shit on me about little things haha, we hit it off. this situation is totally salvageable. you just have to prove your worth. boost your own confidence and put yourself out there. a lot of "relationships" start off via electronics because its easy for ppl to hide behind their words on a screen. truth is, she probably did the same thing. if you show her how confident you can be in person and take initiative, you'll be golden
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Post by Andrew on May 19, 2011 8:22:03 GMT -5
Whats going on in here? oh sorry my ears were ringing
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lindsay62
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andrew made me pick this one... hes very demanding.
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Post by lindsay62 on May 19, 2011 8:24:09 GMT -5
andrew, only respond if you have something to add. and no, that does not include your egotistical comments
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RMO
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Post by RMO on May 19, 2011 14:41:38 GMT -5
Wow, I had to stop reading a good three seconds in, I'm just going to quote the parts that are a bit off, and see if I can see what the problem is.
" It was goofy fun stuff about how she was a strong lady knight and I was the Man in distress."
"I had avoided her in the halls a couple times to try to prevent awkwardness"
"This is when our "relationship" started kinda going downhill."
"She later told my friend that I had problems with "small talk" and that was the problem."
"but I kind of get anxiety around her and I don't know how to start/continue a conversation."
"I've never had a girlfriend or even kissed a girl."
"What can I do to try to fix this situation and maybe escalate it."
So this is the cut version of what you were talking about. I feel your pain man, this focus on the one girl is very detrimental, and I'm sure most of us on the forum have been here in one way or another. But even though I have experience with this situation, doesn't mean I can offer you a magical solution. There is no magical bullet that will fix your problem for you. Every man ever born is naturally good with talking with women and escalating, its in your genes, but sometimes, scratch that, most of the time, your head gets in the way, so heres my advice on the situation.
Have fun. What is fun for you? Is being awkward fun? for me it can be depending on the tension, but by the looks of things you dont like it, so stop. Dont give a fuck about the consequences, just have the best possible time for YOURSELF. The solution to your problem is escalation, you dont even have a fucking relationship with this girl, like at all, you NEED to escalate, at least socially if not seductively, to even have a situation or a relationship.
In my opinion, and I could be terribly wrong, your incredibly outcome dependent. You rely on what she thinks, what people thinks, what you will get in the end. you need to understand that there are plenty of girls out there, more then plenty, infinitely more girls then you will ever meet in your entire life, and just because this girl tripped a switch for you, doesn't make her that special, not until you actually get to know her. So dont avoid her, thats not nice, dont be a bitch, accept the awkwardness, accept that underlying tension, and just fucking go for it, and most importantly of all, have a good time.
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bbunny
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Post by bbunny on Sept 25, 2011 10:12:02 GMT -5
Well, IMHO you should talk to the girl and not give a shit about what she thinks, just be in your own state of mind and be confident, if she rejects you, you have learned, if she takes a liking to you, escalate and let it go from there. but it's bad to have "One-Itis" so go out and game some other girls this weekend or during the week and then see if she seems so special, then you can talk to her confidently because it's not all riding on that 1 special girl anymore. Just my opinion though.
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auroturtle
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Post by auroturtle on Sept 25, 2011 11:09:28 GMT -5
you do realize that "this week" was over 4 months ago...
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Post by looknlisten on Sept 25, 2011 12:51:47 GMT -5
Hahahaha
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