fanofterps
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Registered: Feb 3, 2014 21:59:54 GMT -5
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Post by fanofterps on Feb 4, 2014 19:09:51 GMT -5
I've heard a million times that you should ask questions about people like what, how, and why questions. I know you can't talk about the other person the whole time and it should not become an interview.
So far that advice has been unhelpful and the only thing i find that works is starting off by talking about myself which gives this feeling that it is wrong.
What do you guys find helpful in opening a girl up to talking that works best for you and can actually attract her?
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derekk
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Registered: Feb 26, 2013 20:09:11 GMT -5
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Post by derekk on Feb 4, 2014 19:43:42 GMT -5
do what you want
remember that you can get away with talking about boring stuff as long as youre holding eye contact and talking in a confident tone.
I honestly have no fking clue what I usually talk about. I just start speaking and den i go wit da flow.
make sure you wait a few seconds before commenting or responding to what a girl says too. Get used to doing that, it gives yourself time to ask a question or comment on the fact, and it also builds tension between you two.
for example
girl: yeah, i had a soccer game earlier... blah blah blah *wait like three seconds* you: you must have very strong legs
here.
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Post by amarok on Feb 4, 2014 22:55:19 GMT -5
You're problem is that you're framing the conversation as you talking to her. You shouldn't be talking to her. You should be conversing with her. Talk with her about things that interest both of you. This is how you create comfort and attraction; make connections that interest both of you and conversation will flow naturally.
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