Post by Grape on Feb 19, 2009 17:52:36 GMT -5
PSYCHOLOGY
(pseudo)
I. Introduction
Guys need the confidence to talk to girls. Where does confidence come from?
The more one knows about something, the more confident he gains about the topic. For example, a person is not confident he will do well on his math test. He studies for several days, and then he is fairly confident that he will do well on his math test. Another example, a child has no idea what to do in order to ride a bike. He's gut nervous about falling and is not confident about his bike-riding abilities at all. But once his dad assists him and gives him knowledge on what to do, he is confident and can ride his bike without a problem.
So, how does this all fit into pick up?
Well, many of you are not confident with society, women, or people in general. The more you learn about society and the more correct things you apply to yourself, the more confident you will become and you will be able to pick up women and be a social guy in no time. I will give you the knowledge that will boost your confidence in this project.
Hope you enjoy.
<33 Grape
II. Psychology of Why This Works
a. You become sexual with women
A big problem with many AFCs is that they just aren't comfortable with their sexuality around women. They get nervous that they might get rejected and that they may creep the girl out. AFCs has beliefs that women are not sexual for the most part, that they are innocent and young, and that they don't like being sexual around most guys unless they're 'special'.
Well this piece will be explaining why these beliefs are wrong and it will go through what beliefs really ARE true and are in the minds of women.
b. You naturally have value
Hey, after you understand how the women think, shouldn't it be natural that you learn to become their ideal lover? I mean this thing will be going through what they want and what they don't want. It's only common sense that you become the things that they want.
c. You don't feel confusion of who you are
Many AFCs are used to fitting OTHER PEOPLE'S STANDARDS. They constantly change who they are, what their hobbies are, their social circle, and their entire lifestyle. They just don't feel a sense of self. This is because OTHER PEOPLE control their life. They don't have the confidence or knowledge to take charge of their own life and do it successfully. This piece will go through how naturals think, why exactly they know how to control their life, and much more. You will learn that having a solid identity will be critical when it comes to meeting people and befriending them.
III. Psychology of Why Routines Aren't Effective
a. Spending Time Memorizing
If you've taken the route where you spend a ton of time memorizing little 'esp routines' and 'negs' and 'openers' and so on, you probably know what I mean when I say that it's a pain in the ass having to spend time memorizing these lines. Hey, look at it this way.
There are billions of people out there getting laid right now. Did every single one of them need to memorize esp routines to get laid? NO!!! This article is here to get you thinking on the correct path of becoming a normal guy who happens to be good with women, without faking his words, without having to be a slave to material and canned routines. You can save this time and do something better with your life. =]
b. A Feeling of Fakeness
Like I have just mentioned, PUAs who rely on routines always feel fake. They don't feel congruent with what they're saying. They feel confused with who they are. They're still faking themselves to fit standards. They waste time learning 'magical lines' that supposedly help get a women to come to bed with them. Would you rather spend the rest of your life memorizing routines, or coming up with your own while just simply HAVING FUN and enjoying yourself with other people? I rest my case.
c. Incongruency
By now you should have gotten the point that routines will make you feel incongruent. You are using stories and material that are not for the type of person you are! You start getting confused. And as I've said many times before, IT'S NOT HELPING YOU WITH STRENGTHENING YOUR IDENTITY. Identity is vital. It brings out congruence and passion. It's VITAL.
d. Gaming without Routines: Understanding Women, Natural Game, Lifestyle, etc.
So now some of you may be asking.. Okay, routines aren't the best solution to pick up, then what is?
I say natural game. Not only do you save time, but you learn to enjoy life, love your lifestyle, passionately be active in your hobbies, and be able to NATURALLY attract women. That means you don't have to fake yourself anymore and change yourself to meet women's standards.
These will strengthen your inner game, confidence, identity, and much more.
How does one become a natural? Mostly through trial and error. But I'm here to give you a boost with that. Enjoy.
As I've mentioned in the intro, knowledge and understanding leads to natural improvement of a subject. I'll be giving you the knowledge you need about women AND the knowledge about how naturals view the world and how they think.
IV. Psychology of Women
a. Women Love Sex
Okay, let's start off with clearing up the biggest misconception of all. WOMEN LOVE SEX.
They are human too. They naturally want to have sex with guys. They really want it just as much as guys do.
Shocking? I mean after all, we've learned in school that women don't like to be touched, they don't like to be teased with their sexuality, and that they only have sex with guys they feel are 'special'. They also teach that Guys are more sexual than girls and that guys are the more perverted ones.
Wrong. You want proof?
Look at girls. Honestly, look at them. How much make up are they wearing? How tight are their jeans? How nice is their hair? How fit are their bodies?
Do you think it takes no effort at all for them to dress pretty into extremely tight pants and that it takes only a few seconds to get their make up perfect along with the stuff they do to their hair?
I mean girls have this weird 2-hour thing they do every morning where they shampoo, condition, use straightening cream, dry, straighten, spray, and finish up.
THAT'S just the HAIR! Imagine how long it takes for them to choose what looks good with what, how much mascara they should wear, the eyeshadow, eyeliner, the lipstick, lip gloss.
Girls really have to put effort into looking cute for us guys. And ask yourself, Why do girls put in all this effort to look cute?
Many reasons. Here are some big ones:
- They want to get laid
- They want to be loved
- They want attention
Whoo!!! Starting to make sense? When I first found this out I actually felt really bad for women and I respected them soo much for trying so hard to get a few "You look nice today" comments. They really want a guy to love them and they really want to get laid. The proof is right in front of you.
"But wait.. if girls love sex soo much, why do they rant so much about how sex is for sluts and how girls who have sex have no class at all?!!"
It's very simple actually. I'm sure you've learned this already from the community, but the term 'slut' came up from women to threaten each other because the one who had sex may have stirred in jealousy, insecurities, and feelings of loneliness.
It's EXACTLY like how kids call each other spoiled when one of them gets something more expensive for Christmas.
Let's say Bob gets an X-Box 360 for Christmas and Joe gets a pair of socks.
Joe will get jealous and angered, so he'll say that Bob is a spoiled rich kid and that he's stupid.
Well hey, let's say Mary gets laid by a guy and Katy sleeps alone that night.
Katy will call Mary a whore because Mary got some action that night as where Katy slept alone, lonely and craving to be with a guy.
So now you know. Girls call each other sluts out of their own pure jealously and insecurities. That's all there is to it and nothing more.
b. Women Have It Harder Than Us
Many people think that women can get laid without any effort at all and that guys need to work hard as hell to even get anything at all. This belief my dear friend.. is bullshit.
Women actually have it harder than us. And here's why:
1. They need to work hard to look good.
(As mentioned in the above article.)
and the biggest reason:
2. They are bombarded by the 'slut' deal.
Women don't just have sex with anyone. They need to make sure they can trust their partner won't go around saying "Yeah.. she's a slut. I just met her five minutes ago and she was really easy to bang. She has SLUT written all over her."
Because think about it.. how many guys are considered AFCs when you go out? About.. 80% right? I'd say so.
So that means the majority of the guys really don't understand what's going through a girl's mind because of the fact that they really don't give a shit and they just want some pussy.
Well... if the girl just goes "Okay! Let's have sex!" in the first moments of meeting an AFC, what'll he think?
"Oh wow.. Girls don't usually do this. Something not right here. Oh well... even if this chick IS A SLUT, I'm still getting pussy. Ohh man, I can't wait to tell my friends."
Then he tells his friends, they call the girl a slut, word gets out. Now the girl's reputation is completely ruined because of wanting to have sex just as much as the guy did.
Now do you see why it's VITAL that you show her that you can be someone who she will be able to trust? Do you realize what could happen to her if she just goes around having sex with anyone she finds cute?
I thought you would.
c. Women Will Kiss For The Kiss
So now you understand how hard it is for women to go out and get some action. How do you think they feel about their situation?
They are probably DESPERATE for sex. Heck.. they might even go out to a party, get drunk, and finally get laid. And end up making excuses like "Well.. I was drunk."
But deep inside, they're happy as a duck. Their big desire to make love is finally fulfilled after all that tension was building up inside them.
But should drunk sex really the only way for girls to get laid withOUT having to experience the slut effect?
Of course not.
Just remember, girls are always desperate for some action as much as guys and have this overwhelming desire. THIS is why girls have such a sexual mind-frame. THIS is why girls try to look as hot as they can without coming off as slutty.
They really want a guy to just fuck the shit out of them.
They want a guy who they can blame if something goes wrong or someone starts saying shit.
But this is just a fantasy for them as much as it is for guys to wish they could just fuck the shit out of a cute girl.
However, some fantasies do come true. A friend of mine and I went up to random girls and asked for a kiss. The girls that didn't have many friends around greatly complied. The girls that were running their own form of social game, getting value, being cool gave us funny stares and gave us kisses on the cheeks. Great, right?
This was proof to me that girls are plainly sexual and that they will Kiss for the Kiss.
It won't matter who it's with as long as the person she is kissing is someone who can amaze her just by asking for a kiss.
She really wants that kiss. She just can't be the one asking, due to the slut effect.
So ask girls to kiss! They'll say yeah!
d. Women Want To Be Dominated Over
Branching off from the previous article, I'd like to announce the belief that WOMEN WANT TO BE DOMINATED OVER!! They just want to be controlled and lead on an experience of extreme passion and emotion. That emotion will probably be something such as the one from drama, humor, fun, pleasure, sex.
You must understand that women are NATURALLY followers. They'll follow whatever leads them to having the biggest emotional sensation even if it's a pointless dramatic argument.
Think about it. Isn't it only nature that MEN protect their families and lead them to a bright future and that WOMEN nurture their families while letting the MEN lead them through their amazing life? Look at families today even. Although there are some divorces, single-parents, MOST families have a dad who works and leads the family and a mom who watches out for the children.
This is proof that women will be active followers, they will be active on whatever activity they are doing, but that activity will be decided by someone else, probably a man.
I'm trying my best not to come off as a sexist. Please don't be thinking "Wow... women are pathetic." Because they're not. They're not better than you, but they're not worse than you. I'm merely trying to explain what NATURE has shown us within the past millenniums.
The point is.. that YOU are a MAN. and MEN need to be LEADERS. They need to LEAD WOMEN into an emotional adventure. Don't rely on a woman to be making decisions. She wants YOU to make them. So if you want a kiss, don't wait for her to kiss you. You need to kiss her.
If you want to date a girl, don't wait for her to ask you out. Ask her out.
e. Women Respect Men More Than We Think
A big problem with many guys is that they're always asking themselves, "Why isn't she trying to kiss me or touch me or impress me!?" They think that women are being stuck up, bitchy, or harsh but in reality, they're showing a big deal of respect and validation!
Once a PUA starts to recover, he will encounter this situation many many times. This is because he'll be at the level where he really can attract girls, but he just doesn't know what the next step is.
When enough attraction is built, a girl won't do anything! Really!
Some may come sit next to you, but they'll just sit there and wait for something to happen.
The recovering PUA is doing the same thing. He wants his target to do something first.
This is horrible because both people are thinking "Umm... does s/he really like me? Am I making a mistake?"
I've mentioned in the post above that men are leaders. Most men need some validation before doing anything, well here it is. When women do nothing and are intentionally standing very close to you or sitting right next to you, they are trying to say, "Well.. you've officially woo'd me. Now what are you going to do with me? Take me on a fucking adventure."
If you just sit there like a statue, she'll get confused and leave.
However if you initiate fun conversations, ask her on a date, play little tickling games; she'll get exactly what she asked for. She wants YOU to lead.
So when a girl does nothing but be close to you, it's not a sign of toying around with you, confusing you, or acting all stuck up. It's a sign that she respects you, she's attracted to you, and that she wants you to take her on an adventure.
V. Psychology of Naturals
My definition of a Natural: The guy you see who always has the attention on himself, the guy you see who is surrounded by girls without even trying, the guy you see who is always making others laugh and have fun.
This is character I am going to talk about. Not the highly moral father figure, not the honest church goer. Enjoy your read.
a. The Point of Life is to Have Fun. (Pleasure <- Ego Boost <- Survival Value)
What's your goal in life? Is it to get laid? To become president of the USA? Become a rockstar?
Whatever it may be, there is one very important goal that everyone shares,
and that is to Have Fun.
Having fun is something that will naturally boost your value and make you more successful and happier in life. Here's why;
Many PUAs believe society is based off of survival value and replication value.
And that survival value is gained through ego boosts.
Well, ego boosts are most efficiently gained through having fun and being fun!
What other way is there? Do you really want to have to 'manipulate' people and treat them like shit using canny negs just to boost your own value? Do you really want to go into a public forum that's trying to HELP YOU, and just act like an ignorant asshole to everyone?
Of course not. People want love. So what better way to boost your value (and others!) through having a good time?
So just by having fun, you will naturally have a healthier life and become a more attractive person.
Now, some of you may be thinking "Nice. So if I want to be cool, I just have to have fun?"
Yes that's exactly it. But what is your goal in this situation?!
Is it to be cool or really to not give a shit and HAVE FUN?
Cool has soo many contradictions to it because some people say being overtly mature is the cool thing to do and others say maturity doesn't matter and that even acting like an immature 5th grader is fine as long as it's fun.
So please don't focus on cool. Your subconscious mind won't be able to act congruently with itself. Focus on really having fun. Fun is something that makes you smile and laugh and feel happy. It's not something that makes you want to be accepted in society or whatever.
It's showing that you don't care what others think because you control your own life and this world is yours for the taking. Anyone that wants to avoid your world of fun is really stupid and much more immature than you.
This is how the natural thinks.
"So.. you're saying that naturals can have immature fun and still get laid?"
Well.. yeah!
As long as it's not completely annoying and repelling, it's fine.
Many AFCs think that weird lawyer jokes are funny and that overtly violent video games are funny, like when someone's head blows off from a grenade.
This my friend, is not funny to mainstream society. It may be funny to all the nerds, but as you keep improving yourself, you will start to notice why so many people think it's weird that you find such things funny. Why is this?
Well you really have to learn to put yourself in other people's shoes. It's something that every natural knows how to do.
They're thinking "oh wow. this kid is really screwed up. if he likes to blow people's heads off in video games, what are the chances he'll be a violent person in general?"
And violence isn't fun. It's annoying, disgusting, and really pathetic.
So it's self-explanatory what exactly is funny and what's not. Please don't think like a retarded child, think like a normal child. This is really hard to explain in words, just please don't be stupid when you apply this concept. PLEASE DON'T BE STUPID.
b. Lifestyle
Naturals have this lifestyle where they are always socializing with others. Always.
This is why having "texting" is soo important and that keeping up with others through Facebook, Myspace, etc. is vital.
They always have 5-10 people that they talk to daily as close friends, and another 5-10 people to talk with maybe a couple of times every 2-3 weeks, like people they've just met.
If you have the ability to text, own a Facebook profile, whatever, DO IT. You're shooting yourself in the foot by not talking with others when you can.
Also, naturals are always making plans with people. They're always saying things like "Let's hang out soon." or "I want to see you soon!"
They always have something to do. They're never just sitting and waiting for something to happen. They know what they want and they don't waste any time doing it.
If they're in the mood to hang out with a close friend, they'll hang out with a close friend.
If they're in the mood to go on a date with a girl, they'll go on a date with a girl.
If they're in the mood to just sit back and relax, they'll sit back and relax.
They control their life. They don't rely on others to make them get what they want. They do it themselves.
So remember, a natural is always socializing whether it's through texting, online, calling, or just simply hanging out with people. So start doing it!
c. Natural Traits
A natural doesn't make sacrifices. At all. He always puts himself first before anyone or anything else in the entire world. He'll do what will benefit him the most, even if it will hurt others. This is why most naturals never pay you back for the $10 you loaned them.
However if it involves something like killing someone, he will probably not do it because it will keep him from benefiting himself because the police would be after him. (self explanatory)
He won't EVER change his beliefs for others. Once he makes a decision, he'll stick with it and won't give a shit what you think about it unless you're offering him advice as a true friend.
He knows he's cool. He knows he's the shit. But he knows that showing off will make him lose his value. He knows that cool people don't talk about how cool they are. They don't talk about how much friends they have or how much pussy they get, unless it comes off as intentionally funny.
He doesn't freak out. If he smells something bad, he'll ignore it until someone else brings it up. If he sees a waiter dropping a glass cup in a restaurant, he'll pretend like nothing happened. This is because such things are not important to him. He simply doesn't give a shit. He'll judge and say to himself "I better not hire HIM if I ever open a restaurant." But he won't make a big deal out of it like "Oh my gosh! That guy just broke a cup! Ohh man he's fucked now!"
If he bumps into someone, he doesn't go "Oh gosh I'm sorry!" He'll say "Hey." and continue walking. If he spills some coffee on his shirt, he doesn't freak out and stop talking about his important story, he'll continue to talk just the way he was and simply dab something on the spill.
It's just not a big deal.
He doesn't get nervous about approaching people. He doesn't care if they like him or not, he'll get what he wants and if they act stuck up to him while he's trying to have fun, he'll give them the face that says "Haha, fuck you. I'm still having fun! You can't change me! Nananana-booboo."
He will lie if he has to. The truth really doesn't matter for naturals. They just care about if telling the truth will hurt them or benefit them. So if they have to lie, they will.
He knows how to put himself in other people's shoes. He knows how others feel. He knows what to say, how to say it, where to say it, and when to say it. He knows that he will come off as creepy in some situations and he'll know exactly how to make it seem like he's actually the coolest guy in the earth.
d. Personality
If you have not gotten the 'big idea' about naturals yet, it's the fact that they are very very egotistic. Some you may be thinking "Wow.. this isn't natural, this is an asshole."
You are wrong my friend.
Think about every natural you have met that gets laid a LOT.
He really is a bit of an asshole isn't he?
I mean.. every natural I've met.. EVERY NATURAL I've met is an asshole in many ways.
He is a really fun guy to be with and he's always giving off good vibes, but he's the type of person who won't care if you forgot your lunch and need some money to borrow. He won't commit to you. He knows people a little too well and the fact that the MAJORITY of people won't pay others back. There are the few that do pay each other back and are respected for that. But these guys are seen as 'suckers' when it comes down to the point where YOU yourself need some money for lunch.
NATURALS AREN'T PERFECTLY MATURE, WISE, SMART, CARING PEOPLE.
There is a big line of difference between them actually. So many people have gotten naturals and alpha males confused with nice, honest, hard-working people.
Being a nice and honest guy is really cool and many people will respect you for who you are. But a natural isn't him. A natural won't be the one who helps you up when you fall unless he's trying to show off 'how sweet he is'. A natural won't be the one you can truly rely on to do the favors that only true friends do for each other. A natural isn't someone you can rely on.
He's egotistical and if there's no gain for him, he won't do it.
But he's not thinking "I'm a big asshole." This is just the mindset he grew into, he can't help it. It just NATURALLY happened.
He knows he's hot, he's awesome, and that he's fun.
So here's what it really comes down to:
Do you want to be an egotistic natural who happens to be a LOT of fun to hang around with and get lots of pussy
or
Be a generally fun person who has a lot more morality than a natural and still be able to pick up women but just not as easily as a natural himself?
It's your choice. I am merely explaining the natural's psychology.
e. Modeling The Successful
Naturals do what works best. Ever since they were little, they have been surrounded by opportunities that they took and figured out what kind of person to become.
They were naturally generally successful in socializing within a matter of time.
They stayed away from what made them look bad and always kept to what made them look good.
They grew into this natural life of success in socializing since they were a child.
And even today they are constantly experimenting to see whether doing something will make them more attractive or less attractive.
My natural friend got a girlfriend and told her in the start of their relationship that he was a virgin.
After 3 weeks, he says "I've actually had sex 7 different times."
This was a lie, but he convinced her and he hoped that this would make him a much more attractive person.
Boom, they break up. He goes "aww this sucks. oh well, i've been wanting to date this other chick lately.. blablabla"
and then he nevers says the "i've had sex 7 different times" line ever again. especially after saying that he's a virgin.
The point is that NATURALS ARE STILL LEARNING.
They always do what works and always avoid what doesn't work.
My natural friend grew up on Fresh Prince of Bel Air during middle school. He would always use lines from Will Smith and always act just like Will.
Will was a natural on the show.
My friend was now a natural in real life.
My other natural friend grew up with an older brother who was a PIMP.
The older brother was his biggest influence. He acted just like him, used his lines, etc and eventually my friend also became naturally very attractive.
All naturals model what works. They always do what's successful.
This is probably the most important trait of the natural because it will NATURALLY make you become more successful in life.
I hope you guys liked this read, please comment on it, share your thoughts, etc.
<33 Grape
(pseudo)
I. Introduction
Guys need the confidence to talk to girls. Where does confidence come from?
The more one knows about something, the more confident he gains about the topic. For example, a person is not confident he will do well on his math test. He studies for several days, and then he is fairly confident that he will do well on his math test. Another example, a child has no idea what to do in order to ride a bike. He's gut nervous about falling and is not confident about his bike-riding abilities at all. But once his dad assists him and gives him knowledge on what to do, he is confident and can ride his bike without a problem.
So, how does this all fit into pick up?
Well, many of you are not confident with society, women, or people in general. The more you learn about society and the more correct things you apply to yourself, the more confident you will become and you will be able to pick up women and be a social guy in no time. I will give you the knowledge that will boost your confidence in this project.
Hope you enjoy.
<33 Grape
II. Psychology of Why This Works
a. You become sexual with women
A big problem with many AFCs is that they just aren't comfortable with their sexuality around women. They get nervous that they might get rejected and that they may creep the girl out. AFCs has beliefs that women are not sexual for the most part, that they are innocent and young, and that they don't like being sexual around most guys unless they're 'special'.
Well this piece will be explaining why these beliefs are wrong and it will go through what beliefs really ARE true and are in the minds of women.
b. You naturally have value
Hey, after you understand how the women think, shouldn't it be natural that you learn to become their ideal lover? I mean this thing will be going through what they want and what they don't want. It's only common sense that you become the things that they want.
c. You don't feel confusion of who you are
Many AFCs are used to fitting OTHER PEOPLE'S STANDARDS. They constantly change who they are, what their hobbies are, their social circle, and their entire lifestyle. They just don't feel a sense of self. This is because OTHER PEOPLE control their life. They don't have the confidence or knowledge to take charge of their own life and do it successfully. This piece will go through how naturals think, why exactly they know how to control their life, and much more. You will learn that having a solid identity will be critical when it comes to meeting people and befriending them.
III. Psychology of Why Routines Aren't Effective
a. Spending Time Memorizing
If you've taken the route where you spend a ton of time memorizing little 'esp routines' and 'negs' and 'openers' and so on, you probably know what I mean when I say that it's a pain in the ass having to spend time memorizing these lines. Hey, look at it this way.
There are billions of people out there getting laid right now. Did every single one of them need to memorize esp routines to get laid? NO!!! This article is here to get you thinking on the correct path of becoming a normal guy who happens to be good with women, without faking his words, without having to be a slave to material and canned routines. You can save this time and do something better with your life. =]
b. A Feeling of Fakeness
Like I have just mentioned, PUAs who rely on routines always feel fake. They don't feel congruent with what they're saying. They feel confused with who they are. They're still faking themselves to fit standards. They waste time learning 'magical lines' that supposedly help get a women to come to bed with them. Would you rather spend the rest of your life memorizing routines, or coming up with your own while just simply HAVING FUN and enjoying yourself with other people? I rest my case.
c. Incongruency
By now you should have gotten the point that routines will make you feel incongruent. You are using stories and material that are not for the type of person you are! You start getting confused. And as I've said many times before, IT'S NOT HELPING YOU WITH STRENGTHENING YOUR IDENTITY. Identity is vital. It brings out congruence and passion. It's VITAL.
d. Gaming without Routines: Understanding Women, Natural Game, Lifestyle, etc.
So now some of you may be asking.. Okay, routines aren't the best solution to pick up, then what is?
I say natural game. Not only do you save time, but you learn to enjoy life, love your lifestyle, passionately be active in your hobbies, and be able to NATURALLY attract women. That means you don't have to fake yourself anymore and change yourself to meet women's standards.
These will strengthen your inner game, confidence, identity, and much more.
How does one become a natural? Mostly through trial and error. But I'm here to give you a boost with that. Enjoy.
As I've mentioned in the intro, knowledge and understanding leads to natural improvement of a subject. I'll be giving you the knowledge you need about women AND the knowledge about how naturals view the world and how they think.
IV. Psychology of Women
a. Women Love Sex
Okay, let's start off with clearing up the biggest misconception of all. WOMEN LOVE SEX.
They are human too. They naturally want to have sex with guys. They really want it just as much as guys do.
Shocking? I mean after all, we've learned in school that women don't like to be touched, they don't like to be teased with their sexuality, and that they only have sex with guys they feel are 'special'. They also teach that Guys are more sexual than girls and that guys are the more perverted ones.
Wrong. You want proof?
Look at girls. Honestly, look at them. How much make up are they wearing? How tight are their jeans? How nice is their hair? How fit are their bodies?
Do you think it takes no effort at all for them to dress pretty into extremely tight pants and that it takes only a few seconds to get their make up perfect along with the stuff they do to their hair?
I mean girls have this weird 2-hour thing they do every morning where they shampoo, condition, use straightening cream, dry, straighten, spray, and finish up.
THAT'S just the HAIR! Imagine how long it takes for them to choose what looks good with what, how much mascara they should wear, the eyeshadow, eyeliner, the lipstick, lip gloss.
Girls really have to put effort into looking cute for us guys. And ask yourself, Why do girls put in all this effort to look cute?
Many reasons. Here are some big ones:
- They want to get laid
- They want to be loved
- They want attention
Whoo!!! Starting to make sense? When I first found this out I actually felt really bad for women and I respected them soo much for trying so hard to get a few "You look nice today" comments. They really want a guy to love them and they really want to get laid. The proof is right in front of you.
"But wait.. if girls love sex soo much, why do they rant so much about how sex is for sluts and how girls who have sex have no class at all?!!"
It's very simple actually. I'm sure you've learned this already from the community, but the term 'slut' came up from women to threaten each other because the one who had sex may have stirred in jealousy, insecurities, and feelings of loneliness.
It's EXACTLY like how kids call each other spoiled when one of them gets something more expensive for Christmas.
Let's say Bob gets an X-Box 360 for Christmas and Joe gets a pair of socks.
Joe will get jealous and angered, so he'll say that Bob is a spoiled rich kid and that he's stupid.
Well hey, let's say Mary gets laid by a guy and Katy sleeps alone that night.
Katy will call Mary a whore because Mary got some action that night as where Katy slept alone, lonely and craving to be with a guy.
So now you know. Girls call each other sluts out of their own pure jealously and insecurities. That's all there is to it and nothing more.
b. Women Have It Harder Than Us
Many people think that women can get laid without any effort at all and that guys need to work hard as hell to even get anything at all. This belief my dear friend.. is bullshit.
Women actually have it harder than us. And here's why:
1. They need to work hard to look good.
(As mentioned in the above article.)
and the biggest reason:
2. They are bombarded by the 'slut' deal.
Women don't just have sex with anyone. They need to make sure they can trust their partner won't go around saying "Yeah.. she's a slut. I just met her five minutes ago and she was really easy to bang. She has SLUT written all over her."
Because think about it.. how many guys are considered AFCs when you go out? About.. 80% right? I'd say so.
So that means the majority of the guys really don't understand what's going through a girl's mind because of the fact that they really don't give a shit and they just want some pussy.
Well... if the girl just goes "Okay! Let's have sex!" in the first moments of meeting an AFC, what'll he think?
"Oh wow.. Girls don't usually do this. Something not right here. Oh well... even if this chick IS A SLUT, I'm still getting pussy. Ohh man, I can't wait to tell my friends."
Then he tells his friends, they call the girl a slut, word gets out. Now the girl's reputation is completely ruined because of wanting to have sex just as much as the guy did.
Now do you see why it's VITAL that you show her that you can be someone who she will be able to trust? Do you realize what could happen to her if she just goes around having sex with anyone she finds cute?
I thought you would.
c. Women Will Kiss For The Kiss
So now you understand how hard it is for women to go out and get some action. How do you think they feel about their situation?
They are probably DESPERATE for sex. Heck.. they might even go out to a party, get drunk, and finally get laid. And end up making excuses like "Well.. I was drunk."
But deep inside, they're happy as a duck. Their big desire to make love is finally fulfilled after all that tension was building up inside them.
But should drunk sex really the only way for girls to get laid withOUT having to experience the slut effect?
Of course not.
Just remember, girls are always desperate for some action as much as guys and have this overwhelming desire. THIS is why girls have such a sexual mind-frame. THIS is why girls try to look as hot as they can without coming off as slutty.
They really want a guy to just fuck the shit out of them.
They want a guy who they can blame if something goes wrong or someone starts saying shit.
But this is just a fantasy for them as much as it is for guys to wish they could just fuck the shit out of a cute girl.
However, some fantasies do come true. A friend of mine and I went up to random girls and asked for a kiss. The girls that didn't have many friends around greatly complied. The girls that were running their own form of social game, getting value, being cool gave us funny stares and gave us kisses on the cheeks. Great, right?
This was proof to me that girls are plainly sexual and that they will Kiss for the Kiss.
It won't matter who it's with as long as the person she is kissing is someone who can amaze her just by asking for a kiss.
She really wants that kiss. She just can't be the one asking, due to the slut effect.
So ask girls to kiss! They'll say yeah!
d. Women Want To Be Dominated Over
Branching off from the previous article, I'd like to announce the belief that WOMEN WANT TO BE DOMINATED OVER!! They just want to be controlled and lead on an experience of extreme passion and emotion. That emotion will probably be something such as the one from drama, humor, fun, pleasure, sex.
You must understand that women are NATURALLY followers. They'll follow whatever leads them to having the biggest emotional sensation even if it's a pointless dramatic argument.
Think about it. Isn't it only nature that MEN protect their families and lead them to a bright future and that WOMEN nurture their families while letting the MEN lead them through their amazing life? Look at families today even. Although there are some divorces, single-parents, MOST families have a dad who works and leads the family and a mom who watches out for the children.
This is proof that women will be active followers, they will be active on whatever activity they are doing, but that activity will be decided by someone else, probably a man.
I'm trying my best not to come off as a sexist. Please don't be thinking "Wow... women are pathetic." Because they're not. They're not better than you, but they're not worse than you. I'm merely trying to explain what NATURE has shown us within the past millenniums.
The point is.. that YOU are a MAN. and MEN need to be LEADERS. They need to LEAD WOMEN into an emotional adventure. Don't rely on a woman to be making decisions. She wants YOU to make them. So if you want a kiss, don't wait for her to kiss you. You need to kiss her.
If you want to date a girl, don't wait for her to ask you out. Ask her out.
e. Women Respect Men More Than We Think
A big problem with many guys is that they're always asking themselves, "Why isn't she trying to kiss me or touch me or impress me!?" They think that women are being stuck up, bitchy, or harsh but in reality, they're showing a big deal of respect and validation!
Once a PUA starts to recover, he will encounter this situation many many times. This is because he'll be at the level where he really can attract girls, but he just doesn't know what the next step is.
When enough attraction is built, a girl won't do anything! Really!
Some may come sit next to you, but they'll just sit there and wait for something to happen.
The recovering PUA is doing the same thing. He wants his target to do something first.
This is horrible because both people are thinking "Umm... does s/he really like me? Am I making a mistake?"
I've mentioned in the post above that men are leaders. Most men need some validation before doing anything, well here it is. When women do nothing and are intentionally standing very close to you or sitting right next to you, they are trying to say, "Well.. you've officially woo'd me. Now what are you going to do with me? Take me on a fucking adventure."
If you just sit there like a statue, she'll get confused and leave.
However if you initiate fun conversations, ask her on a date, play little tickling games; she'll get exactly what she asked for. She wants YOU to lead.
So when a girl does nothing but be close to you, it's not a sign of toying around with you, confusing you, or acting all stuck up. It's a sign that she respects you, she's attracted to you, and that she wants you to take her on an adventure.
V. Psychology of Naturals
My definition of a Natural: The guy you see who always has the attention on himself, the guy you see who is surrounded by girls without even trying, the guy you see who is always making others laugh and have fun.
This is character I am going to talk about. Not the highly moral father figure, not the honest church goer. Enjoy your read.
a. The Point of Life is to Have Fun. (Pleasure <- Ego Boost <- Survival Value)
What's your goal in life? Is it to get laid? To become president of the USA? Become a rockstar?
Whatever it may be, there is one very important goal that everyone shares,
and that is to Have Fun.
Having fun is something that will naturally boost your value and make you more successful and happier in life. Here's why;
Many PUAs believe society is based off of survival value and replication value.
And that survival value is gained through ego boosts.
Well, ego boosts are most efficiently gained through having fun and being fun!
What other way is there? Do you really want to have to 'manipulate' people and treat them like shit using canny negs just to boost your own value? Do you really want to go into a public forum that's trying to HELP YOU, and just act like an ignorant asshole to everyone?
Of course not. People want love. So what better way to boost your value (and others!) through having a good time?
So just by having fun, you will naturally have a healthier life and become a more attractive person.
Now, some of you may be thinking "Nice. So if I want to be cool, I just have to have fun?"
Yes that's exactly it. But what is your goal in this situation?!
Is it to be cool or really to not give a shit and HAVE FUN?
Cool has soo many contradictions to it because some people say being overtly mature is the cool thing to do and others say maturity doesn't matter and that even acting like an immature 5th grader is fine as long as it's fun.
So please don't focus on cool. Your subconscious mind won't be able to act congruently with itself. Focus on really having fun. Fun is something that makes you smile and laugh and feel happy. It's not something that makes you want to be accepted in society or whatever.
It's showing that you don't care what others think because you control your own life and this world is yours for the taking. Anyone that wants to avoid your world of fun is really stupid and much more immature than you.
This is how the natural thinks.
"So.. you're saying that naturals can have immature fun and still get laid?"
Well.. yeah!
As long as it's not completely annoying and repelling, it's fine.
Many AFCs think that weird lawyer jokes are funny and that overtly violent video games are funny, like when someone's head blows off from a grenade.
This my friend, is not funny to mainstream society. It may be funny to all the nerds, but as you keep improving yourself, you will start to notice why so many people think it's weird that you find such things funny. Why is this?
Well you really have to learn to put yourself in other people's shoes. It's something that every natural knows how to do.
They're thinking "oh wow. this kid is really screwed up. if he likes to blow people's heads off in video games, what are the chances he'll be a violent person in general?"
And violence isn't fun. It's annoying, disgusting, and really pathetic.
So it's self-explanatory what exactly is funny and what's not. Please don't think like a retarded child, think like a normal child. This is really hard to explain in words, just please don't be stupid when you apply this concept. PLEASE DON'T BE STUPID.
b. Lifestyle
Naturals have this lifestyle where they are always socializing with others. Always.
This is why having "texting" is soo important and that keeping up with others through Facebook, Myspace, etc. is vital.
They always have 5-10 people that they talk to daily as close friends, and another 5-10 people to talk with maybe a couple of times every 2-3 weeks, like people they've just met.
If you have the ability to text, own a Facebook profile, whatever, DO IT. You're shooting yourself in the foot by not talking with others when you can.
Also, naturals are always making plans with people. They're always saying things like "Let's hang out soon." or "I want to see you soon!"
They always have something to do. They're never just sitting and waiting for something to happen. They know what they want and they don't waste any time doing it.
If they're in the mood to hang out with a close friend, they'll hang out with a close friend.
If they're in the mood to go on a date with a girl, they'll go on a date with a girl.
If they're in the mood to just sit back and relax, they'll sit back and relax.
They control their life. They don't rely on others to make them get what they want. They do it themselves.
So remember, a natural is always socializing whether it's through texting, online, calling, or just simply hanging out with people. So start doing it!
c. Natural Traits
A natural doesn't make sacrifices. At all. He always puts himself first before anyone or anything else in the entire world. He'll do what will benefit him the most, even if it will hurt others. This is why most naturals never pay you back for the $10 you loaned them.
However if it involves something like killing someone, he will probably not do it because it will keep him from benefiting himself because the police would be after him. (self explanatory)
He won't EVER change his beliefs for others. Once he makes a decision, he'll stick with it and won't give a shit what you think about it unless you're offering him advice as a true friend.
He knows he's cool. He knows he's the shit. But he knows that showing off will make him lose his value. He knows that cool people don't talk about how cool they are. They don't talk about how much friends they have or how much pussy they get, unless it comes off as intentionally funny.
He doesn't freak out. If he smells something bad, he'll ignore it until someone else brings it up. If he sees a waiter dropping a glass cup in a restaurant, he'll pretend like nothing happened. This is because such things are not important to him. He simply doesn't give a shit. He'll judge and say to himself "I better not hire HIM if I ever open a restaurant." But he won't make a big deal out of it like "Oh my gosh! That guy just broke a cup! Ohh man he's fucked now!"
If he bumps into someone, he doesn't go "Oh gosh I'm sorry!" He'll say "Hey." and continue walking. If he spills some coffee on his shirt, he doesn't freak out and stop talking about his important story, he'll continue to talk just the way he was and simply dab something on the spill.
It's just not a big deal.
He doesn't get nervous about approaching people. He doesn't care if they like him or not, he'll get what he wants and if they act stuck up to him while he's trying to have fun, he'll give them the face that says "Haha, fuck you. I'm still having fun! You can't change me! Nananana-booboo."
He will lie if he has to. The truth really doesn't matter for naturals. They just care about if telling the truth will hurt them or benefit them. So if they have to lie, they will.
He knows how to put himself in other people's shoes. He knows how others feel. He knows what to say, how to say it, where to say it, and when to say it. He knows that he will come off as creepy in some situations and he'll know exactly how to make it seem like he's actually the coolest guy in the earth.
d. Personality
If you have not gotten the 'big idea' about naturals yet, it's the fact that they are very very egotistic. Some you may be thinking "Wow.. this isn't natural, this is an asshole."
You are wrong my friend.
Think about every natural you have met that gets laid a LOT.
He really is a bit of an asshole isn't he?
I mean.. every natural I've met.. EVERY NATURAL I've met is an asshole in many ways.
He is a really fun guy to be with and he's always giving off good vibes, but he's the type of person who won't care if you forgot your lunch and need some money to borrow. He won't commit to you. He knows people a little too well and the fact that the MAJORITY of people won't pay others back. There are the few that do pay each other back and are respected for that. But these guys are seen as 'suckers' when it comes down to the point where YOU yourself need some money for lunch.
NATURALS AREN'T PERFECTLY MATURE, WISE, SMART, CARING PEOPLE.
There is a big line of difference between them actually. So many people have gotten naturals and alpha males confused with nice, honest, hard-working people.
Being a nice and honest guy is really cool and many people will respect you for who you are. But a natural isn't him. A natural won't be the one who helps you up when you fall unless he's trying to show off 'how sweet he is'. A natural won't be the one you can truly rely on to do the favors that only true friends do for each other. A natural isn't someone you can rely on.
He's egotistical and if there's no gain for him, he won't do it.
But he's not thinking "I'm a big asshole." This is just the mindset he grew into, he can't help it. It just NATURALLY happened.
He knows he's hot, he's awesome, and that he's fun.
So here's what it really comes down to:
Do you want to be an egotistic natural who happens to be a LOT of fun to hang around with and get lots of pussy
or
Be a generally fun person who has a lot more morality than a natural and still be able to pick up women but just not as easily as a natural himself?
It's your choice. I am merely explaining the natural's psychology.
e. Modeling The Successful
Naturals do what works best. Ever since they were little, they have been surrounded by opportunities that they took and figured out what kind of person to become.
They were naturally generally successful in socializing within a matter of time.
They stayed away from what made them look bad and always kept to what made them look good.
They grew into this natural life of success in socializing since they were a child.
And even today they are constantly experimenting to see whether doing something will make them more attractive or less attractive.
My natural friend got a girlfriend and told her in the start of their relationship that he was a virgin.
After 3 weeks, he says "I've actually had sex 7 different times."
This was a lie, but he convinced her and he hoped that this would make him a much more attractive person.
Boom, they break up. He goes "aww this sucks. oh well, i've been wanting to date this other chick lately.. blablabla"
and then he nevers says the "i've had sex 7 different times" line ever again. especially after saying that he's a virgin.
The point is that NATURALS ARE STILL LEARNING.
They always do what works and always avoid what doesn't work.
My natural friend grew up on Fresh Prince of Bel Air during middle school. He would always use lines from Will Smith and always act just like Will.
Will was a natural on the show.
My friend was now a natural in real life.
My other natural friend grew up with an older brother who was a PIMP.
The older brother was his biggest influence. He acted just like him, used his lines, etc and eventually my friend also became naturally very attractive.
All naturals model what works. They always do what's successful.
This is probably the most important trait of the natural because it will NATURALLY make you become more successful in life.
I hope you guys liked this read, please comment on it, share your thoughts, etc.
<33 Grape
