Post by kristallnachte on Feb 23, 2009 21:01:17 GMT -5
Neg Theory
by Mystery
An HB is there, surrounded by her friends. She has put on this BITCH act.
Is she REALLY a bitch? Unlikely. All my girlfriends were wonderful human
beings. Beautiful people have it easier because they are beautiful and often times
have better upbringings because of it.
BUT - she needs to have a standard when all these NOBODY guys approach her.
So her values are very honed and understood. When a man walks up and says,
"Can I buy you a beer" this WILL annoy her. While the guy thinks he's doing
something nice for her, she gets this ALL the time. She is desensitized to this.
You are the 8th guy TODAY!
So she is very good at brushing all these guys off. She HAS to be... she isn't going
to sleep with ALL of them! So she may say NO, or act annoyed, and then the guy
thinks she's a bitch and he walks off pissed and feeling like a failure. And that
seems to work. Sometimes when the girl is particularly in a feeling of control
(like in a club where she is PREPARED for the barrage of men - it IS after all
something that occurs so often that when it is GONE she MISSES it) she will
accept the beer and then flake the guy off. Hey, the guys are stupid enough to buy
her one; she might as well take it.
When she accepts a beer from you, the girl is saying to you, "I don't know you and
I don't care about you. You are just another one of those typical guys and since I
don't respect you, I'll take the beer from you before I snub you."
Since an HB is so GOOD at snuffing your approach, SNUFFING THEM is
important. You CANNOT INSULT them, because they are used to all the hurt
guys INSULTING them ("ahh you are nothing but a bitch!") so this rolls off their
back like water off a muskrat's ass.
How do you SNUFF them WITHOUT INSULTING them? Well, let's say she has
long nails which are most likely fake. Now why do 10s dress so FINE if they don't
want the attention? Sometimes they LOVE the feeling of control. They are in a
club with friends and they want to be the leader of the circle (social hierarchy in
primates) and so she gets all the attention. The guys come and buy drinks for
them and she gets off on knocking the guys down. It's all in a days play. Ok, so
she is wearing fake nails to look even BETTER! Most guys will say, "Wow you are
so beautiful!" BORING, typical and in her mind by now, TRUE.
Imagine now, a guy comes along and says "Nice nails. Are they real?" She will
have to concede, "No, acrylic." And he says (like he didn't notice it was a put
down), "Oh. (Pause) well I guess they still LOOK good." Then he turns his back to
her.
What does this do to her? Well, he didn't treat her like shit and INSULT her. He
complimented her, but the result was to target her insecurity. She thinks, "I'M
HOT I'M BEAUTIFUL" - (especially in her current emotional state of control) -
"but I didn't win this guy over. I'M SO GOOD at this. I'll just fix that little smear
on my image that he has of me."
Then you continue to show disinterest in her looks as you give her a neutral topic
like the Elvis script. During this time, her intention is to get you to become like
all the other guys so she can feel in control and snuff you.
Then you give her another NEG HIT like this: "Is that a hair piece? Well, its
neat... what do you call this hairstyle? The waffle?
" Smile and look at her to show her you are sincerely being funny and not insulting. You are pleasant but
disinterested in her beauty.
This will intrigue her because she KNOWS guys. And this isn't normal. You must
have really high taste, or be used to girls, or be married or something. These
questions make her CURIOUS. So this keeps happening and is known as
FLIRTING. She gives you little Negs and these tests are qualifiers. You pass
them by Negging her back. After all, you aren't like the others showing interest.
But...why?
To get control again, she says, "Will you buy me a drink?" Notice how she is
trying to get you now! BUT, she only wants to sucker you in enough so she can
SNUFF you. That is all she is about - this strategy is all she knows and it's not
working for you so she is trying to do damage control on the situation. But at the
same time she doesn't quite understand WHY you don't think she's "all that."
After all, her nails ARE fake.
You say, "Ahhh, that's so funny ... your nose wiggles when you speak......" -
(pointing and being cute) - "look there it goes again ... its so... quaint ... hheeeee
look." She'll say, "Ahhh, stoppp!"
*blush*. Now she is self-conscious and having her in this state is where you want her. You have, with 3 negs, successfully
created INTEREST (curiosity) and removed her from her pedestal (removed her
bitch shield.) You were humorous, you had a smile, you dress well, you are
confident and everything she would want in a man.
You didn't take her shit. OH...and when she asked you for a beer, you said, "No. I
don't buy girls drinks. But you can buy ME one." You are qualifying HER now. If
she buys you a beer, this is symbolic of her RESPECT for you.
If not, you say, "Pleasure meeting you" [NOT sarcastically] and turn your back to
her again. DON'T walk away, just turn your back. You are negging her again just
when she thought she was negging YOU. That is teasing each other. That is the
first step to flirting. This is all textbook psychology.
A NEG is a qualifier. The girl is FAILING to meet your high expectations.
It's not an insult, just a judgment call on your part. The better looking the girl,
the more aggressive you must be with using negs. A 10 can get 3 negs up front,
while an 8 gets only 1 or 2 over a longer time. You CAN go overboard if they think
you are BETTER than them. You can drop the self-esteem right from under them
(just like most 10s do to guys) and this isn't good. You have to get as close to the
breaking point as you can without crossing the line. Once you have gotten her
RIGHT THERE, you can start appreciating things about her (NEVER LOOKS.)
There is a mutual RESPECT now. Something most guys never get from the girl.
This is how you remove a bitch shield. 3 negs ought to do it within 2 or 3 minutes
of neutral chat. Once it is down, you can, from a place of mutual respect, seduce
her.
