Making friends with the "popular kids"

[nutrick]

you know honestly, i've realized the "popular" kids at my school aren't really that great. their sausage fest parties and lack of girls suck, and i have no benefit from them. i gotta find the "underground" cool kids @ my school and just meet new people via cold approaching. anyone ever cold approach to make new friends?

Modified: Nevermind, I got the answer.

[Alek]

Mar 2, 2009 23:29:51 GMT -5 optimus said:

@grape: There are times when tagging along is okay, but asking someone what they're doing this weekend makes it sound like you don't have anything going on. Better to go with yours: "My plans for the weekend fell through. What're you up to?" If he trusts you enough to tell you he's having a party, then it really doesn't matter what you say. It's more important what you say before you ask him.

EIther way, it's proabably even better for a guy to tell you he's having a party than you asking him.

You know what man? I don't think it really matters what you say, but instead how you say it. If you come across needy (or have a needy voice) then thats...needy, which is bad. But if you ask them what they are doing, and tell em we should chill, and come across with a strong frame...I don't think it really matters.

[misterflower]

yeah I think just asking someone for the plans and seeing what they are doing is not the best way to get around it and hang out with them because they will usually just say they are doing something with some friends. If you try to ask them if you can come along they will usually say something like, "oh we don't have room in the car" or "oh no we can't because we are going somewhere," ect. it's better to try to invite them to go and do something that you know they would like, so I agree with that. from experience I know that just straight up asking if you can tag along with them isn't going to work most of the time unless they really like you and are close friends with you. The best way is to just gradually make friends with them or just hang around them a lot. "popular" kids just set really high standards for them. If you have higher standards than most kids and just act a little different than the people around you, you come off as an individual or as unique. One of the big personality traits in attracting women is coming off as different and being spontaneous and unpredictable. A really great PUA, Frank Kermit, once said,

"DIFFERENTIATE YOURSELF FROM THE LOCALS!!"

I mean, that makes a lot of sense if you want to come off as unique to women.

I also learned that getting girls is a lot like marketing. You have to BRAND yourself to a specific type of girl, learn what women are attracted to and then go and PRACTICE being attractive, that's what it's all about, that's the process you have to go through. Figure out what type of girl you want and what you really want out of all of this, or else you're walking around aimlessly in the dark without any real direction. Do you want the girl who is really rich and likes to shop and all that shit, or do you want the chick who doesn't really have any REAL interests and just likes to chill out? I noticed that a lot of loser guys set really LOW standards for themselves and that's why they always end up going out with the WAR PIG (extremely fat chick with a moustache). Even if you can't get a girl because you haven't honed your personality quite yet or haven't had enough practice, avoid going out with the ugly girl because you think that's all you can get. YOU ARE TWICE AS GOOD AS YOU THINK YOU ARE.

[perceverance]

Could you do this purely on personality and attitude or would you have to change your looks up depending on what kids you wanted to hang out with?