Bad-Ass?

[Grape]

Here's something obvious, but not always thought of.

So as high schoolers, we're still learning to grow up, get a sense of self, and become great mature people right?

Well, it's not just guys who feel like this. It's also the girls.
(Like I said.. obvious)

Well put yourself in a girl's shoes at the age of 7.
You grow up on TV shows that sell the idea of 'being cool and popular'.
Now you need to understand that many girls don't have a high self esteem.
They grow up, move onto middle school, where almost everyone is fake and try to "act popular".

This is when they enter the world of social value.

Picture a cute girl who is still young (around 14?) and is deeply insecure about how 'cool' she is. (MOST GIRLY GIRLS ARE LIKE THIS)
She doesn't think she's cool. She thinks she's not good enough and that she needs to drink, smoke, and have sex to be cool and that she should completely avoid her family and fuck up her grades in school. (Because this is what TV sells as 'being cool')

But deep inside, she loves her family, she loves to learn, and she really doesn't get the deal with smoking. She just thinks it's 'cool'.

So this girl, is like an AFC, has no confidence, is very insecure but is able to wear stick up bras and tight pants.

One day, some 'popular guy' who's known to be a bad-ass that smokes pot talks to her and asks her to go out with him.
She agrees, happy but really really nervous.

She thinks this guy is wayyy more cool than she is. She let's him take over completely. She thinks that he has all the power in the world and that whatever he's doing is the 'cool thing to do.'

So they go to a party. She's extremely nervous. And there's about 10 people smoking pot because they also think 'it's cool'. In truth, they're not even cool, just immature and pathetic 8th graders.

But in her eyes, these people are the coolest people on the face of the earth. (Because it's what TV sells as cool)

She feels she NEEDS to do this. She feels she NEEDS to do this to be Cool and Popular.

So she does it. And away goes her life!

The end.
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Anyhoo, this is a case for MANY MANY people.
(But this is obvious, as stated before)


What does this have to do with you?
Hmm... I guess what I'm getting at is that many HB10s, no matter how cute or pretty, are still shy indecisive little girls. (mostly in middle, but still a lot in high school)

They still don't know what 'cool' really is. They don't understand it's about being your best self and simply having fun without having to worry about not doing what you dont want. You know.. the real 'cool'. Not intentionally being a fucker to everyone around you and acting stuck up 24/7. They simply don't get it because their insecurity blinds them./

So this is why being a bad-ass works with some girls.

They are sooo insecure about themselves they will take any normal or nice guy and say "Wow.. you're a pathetic loser."

This boosts their ego.

And then when the 'bad-ass' steps in, she goes "Wow you're really cool!" She gets treated like shit. She throws away her life to 'try and fit in'.

Then she grows up and she realizes how sad her life was.

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Overall:
- Don't think that girls are cool just because they're pretty.
- Don't think that girls are ACTUALLY stuck up.
- Don't think that girls are doing things because they want to.
- Understand some girls are going to be stuck in a world of TV Drama.


Just thought this post was important.
But still obvious.
But still important.

There's not really anything to this except for understanding WHY and that the 'why' is really her insecurity shield which can be broken through.

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[orangejuice]

thx. You just gave me a whole new outlook on highschool girls.

[Grape]

Noo, this isn't for every girl.
It's only for the HB10s.

[kristallnachte]

No, its pretty much every girl. The rating doesn't decide who they are.

[Grape]

IMO rating really does matter for this one.

A cool girl won't go "He's so cool", she'll go "He's a loser."
She knows she's cool and she knows "TV Cool" is really funny and immature and childish.

If you have this concept towards every girl you know, you've officially become socially stupid.

Like I've said in the OP, it's mostly in middle school and SOME in high school.

And it's mostly with the girly girl HB10s because a girl usually isn't 100% feminine ALL the time
just like a guy usually isn't 100% masculine ALL the time.

We all have our feminine and masculine characteristics. We ALL do.

A girly girl HB10 is focused on being pretty and girly a little too much, which associates her with the kind of girls from this OP.

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[Chris]

I agree. 10s are more insecure. THEY ARE. Thats why they dress
so "hot." To get attention so they can boost their ego. If they
were totally secure in themselves, they would feel good any-
way.

that actually puts a new perspective on things. Ever been intimidated by a "10" because she was dressed so "hot?" Think
of it this way, she's probably doing it because she's insecure.