Post by Andrew on Oct 4, 2008 0:42:11 GMT -5
Chris talked in a recent post about the different lenses to view through (definitely check that out, its pretty much gold). Framing is a lot like viewing through lenses, but its all a mindset and how your perceived by others.
Lets say your going out cocky funny, and your cocky funny the whole night one of your Frames for that night is a cocky funny person. Lets say that you say a line and a girl gets offended, and you apologize or take it back, you've immediately broken that frame and your back to square one. You have just lost all value built up inside that frame.
I remember one episode of the Pickup Artist on Vh1 or Mtv where the guy is playa all night, then as soon as he gets back to the limo with her, he starts telling her what he wants in a woman, and just venting.
What he did is he broke the Frame that he had built all night. By acting playa all night, then cracking and venting to this girl that he had just picked up by being playa all this he could have potentially sabotaged everything he had built up that entire night. Comfort, Attraction, Interest, all gone. Because whats going through her mind once a Frame is broken is simple, "He is NOT the man I thought he was!"
Naturals have been getting girls since middle school. A lot of it has to do with looks, that once their established as cute or whatever, its smooth sailing from there. For many naturals who have gotten girls easily for years, the girls come to them easier and easier. This is because the naturals already have the FRAME of mind that they are good with women!
If you develop this mindset that your good with women and have been (even if your not, and you haven't) that will show thought your actions, body language, your voice, and pretty much everything about you. By adopting this frame, your giving yourself the advantage of many years of girl-success. Of course, this will need to shine through everything you do (needs a lot of practice and takes time), or else you may break your own frame. Build up your frame slowly so its not a sudden shock if you break it by accident.
Women and Framing
What Captain Jack and Sinn figured out, was that women have much pliable frames then men do.
Without knowing it, by treating a girl the way you want them to act, that's the way they will most likely behave. If you treat a woman like they are your girlfriend, for the most part she'll act like it. Ive noticed this with a couple of girls more on either the slutty side or the, i don't like saying this, dumber side. Thats not to say that smart girls or not slutty girls are immune to this female framing, its just a lot easier to see with them.
So the next time your hanging out at the football game and you see that chick your flirting with a bunch, keep in mind whatever frame you want and treat her like you want her to be treated.
Your mind can trick your body. If you believe it and think it enough, your body will shine through with everything your thinking .
Go get em
-Andrew
Lets say your going out cocky funny, and your cocky funny the whole night one of your Frames for that night is a cocky funny person. Lets say that you say a line and a girl gets offended, and you apologize or take it back, you've immediately broken that frame and your back to square one. You have just lost all value built up inside that frame.
I remember one episode of the Pickup Artist on Vh1 or Mtv where the guy is playa all night, then as soon as he gets back to the limo with her, he starts telling her what he wants in a woman, and just venting.
What he did is he broke the Frame that he had built all night. By acting playa all night, then cracking and venting to this girl that he had just picked up by being playa all this he could have potentially sabotaged everything he had built up that entire night. Comfort, Attraction, Interest, all gone. Because whats going through her mind once a Frame is broken is simple, "He is NOT the man I thought he was!"
Naturals have been getting girls since middle school. A lot of it has to do with looks, that once their established as cute or whatever, its smooth sailing from there. For many naturals who have gotten girls easily for years, the girls come to them easier and easier. This is because the naturals already have the FRAME of mind that they are good with women!
If you develop this mindset that your good with women and have been (even if your not, and you haven't) that will show thought your actions, body language, your voice, and pretty much everything about you. By adopting this frame, your giving yourself the advantage of many years of girl-success. Of course, this will need to shine through everything you do (needs a lot of practice and takes time), or else you may break your own frame. Build up your frame slowly so its not a sudden shock if you break it by accident.
Women and Framing
What Captain Jack and Sinn figured out, was that women have much pliable frames then men do.
Without knowing it, by treating a girl the way you want them to act, that's the way they will most likely behave. If you treat a woman like they are your girlfriend, for the most part she'll act like it. Ive noticed this with a couple of girls more on either the slutty side or the, i don't like saying this, dumber side. Thats not to say that smart girls or not slutty girls are immune to this female framing, its just a lot easier to see with them.
So the next time your hanging out at the football game and you see that chick your flirting with a bunch, keep in mind whatever frame you want and treat her like you want her to be treated.
Your mind can trick your body. If you believe it and think it enough, your body will shine through with everything your thinking .
Go get em
-Andrew
