Post by Grape on Mar 8, 2009 15:41:02 GMT -5
As you may have learned before, there is a secret, unwritten code between the 'big cats' in this world.
When this code is broken by someone, the big cats know he or she is not one of them.
When this code is followed perfectly, the big cats know he or she is one of them.
These big cats are the ones in this world that make big decisions, have big power, and are big leaders.
Here are a few rules of the book:
1. Don't talk about bad news.
Even if you want to make conversation or just tell someone how bad you feel for their having cancer, don't bring it up. A bad vibe is NOT what people want when they go out. Although they might appreciate your effort to care, they'll know you're not a big cat.
2. Don't make a big deal out of things.
So there are two types of people in the world. Those who stop everything to fix a problem and those who continue what they're doing while fixing the problem.
When you spill something, don't go "FUCK!! RAWR" just continue talking while dabbing with a napkin. It's not a big deal. Just a spill on your pants.
When someone trips and falls, don't go "HAHA YOU FELL. LOSER." unless it's a friendly tease. They're already embarrassed enough. The last thing they want is someone making a big deal out of it and directing attention towards their mistake. DEFINITELY something a big cat would never do.
3. Don't bring business to the dinner table.
Dinner is a time of companionship, festivity, and celebration. It's a time of enjoying each others' company. It's a time of talking about everything funny, crazy, interesting, and great. The last thing someone wants while eating a delicious meal is to lose their appetite because someone keeps bothering them to invest $500,000 for something that may not even work out.
Never bring this kind of conversation to the table. It's a little fish's attempt to get big. Not a big cat's attitude of being cool.
4. Give a shit about others.
People see two universes "Me" and "The rest of the world." Who will they care more about? It's only nature that people care about themselves a Lot more than others. So if you want to get others to befriend you and see you as someone valuable, you gotta give a shit. You gotta know how they're feeling, you gotta show emotion, and show you are a true friend. Big cats always tell people how great they look, how fun they are, and that they feel really bad for their problems. So do this.
5. Be the first one to clap.
Ever go to a performance and after the set is finished, you hear that brief one second of silence and wait for a clap?
Whoever clapped first is getting the most pussy. You can't show "Hmm.. I'll just say I like it if others like it and I'll hate it if others hate it."
You gotta show that you don't care about others' opinions. You really enjoyed that show. You really like the voice of the singer or the triple spin flip by the dancer. You were entertained and you loved it. You clapped out of true enjoyment, not to be judged by others.
So be the first one to do something when others are at a loss you big cat!
6. Be straight-forward.
Big cats have a tendency to be very direct and to the point. They are well understood and can communicate very well. When they have a headache, they dont say "I'm actually not being my best self tonight like normally am... blablabla"
They simply say "I have a headache."
It's simple as that. They make their point clear and if you dont understand what they're trying to say, it's YOUR fault. The big cats don't think they did any wrong because 90% of people usually do understand them. Very clearly.
So when you wanna make something clear, make it short and simple. No need to use weird idioms and such, that's a little fish's move.
7. Know what you're talking about.
Big cats always look like they know what they're talking about. When they're at a car dealership, they'll start asking questions about the technicalities that only true car people know about. This way they can't get a fool's price for the car they want.
When they're at a pub, they know which football team is leading the season. They know the situation in Gaza. They know Obama's plan for the economy.
This shows they can't be fucked with. They know more than you will ever know. They're extremely intelligent socially and they are pretty much the leaders of society.
Big cats. Know their stuff.
8. Say something that actually matters to people.
Don't be the person who constantly tells stories or asks questions about things that don't matter. Like stated before, state your intentions very clearly. Or else others will be confused and go "wtf is wrong with you." in their heads. Tells stories that will be interesting to THEM, that they will care about and actually react to.
Big cats always say something that MATTERS, otherwise they keep their mouth shut and are being entertained.
9. Judge.
Big cats are constantly making judgments about others. Although they don't necessarily talk about all their judgments, they label everybody in the room as either High value or low value, big cat or little fish.
You need to learn to observe your surroundings and draw conclusions from them. You need to read this sentence, and find out what it means and then decide for yourself whether it's valuable or not.
Big cats are the judges of society. Little fish are the ones being judged.
In other terms, Little fish impress others. Big fish are the ones being impressed.
10. Join.
When at a party, people are there to have fun. Not be stuck up to people they dont know. There's a big rule that says "If you dont befriend anyone you talk to, you're officially weird."
So if you do happen to strike just ONE conversation with someone, you have to know who they are and what they do. You need to say bye to them and hi to them where you may meet.
So join in on the conversations, and join in on the companionships. When a group is talking about something that you know how to talk about, then join in with a comment!
If someone in the group says "Yeah.. I was at the TDWP concert last night, no one was there at all!"
You walk in with "Dude you were there too!? Man that place was EMPTY."
And then starts the friendship.
Whew, that took a while. Enjoy + Eat
<33 Grape
When this code is broken by someone, the big cats know he or she is not one of them.
When this code is followed perfectly, the big cats know he or she is one of them.
These big cats are the ones in this world that make big decisions, have big power, and are big leaders.
Here are a few rules of the book:
1. Don't talk about bad news.
Even if you want to make conversation or just tell someone how bad you feel for their having cancer, don't bring it up. A bad vibe is NOT what people want when they go out. Although they might appreciate your effort to care, they'll know you're not a big cat.
2. Don't make a big deal out of things.
So there are two types of people in the world. Those who stop everything to fix a problem and those who continue what they're doing while fixing the problem.
When you spill something, don't go "FUCK!! RAWR" just continue talking while dabbing with a napkin. It's not a big deal. Just a spill on your pants.
When someone trips and falls, don't go "HAHA YOU FELL. LOSER." unless it's a friendly tease. They're already embarrassed enough. The last thing they want is someone making a big deal out of it and directing attention towards their mistake. DEFINITELY something a big cat would never do.
3. Don't bring business to the dinner table.
Dinner is a time of companionship, festivity, and celebration. It's a time of enjoying each others' company. It's a time of talking about everything funny, crazy, interesting, and great. The last thing someone wants while eating a delicious meal is to lose their appetite because someone keeps bothering them to invest $500,000 for something that may not even work out.
Never bring this kind of conversation to the table. It's a little fish's attempt to get big. Not a big cat's attitude of being cool.
4. Give a shit about others.
People see two universes "Me" and "The rest of the world." Who will they care more about? It's only nature that people care about themselves a Lot more than others. So if you want to get others to befriend you and see you as someone valuable, you gotta give a shit. You gotta know how they're feeling, you gotta show emotion, and show you are a true friend. Big cats always tell people how great they look, how fun they are, and that they feel really bad for their problems. So do this.
5. Be the first one to clap.
Ever go to a performance and after the set is finished, you hear that brief one second of silence and wait for a clap?
Whoever clapped first is getting the most pussy. You can't show "Hmm.. I'll just say I like it if others like it and I'll hate it if others hate it."
You gotta show that you don't care about others' opinions. You really enjoyed that show. You really like the voice of the singer or the triple spin flip by the dancer. You were entertained and you loved it. You clapped out of true enjoyment, not to be judged by others.
So be the first one to do something when others are at a loss you big cat!
6. Be straight-forward.
Big cats have a tendency to be very direct and to the point. They are well understood and can communicate very well. When they have a headache, they dont say "I'm actually not being my best self tonight like normally am... blablabla"
They simply say "I have a headache."
It's simple as that. They make their point clear and if you dont understand what they're trying to say, it's YOUR fault. The big cats don't think they did any wrong because 90% of people usually do understand them. Very clearly.
So when you wanna make something clear, make it short and simple. No need to use weird idioms and such, that's a little fish's move.
7. Know what you're talking about.
Big cats always look like they know what they're talking about. When they're at a car dealership, they'll start asking questions about the technicalities that only true car people know about. This way they can't get a fool's price for the car they want.
When they're at a pub, they know which football team is leading the season. They know the situation in Gaza. They know Obama's plan for the economy.
This shows they can't be fucked with. They know more than you will ever know. They're extremely intelligent socially and they are pretty much the leaders of society.
Big cats. Know their stuff.
8. Say something that actually matters to people.
Don't be the person who constantly tells stories or asks questions about things that don't matter. Like stated before, state your intentions very clearly. Or else others will be confused and go "wtf is wrong with you." in their heads. Tells stories that will be interesting to THEM, that they will care about and actually react to.
Big cats always say something that MATTERS, otherwise they keep their mouth shut and are being entertained.
9. Judge.
Big cats are constantly making judgments about others. Although they don't necessarily talk about all their judgments, they label everybody in the room as either High value or low value, big cat or little fish.
You need to learn to observe your surroundings and draw conclusions from them. You need to read this sentence, and find out what it means and then decide for yourself whether it's valuable or not.
Big cats are the judges of society. Little fish are the ones being judged.
In other terms, Little fish impress others. Big fish are the ones being impressed.
10. Join.
When at a party, people are there to have fun. Not be stuck up to people they dont know. There's a big rule that says "If you dont befriend anyone you talk to, you're officially weird."
So if you do happen to strike just ONE conversation with someone, you have to know who they are and what they do. You need to say bye to them and hi to them where you may meet.
So join in on the conversations, and join in on the companionships. When a group is talking about something that you know how to talk about, then join in with a comment!
If someone in the group says "Yeah.. I was at the TDWP concert last night, no one was there at all!"
You walk in with "Dude you were there too!? Man that place was EMPTY."
And then starts the friendship.
Whew, that took a while. Enjoy + Eat
<33 Grape
