Post by Paetar on Mar 14, 2009 19:57:06 GMT -5
OK, so this is crazy.
I've become attractive to girls. I don't know how or why exactly, but I just did. They respond better, they hit on me, unless I blow it up really bad they give me IOI's.
HOW?
Actually, I don't know. I'm just being myself. Although there are few key points:
1. I've eliminated the SHIT in my life. And I'm working on it.
What it means is that I do the things I should do, and avoid things that make me feel bad. If I feel bad for smoking, I won't do it anymore. I should start exercising again, I just got used to it when illness struck and kicked me out of it. I'm doing it, starting tomorrow (It's 1:39 AM now). Do the things that need to be done.
2. Break down your "ego." I've got kicked out of band. I'm NOT with the girl I thought I was (really, if you tell her that you like her, she tells you that she really likes you too, and you have a great great relationship and rapport, can talk about literally everything, wouldn't that be considered dating?). I got few bad grades that I must improve. But still, I'M HAVING FUN. It's not as important as it seems. I know that I will get it done.
Strive to be the best, but don't dwell on it as a validation.
3. I've started teasing people. Really, I don't really care anymore if they won't like me because of that. I'm cruel (sometimes) but always funny. AND if I see that the person took it too seriously, I'll apologise. Always be sure that the person knows you're just teasing.
4. Body language. Go through day holding yourself as a true high-status person.
5. This may sound shallow, but get a cool haircut. And lose the glasses if you have them, contacts are so much better.
6. I like to keep the girl guessing if I do like her or not. But generally more to the "I like you" meter than the other way. Like I'll tease her and when she gets "pissed" (she's faking it anyways) I'll smile and tell her in the most sweet bedroom voice "you know I'm just teasing" with THE EYE-CONTACT that says "I-like-you-so-much." She usually smiles back.
7. Kino, kino, kino. Everyone, you have to get used to it. I'm doing my best to get used to touch people.
Generally, I'm less afraid of life than I was before.
I've become attractive to girls. I don't know how or why exactly, but I just did. They respond better, they hit on me, unless I blow it up really bad they give me IOI's.
HOW?
Actually, I don't know. I'm just being myself. Although there are few key points:
1. I've eliminated the SHIT in my life. And I'm working on it.
What it means is that I do the things I should do, and avoid things that make me feel bad. If I feel bad for smoking, I won't do it anymore. I should start exercising again, I just got used to it when illness struck and kicked me out of it. I'm doing it, starting tomorrow (It's 1:39 AM now). Do the things that need to be done.
2. Break down your "ego." I've got kicked out of band. I'm NOT with the girl I thought I was (really, if you tell her that you like her, she tells you that she really likes you too, and you have a great great relationship and rapport, can talk about literally everything, wouldn't that be considered dating?). I got few bad grades that I must improve. But still, I'M HAVING FUN. It's not as important as it seems. I know that I will get it done.
Strive to be the best, but don't dwell on it as a validation.
3. I've started teasing people. Really, I don't really care anymore if they won't like me because of that. I'm cruel (sometimes) but always funny. AND if I see that the person took it too seriously, I'll apologise. Always be sure that the person knows you're just teasing.
4. Body language. Go through day holding yourself as a true high-status person.
5. This may sound shallow, but get a cool haircut. And lose the glasses if you have them, contacts are so much better.
6. I like to keep the girl guessing if I do like her or not. But generally more to the "I like you" meter than the other way. Like I'll tease her and when she gets "pissed" (she's faking it anyways) I'll smile and tell her in the most sweet bedroom voice "you know I'm just teasing" with THE EYE-CONTACT that says "I-like-you-so-much." She usually smiles back.
7. Kino, kino, kino. Everyone, you have to get used to it. I'm doing my best to get used to touch people.
Generally, I'm less afraid of life than I was before.
