New inner game technique..FUCK BELIEFS

[hotdemon]

I have an inner game secret to tell you that will help you get started on a path to becoming more successful with women

I don't know how you're going to take this but here goes: You are not attractive.

And, on top of this, you're also not interesting, fun, or exciting. I know this must sound like I'm just not being nice, but trust me - I'm not. Bear with me and I'll show you how this benefits your 'game' and helps you meet women that you want.

Seduction community inner game gurus have been telling you for a long time that you need to develop positive inner game belief structures. And logically, it makes sense!

But when you start to scratch the surface, you'll start to see just how limiting these inner game belief structures can actually be.

Alright, let me paint you a picture. You enter the seduction community with low self-esteem. You don't think you're attractive and you don't think that women want to be with you. In other words, you have pretty weak inner game.

You get into some 'inner game work' like affirmations and over time, you develop this belief that you're actually attractive.

Sweet! Good work!

So you construct your reality around this idea that you're attractive, that you have 'game', that you're almost a pickup artist. You strut around, opening, hooking, closing the women you want because you know you're attractive and you know women want an attractive guy.

But then you meet a woman you really want. And you know what, she doesn't find you attractive. She also happens to find you quite boring as well. This gets at you a bit. You don't feel so attractive any more. In fact, you feel a little sub-standard.

A part of you crumbles. Women DONT YET find you attractive. How do you feel now? Feel like you need more practice to have even better 'game'? Hardly.

Let's see what just happened here. The limitation of beliefs is that they're built upon the feedback you get, every day. If you want to maintain a belief, you need to find evidence in your world EVERY day.

When you don't, that belief goes out the window and is replaced by something else. All of a sudden, a big chunk of your inner game and self-image is down the drain. Your self-esteem suffers and you have start all over again.

By trying to develop these positive beliefs, you're setting yourself up for a lifetime of work. You're building your inner game and your self-image on very shaky foundations.

You're going to have to spend so much of your time trying to gather enough evidence to support this belief and when you don't find it, other aspects of your game are going to suffer.

But consider this: can you ever actually be attractive to every woman? Is that within you grasp? I'm not going to answer that but I want you to think about this: have you ever been out with a mate and he's seen a girl that he thought was stunning and you weren't into at all?

Of course you have. Now tell me, was she objectively 'attractive' or not? She wasn't attractive to everyone and you can't be either. No-one can. Ever.

There are always going to be people who don't find you attractive. In saying that, I'm sure there are people out there who do find you very attractive - right now. You are not objectively attractive. You are not everyone's cup of tea. Not everyone likes the way you dress, look, or act.

In fact, it's the height of arrogance to assume that you are attractive! You don't know what other people think and you can never actually know. But you know what? There are some people who do find you attractive. There are some people who think you're a pretty fun guy to be around.

So here's the secret to incredible inner game: you're not attractive in the same way you're not unattractive. You're just you.

You're not fun in the same way you're not boring. You're just you. You're not cool in the same way you're not a dork. You're just you. You are nothing so you're free to be yourself. You know nothing so you're free to be yourself.

There's no labels or criteria you have to meet and there's no restrictions that define your actions. You are totally free to do what you want and no matter what response you get, it doesn't change who you are.

You are you and that's all you can ever be. You don't know, and can never know, if she's going to find you attractive and you don't know if she likes the way you dress.

You know anything about what she's thinking and the only thing worrying about it is going to do is make your life more stressful!

You know nothing. I want you to say this out aloud: I know nothing. When I wake up in the morning, I start every day with these affirmations:

"I am not attractive. I am not cool. I am not exciting. I am not good with women. I am not sexy. I know nothing."

It means that every day, I am free. I am free to do, to be, to act the way I want because there are no labels that I have to live up to.

So let go of everything else, let go of all these labels, follow your desire, live your purpose, reach your dreams, do what you need to do to make yourself happy, and let the chips fall where they may.

And don't worry, I still think you're sexy ;-)

[Grape]

i get your point there. some people need others to tell them they're attractive. they need OUTER motivation.
others simply self-motivate and Understand why a few people may find one unattractive while MOST do find him attractive.

if you're one of those people who need outer-validation then you'll need a way to protect all the ego you've built up from a certain category whether it be talent, attractiveness, knowledge, etc. when someone tries to bring down your ego in that certain category.

one of the techniques I use is believing that the aggressor is merely insecure and dumb-minded, which tends to be true most of the time.

this is another techinque that may work. it doesn't for me personally because i start feeling anti-social and ego-less. but it could work for you (the reader) since it's worked for hotdemon.

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[Paetar]

I was just thinking about writing a similar post. Hotdemon, +1.

[nutrick]

ah, this correlates especially with the concept taught in the power of now by eckhart tolle. All those beliefs and labels tend to feed our egoic mind, and separate us as human beings. we become trapped by our minds based on the context of our reality and the expectations. old post, but damn this has changed my whole perception on beliefs. I have this list of "i am confident, attractive, blah blah" and when i don't live up to it, i feel like shit. awesome post, demon. +1

[George]

man thats true.I remember when I got a new hairstyle ,I felt good and girls started to look at me,and I felt like "wow,every girl looks at me,that means Im good looking" but then when I didnt feel good,no girls ever looked at me and I thought"Im an idiot,wtf was I thinking,Im not good looking"

and now I understand that I was just helping my ego,believing that if girls look at me,it meant Im good looking

ur right bro,I need to be myself and not give a fuk ,and it doesnt matter what people think because their beliefs always shift

this did help my inner game a lil bit,thnx

[perceverance]

i learned quite a few things from this post man. thanks for the contribution