Post by Rusty on Apr 13, 2009 19:45:47 GMT -5
Hotdemon makes a good point about you being only you, and your attributes not being intrinsic to who you are in highschoolpuas.proboards.com/index.cgi?board=confidence&action=display&thread=1507 That's absolutely spot on. No matter how many dominant things you do, you still aren't dominant. No matter how many loser things you do, your still not a loser. Wheter or not you think your cool is inconsequential to the truth of it.
HOWEVER! Since attributes only exist in perception, they only need to be conveyed in perception. All your frames and actions are choices. So lets say you want to be perceived as a more dominant person and become a person that makes dominant choices, at every single point in time you have the option to choose to make the dominant choice. It's not enough to just say you are, you have to live it. By making that dominant choice, you become more accustomed to making dominant choices. Attributes are just habits. Habits are just actions that you do over and over. Just change individual actions and that will turn into a habit, a bunch of habits together turn into an attribute. So yes, you can't change your core, it's labeless and nameless. It's just a core. However, if you want to be perceived as something, and attraction is about perception (because human reality is about perception), then you can take steps to change the way you are perceived.
So where do beliefs come in? 'I'm not attractive' is true, but it's kind of defeatist haha. It's just as true as 'I am not unattractive'. Why not opt for the latter? The truth is you aren't anything, your just an empty canvas. Action is the brush. You have an endless array of colors to paint with (endless amount of actions to choose from). The trick is just changing the colors you like to paint with, changing your habits. Then the end product, the finished painting (the attribute), will look different (will be perceive by everyone else by different). =D! Brilliant. Still, where to beliefs come in. The truth is, beliefs are nothing more then a plan. They're a template that you use to filter through actions.
When an artist feels like painting, he doesn't just say 'I know nothing of the outcome of this. I'm just going to do whatever'. Some do, they leave it up to chance and are happy with whatever the painting ends up as. Some people don't grab control of their lives, they just let it spin around and hopefully it will hit something of value. Some are happy with not hitting anything of value, they just like spinning. The fact that you are on a self-help site suggests a different reality for you though. Your the artist with the plan. You may not know exactly what you'll end up with, but the odds of you hiting something of value is higher when your aiming at it.
Beliefs are just the plan, you know what type of colors you want to use for your canvas, you know the basic idea behind it, all that's left is to grab that paint brush, dip it in the color nessacary to convey the intended message, AND PAINT! All you have to do after you know your intended result (the end you, the guy with all the attributes that'll make the you now cum yourself), is to formulate a plan on how to convey it (get the needed beliefs set up). Now you just act according to those beliefs, make the dominant choices, lead, be strong, funny, happy, empathatic, a warrior. Having beliefs is not enough, blueprints are never seen. You need to make those choices, you need to paint. It is not 'I am attractive'. It is 'I am a man who makes attractive choices'. Maybe you can put it a little better then I can =P! Don't make a liar out of yourself, BE the man who makes attractive choices.
Remember though, that you are not your actions. You are not who you say you are. Who you are lies in the relm of the unknowable, it's too simple for words, too pure for attributes. You are to the species as you are perceived though. So get those goals down, get the plan down, remember it, choose the right colors and get painting =)
HOWEVER! Since attributes only exist in perception, they only need to be conveyed in perception. All your frames and actions are choices. So lets say you want to be perceived as a more dominant person and become a person that makes dominant choices, at every single point in time you have the option to choose to make the dominant choice. It's not enough to just say you are, you have to live it. By making that dominant choice, you become more accustomed to making dominant choices. Attributes are just habits. Habits are just actions that you do over and over. Just change individual actions and that will turn into a habit, a bunch of habits together turn into an attribute. So yes, you can't change your core, it's labeless and nameless. It's just a core. However, if you want to be perceived as something, and attraction is about perception (because human reality is about perception), then you can take steps to change the way you are perceived.
So where do beliefs come in? 'I'm not attractive' is true, but it's kind of defeatist haha. It's just as true as 'I am not unattractive'. Why not opt for the latter? The truth is you aren't anything, your just an empty canvas. Action is the brush. You have an endless array of colors to paint with (endless amount of actions to choose from). The trick is just changing the colors you like to paint with, changing your habits. Then the end product, the finished painting (the attribute), will look different (will be perceive by everyone else by different). =D! Brilliant. Still, where to beliefs come in. The truth is, beliefs are nothing more then a plan. They're a template that you use to filter through actions.
When an artist feels like painting, he doesn't just say 'I know nothing of the outcome of this. I'm just going to do whatever'. Some do, they leave it up to chance and are happy with whatever the painting ends up as. Some people don't grab control of their lives, they just let it spin around and hopefully it will hit something of value. Some are happy with not hitting anything of value, they just like spinning. The fact that you are on a self-help site suggests a different reality for you though. Your the artist with the plan. You may not know exactly what you'll end up with, but the odds of you hiting something of value is higher when your aiming at it.
Beliefs are just the plan, you know what type of colors you want to use for your canvas, you know the basic idea behind it, all that's left is to grab that paint brush, dip it in the color nessacary to convey the intended message, AND PAINT! All you have to do after you know your intended result (the end you, the guy with all the attributes that'll make the you now cum yourself), is to formulate a plan on how to convey it (get the needed beliefs set up). Now you just act according to those beliefs, make the dominant choices, lead, be strong, funny, happy, empathatic, a warrior. Having beliefs is not enough, blueprints are never seen. You need to make those choices, you need to paint. It is not 'I am attractive'. It is 'I am a man who makes attractive choices'. Maybe you can put it a little better then I can =P! Don't make a liar out of yourself, BE the man who makes attractive choices.
Remember though, that you are not your actions. You are not who you say you are. Who you are lies in the relm of the unknowable, it's too simple for words, too pure for attributes. You are to the species as you are perceived though. So get those goals down, get the plan down, remember it, choose the right colors and get painting =)
Hope this doesn't sound aggresive btw mate, it's late and this chick is driving me up the wall haha.