Attraction Switches!!

[Grape]

Haha woah.. how has no one made a thread about the attraction switches yet?!!!!

Alright, everyone contribute, let's make this thing awesome!

So there are many guys out there who have never even thought of the concept of attraction. They think that a relationship is based off of purely looks and validation. FALSE.

Let me paint a picture we've all seen before. A guy goes up to a girl, tells her, "Wow, you are so pretty. I mean REALLY pretty. I would love to go out with you sometime. No guy like me deserves a girl as cute as you." The girl goes, "Oh.. thanks." The guy goes, "Would you like to go out sometime?" And then the girl, "No thanks.. I uh.... already.. have.. I gotta go, my friends are waiting for me in the bathroom. Bye."

The guy's thinking, "Why didn't she go out with me? Is it my breath? Am I ugly? What's the problem?" Here's the problem: Just because a guy validates a girl doesn't mean she has to like him back. Validating shows no idea of who the guy is, what he does, why she should date him instead of the other hundred guys in line, and how he's attractive. A girl will only like someone she's ATTRACTED to. The definition of attraction is the feeling of liking. So why in the world would a guy want to validate a girl who doesn't even know who he is or isn't even sure whether or not she will like him??

This is why people need to project themselves when meeting others. They need to show that they are actually very fun, energetic, and well-rounded. The best part is that most people share what they think is and isn't attractive. This is why a list of all the attractive characteristics one can possess is so helpful. The majority of the world WILL find these attractive. Let's get started!

An attraction switch is something that all women find attractive in men.

First of all, ATTRACTION IS NOT A CHOICE.

You don't get to choose how attractive another person is. When you talk to girls and you show the right characteristics, they WILL fall for you. They can't help it. You decide.
Check out highschoolpuas.proboards.com/index.cgi?board=attraction&action=display&thread=283 for more info.

The list + why:

• Pre-Selection
  Women will instinctively be attracted to a man who already has other women wanting him and talking about him. It makes him come off like a... 'toy'... that all the other girls have and like she's missing out on something amazing. Hard to explain common sense.
  
  
• Leader
  Women like men who lead others and help others succeed. Back in time when we were cavemen, we had groups of people, called Tribes. Every tribe had a leader, and that leader was a man. All the women wanted to have HIS babies, not the other dozens of men. He would be the one who would be the BEST at protecting her and her children. He would be the one who was better than everyone else and was chosen to be leader. Make sense? This 'theory' is very very well known by NORMAL people who aren't PUAs either. It's also the basis of why women find certain attributes attractive in men.
  
  
• Fun
  Fun. When you have fun, it shows that everything is going your way and that everything in your life is going the way you want. If you're not having fun, it seems like you're under some stress and you have some huge problem on your shoulders. This sends out a negative vibe and people won't want to hang out with you. If you are having fun, then people will want to be a part of the fun you are having and will want to hang out with you.
  
  
• Willingness to Emote
  Imagine a robot who you could have conversations with like it was an actual person, but it spoke in monotone and had no facial/body expressions. Boring, right? It's good to be emotional about things. That's not to say make a big deal out of everything like an immature brat, but simply to have feelings for others. Matador has a sweet example where he was at dinner with his girlfriend, his brother, and his bro's gf and he said, "Bro, I just love you so much and I'm very very thankful to have you as my brother."
  He also sang a song later on that night. Although he had an average voice with average singing skills, his GF was soo amazed by his willingness to emote.
  Guess who got laid that night? Yeah, Matador.
  
  
• Being Merciful
  No one likes the person who will be so mean and immature as to HURT someone when they don't have to. There's a music video for a song called Agape by For Today. Agape means Christian Love. In the video, a guy is constantly bullying another guy in school. Later on, the bully pushes the kid in the hallways, and everyone is screaming FIGHT FIGHT FIGHT! The kid grabs the bully's collar, looks him straight in the eye, and then let's him go.
  Everyone knew he could well have easily beat the bully up. But he didn't even though he could. He showed mercy. Guess who got a kiss at the end of the music video?
  
  
• Protector of Loved Ones
  Choose the person who you think is much cooler:
  Person 1: A man's brother calls him and asks if he could take care of his niece. The man agrees. The 7 year old niece comes over and they go to the store to buy some groceries. As they're leaving, the girl trips and falls. The man laughs his niece and doesn't even care about the fact that she has a scratch on her elbow.
  
  Person 2: A man's brother calls him and asks if he could take care of his niece. The man agrees. The 7 year old niece comes over and they go to the store to buy some groceries. As they're leaving, the girl trips and falls. The man hugs her, and comforts her telling her that it's just a tiny scratch that'll go away. He treats her to some ice cream for being a big brave girl.
  
  Do I even have to explain?
  
  
• Having a deep voice
  So women like men who show a sense of maturity. Maturity is strongly correlated with age. The older someone is, the more mature he is. Mature men are believed to have deep and soothing voices. George Clooney is well known by women for his sexy voice. Also, talk with Dante from this forum. His voice will be a very alpha male kind of voice. It's attractive, it just is.
  
  
• Being Relaxed
  Very much relates to having fun. You have nothing to be worried about, everything is okay. Being relaxed shows this. Having relaxed facial expressions, a relaxed voice, and relaxed gestures are essential when coming off as attractive. Relax your shoulders, relax your chest and stomach, relax your face and arms. Nice, ain't it?
  
  
• Making deep eye contact
  Girls really really like a guy with cute eyes.
  It's easy to have cute eyes though, there are two factors: eye contact + eye health. Make sure you stay healthy and have lots of rest so your eyes wont be blood shot. And when you talk with people, hold eye contact. The entire time. The girls will fall in love with you and the guys will open up as friends in no time. It shows you have nothing to hide and that you respect them. It's attractive, do it.
  
  
• Having things in common
  A huuugeee part of making a girl attracted to you is making her believe you guys pretty much share the same life. This makes her soo much more comfortable around you and she feels like someone finally understands her. So always try to focus on the commonalities you and your girl share, not how different you guys are.
  
  
• Having a passion/Having goals in life
  Having goals in life is probably one of the important things a man will need. Without having reason or intent, you won't get anywhere in life. You need to show you're trying to improve your own self and your life. You need to talk about all the things you really have an interest in and you need to put emotion into it.
  
  
• Being Smart and Intelligent
  Being intelligent is also something that many girls find attractive. It shows you are smart enough to survive and that you will be able to plan things out and lead them through hardships and such. A stupid person won't be able to do this, but a smart one will.
  
  
• Being Physically Fit
  This ties in with the whole survival thing. It won't matter how smart you are if your body won't behave as your mind wishes. If you're fat and plump and you have a bad heart, how will you be able to do the hard physical labor a man does?
  
  
• Being Successful
  Whatever your passion/goal is, you better damn be successful. If you fail at something you tried at, you need to start fixing things up. Failure is something that shows "There are people who are better than him because they can do this but he can't." Always strive for success, it'll come eventually.
  
  
• Willingness to Walk Away
  This just shows that you are not desperate of anything that a girl might have and that you have a lot of options when it comes to girls. This automatically turns on other switches like pre-selection. Whenever a set starts going muddy, just walk away for a bit and come back when you're refreshed.
  
  
• Social Proof
  This is probably the single most important attractive trait a high school PUA should possess when it comes to gaming in one's own social circle. You should be seen as everybody's friend, but the kind that people actually like. NOT the ones that just.. hang around everyone else. Make sure everyone knows who you are, and why you're so damn cute. Best way to get value is to have other people in your social circle tell others all about you. You didn't even have to do anything but be nice, which I hope comes naturally.... lol
  
  
• Being Older
  This ties in with being mature and responsible. Being older is a solid attraction switch that will never fail. All girls love older men. Let me say that again: ALL GIRLS LOVE OLDER MEN. Now there's a certain line that says "He's too old for me.", but when you're 2-4 years older than a girl, most likely she'll already put you above other guys on her 'guys i'd like to fuck' list. So what am I saying? Try to make yourself look older, grow a beard, make yourself look 'bigger'. And there's nothing wrong with picking up girls 1-2 years younger than you, as long as they're hot. ;]
  
  

[twitchy]

You're missed out 'protector of loved ones', but other than that, all great .

[Grape]

come on man, gimme some more =]

[Alek]

willingness to walk away

living in your own reality

social proof

[Mandrake]

This might just be the best post on the forum. +1....hahah holy shit you have 58 rep now

PS, the protector of loved ones should be a protector of all. You should just be a protector, and you can show that through dominant and alpha behaviour. I'd go into more detail about how to be "the protector", but I'm REALLY hungry, so I'm heading off and gettin myself some munchies

Peace

[Grape]

:OO i should set mine to -9999999999.

[Mr. Scientist]

Brilliant in bed?
up to date with fashion
good hygiene
Able to escalate/lead

lol I have no idea

[methodjkl11]

kickass post man!

really appreciate it.


every aspiring PUA needs to look at this or something similar.

[Mandrake]

From DYD:



Personality Traits That Attract Women

In the next chapter, I'm going to describe MY particular unique
personality and the 'character' that I become when I'm meeting
women.
But before I do that, I'd like to talk about some of the different
personality traits that women find most attractive. Some are better
when used with others, and some don't work well together. Here is the
list with brief descriptions. I'll talk more about combining after.

• Funny. Humor is just plain powerful with women. If you can
keep her laughing, you will go far.

• Intelligent and Creative. Intelligence is sexy IF it's used in a
way that's interesting to her. Use your creativity and intelligence
to surprise her with ideas, fantasies and unexpected things that
charm her.

• Educated. Education is attractive to women as long as it's used
in an interesting way. Some women are actually intimidated by
education, as they're not educated (This usually works in your
favor).

• Classy and Cultured. If you have class, women pick up on this.
Do your shoes and belt match? Do you understand interior
design and color contrast? Do you know about different types of
wine? Do you like foreign movies? Do you understand fashion?
Do you like Frank Sinatra? Do you enjoy exotic foods? Do you
serve her Hors d'oeuvres and a glass of wine when she visits? Do
you open all doors for her? Women notice this stuff BIG TIME.

• Confident/Cocky. Women are magnetically attracted to men
who are just a little bit too cocky. Just a little bit. This is a tough
one to explain. Many men take this to mean 'overly arrogant'
which is not what I mean. If you watch Pierce Brosnan in 'The
Thomas Crown Affair' or Clarke Gable in 'Gone With The Wind' or
Tom Cruise in 'Top Gun' you'll get an idea of what I'm talking
about. The confident/cocky trait is mild overconfidence combined
with humor. Drives women wild.

• Expertise. If you're an expert in an area that is interesting to
your kind of woman, this can be attractive. It needs to be
presented from a "I know a lot about this, let me show you"
perspective, not a "I'm cool and you're not" angle.

• Attention. Women like attention. And interestingly enough, it's
better to hint at the attention that you're giving them than to be
too overt about it. If you say "I was thinking about you earlier
today. And I just wanted to mention that I really like the sound
of your voice..." it's much more powerful than listening to them
complain about something so they think you're paying attention.
Get it?

• Disinterest, Indifference, a Challenge. Most women are used
to being pursued by men in one way or another. If you are
indifferent to a woman, make her think that you're only calling
because you're bored, and act almost disinterested sexually,
they'll often do their very best to get your attention. Different is
good in this case. Again, this drives most women crazy, and
even though they'd hate to admit it, it's ultra interesting to
them.

• Dominant. Women have an unconscious attraction to dominant
men. The dominant males in some primate groups account for
up to 75% of all the matings, while the less dominant males go
without. Same goes for humans.

• Thoughtful. Women don't just like gifts, they like knowing that
you were THINKING of them. The gift is a SYMBOL. Women feel
the same amount of good inside whether it's a card or a
diamond (of course the diamond lasts longer, so there are more
'times of feeling good!'). But the fact is that women like to know
that you're thinking about them. Even if you're telling a woman
that you don't like it that she was out with another guy, she'll
like it, because it means you were thinking about her!

• Notices Significant Details. Women don't just notice details,
they USE them to try to be attractive and attentive. If she is
wearing a sexy outfit, she didn't put it on by accident. If her hair
is done nicely, it wasn't a fluke. Women are very impressed and
attracted to men that notice these details.

• Unpredictable/Predictable. Here's a paradox. Women are
drawn to men that they can't control or predict. They obsess
over guys who flirt and give them attention, then don't call the
next day. Predictability is only attractive when it comes to
choosing a HUSBAND. Then a woman usually wants a man who's
VERY predictable.

• Enthusiastic, Fun, Happy. Nothing is a bigger turn off than a
killjoy. Some men get upset and pout when a woman is happy,
and try to put down the things that she enjoys to sound
superior. This is usually a HUGE mistake. Enthusiasm is
infectious and attractive.

• Adventurous. Women are instantly attracted to men who like to
do extreme, adventurous, unusual, even dangerous things. It's
exciting. Adventurism is sexy.

• Aggressive. Women love men that know what they want and go
after it. Passion is a sign of life. I'm not talking about the kind of
aggressive that turns into date rape. I'm talking about the kind
of aggressive that turns into setting a goal and then going after
it with passion and getting it no matter what.

• Charm (attention with a polished, smooth approach). This is
hard to describe. Watch a James Bond movie to get an idea. And
watch 'Dirty Rotten Scoundrels.' Pay attention to Michael Cain's
character. Charm is powerful because it has a certain 'prince on
a white horse' aspect to it.

• Romantic Imagination and Perspective. Watch the movie
'Don Juan DeMarco' and listen to how Don Juan interprets the
world. Instead of just looking at the surface of a woman, he
looks within to find the beautiful part. A romantic imagination
sees opportunities for poetic comments, interesting stories,
fascinating history, and emotional interpretation in everything.

• Expert in Body Language. This is important, as women are
constantly sending signals. I'll talk more in a later chapter about
this.

• Sexual Mastery. Women love sex just as much as men do. But
just like everything else in life, a great lover is not easy to find.
Women become instantly addicted to skillful lovers who know
how to make them feel ecstasy and teach them new ways of
feeling incredible.

[machete]

this is some pretty amazing stuf

[perceverance]

Excellent post.