Post by Grape on Oct 7, 2008 18:50:15 GMT -5
Written by Swinggcat
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When most men see a woman throwing herself at an average looking male, they think, “He must have a mystical and innate sex appeal.”
Well, my friend, there isn't anything mystical or inborn about this guy's sex appeal. At a certain point he stumbled onto doing something to women that neither my friend nor 9/10ths of men trudging through the single scene trenches know exists.
I'm talkin' about SEXUAL TENSION
“What exactly is sexual tension?” you might be wondering.
It's a mixture of emotions: think excitement with a dash of fear, titillation with a tinge of uneasiness, and intrigue with a smidgen of worry.
Unlike the answer to a math problem, our cognitive faculties aren't responsible for producing sexual tension.
Instead... more primitive areas of our brain – known as the limbic and reptilian systems – bring sexual tension to life.
That's why a woman cannot choose to feel or NOT feel sexual tension for a guy. It is outside of her conscious control.
There are two forms of sexual tension: Passive Sexual Tension (PST) and Active Sexual Tension (AST).
Passive Sexual Tension (PST) is when you do or say something that besots a woman into a passive sexual state.
Years ago my sister and her friends got to have dinner with Johnny Depp. She was so attracted to Mr. Depp, that she just sat there like dumb dear in headlights, gawking at him in silence and feeling too tongue tied to talk.
That's an example of Passive Sexual Tension.
But I'm not going to talk about them in this letter. Instead I want to discuss Active Sexual Tension (AST).
Active Sexual Tension is similar to its passive brother except that it activates structures in a woman's brain that compel her to resolve the tension by behaving in very specific ways.
Let's say, for example, I'm talkin' to a woman and sense that she's into me.
At a certain point I might say to her: “You are terribly sarcastic…but that's cool because I'm the exact same way. And if we were to hang out we'd have the best time making fun of the people around us at their expense… but then our Karma would be tainted… so we can NEVER be friends.”
Most likely, this will trigger Active Sexual Tension, compelling her to insist: “Noo! We have to hang out! We've gotta be friends! We are going to have so much fun!”
Can you see why this is works? Why it's so powerful?
This example plays on a psychological mechanism you already know about.
When someone tells us that we cannot have something, it builds tension in us... and our mind is programmed to release that tension by attempting to get that thing.
Think of a car salesman. When he has a prospect hemming and hawing over a car, he knows that if he tells the prospect the car won't be there tomorrow because several other people are interested in purchasing it, there's a good chance the prospect will buy the car on the spot.
But, when you spark this tension in the context of dating and attraction, it becomes sexualized.
Active Sexual Tension should be structured as a tension loop...
1). Tension is sparked.
2). Tension is increased
3). Tension is released.
4). Tension is spark all over again.
Good movies have this structure…
The movie begins by introducing conflict or drama, sparking unresolved emotional tension inside the viewer.
Emotional tension increases up until the point of the climax.
The tension, then, is released by bringing some resolution to the conflict or drama.
And, finally, the movie ends by sparking that tension all over again, compelling you to see the sequel.
To get a feel for this, here's a real life dialogue…
It started off with the woman commenting on something I was saying to her friend.
Girl: Ew… that's gross. You're gross.
Swinggcat: (said after a long sigh) I had a feeling you couldn't handle me!
Girl: No no! That's not true. I can handle you.
Swinggcat: Alright… let's see how well you thumb wrestle.
(I win the thumb wrestling competition by shamelessly cheating).
Girl: You cheated! That's no fair. I want a rematch.
Swinggcat: You know what… you're a feisty woman who knows what she wants. I like that about you.
Girl: Thanks
Swinggcat: You just went up a notch in my book. Now you're at a one.
Girl: (laughing) You're F- ing really funny!
Swinggcat: You have good taste.
Girl: You have good taste. You're talkin' to me.
Swinggcat: Let's find out (I grab her and kiss her).
Swinggcat: Mm! I do have good taste.
This isn't just some cutesy conversation I had with a woman. There are a lot of deep, psychological mechanisms at work here and many layers of communication taking place.
One you might be familiar with is Push-Pull: emotionally pushing a woman a way from you, and then pulling her back in. Notice how one piece of communication pushes her away... and then next pulls her in. This builds heaps of sexual tension.
But there's something else that's very powerful going on here...
I'm using a special class of sexual tension.
Each type of sexual tension in this class does a heck of a lot more than just arousing women.
Each one emotionally drives women to behave in a unique way.
I call this special class of sexual tension "compliance triggers."
Over the past several years I've discovered dozens of these compliance triggers for getting you the outcome you want with women.
Let me ask you a question...
If you had control over women's behavior, how would your life be different? Just imagine how much success you would experience with women.
You could physically coerce women into doing things.
But that's morally icky. Not mention, it could land you in prison.
The other option is mastering the compliance triggers that get you the success with women you deserve.
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When most men see a woman throwing herself at an average looking male, they think, “He must have a mystical and innate sex appeal.”
Well, my friend, there isn't anything mystical or inborn about this guy's sex appeal. At a certain point he stumbled onto doing something to women that neither my friend nor 9/10ths of men trudging through the single scene trenches know exists.
I'm talkin' about SEXUAL TENSION
“What exactly is sexual tension?” you might be wondering.
It's a mixture of emotions: think excitement with a dash of fear, titillation with a tinge of uneasiness, and intrigue with a smidgen of worry.
Unlike the answer to a math problem, our cognitive faculties aren't responsible for producing sexual tension.
Instead... more primitive areas of our brain – known as the limbic and reptilian systems – bring sexual tension to life.
That's why a woman cannot choose to feel or NOT feel sexual tension for a guy. It is outside of her conscious control.
There are two forms of sexual tension: Passive Sexual Tension (PST) and Active Sexual Tension (AST).
Passive Sexual Tension (PST) is when you do or say something that besots a woman into a passive sexual state.
Years ago my sister and her friends got to have dinner with Johnny Depp. She was so attracted to Mr. Depp, that she just sat there like dumb dear in headlights, gawking at him in silence and feeling too tongue tied to talk.
That's an example of Passive Sexual Tension.
But I'm not going to talk about them in this letter. Instead I want to discuss Active Sexual Tension (AST).
Active Sexual Tension is similar to its passive brother except that it activates structures in a woman's brain that compel her to resolve the tension by behaving in very specific ways.
Let's say, for example, I'm talkin' to a woman and sense that she's into me.
At a certain point I might say to her: “You are terribly sarcastic…but that's cool because I'm the exact same way. And if we were to hang out we'd have the best time making fun of the people around us at their expense… but then our Karma would be tainted… so we can NEVER be friends.”
Most likely, this will trigger Active Sexual Tension, compelling her to insist: “Noo! We have to hang out! We've gotta be friends! We are going to have so much fun!”
Can you see why this is works? Why it's so powerful?
This example plays on a psychological mechanism you already know about.
When someone tells us that we cannot have something, it builds tension in us... and our mind is programmed to release that tension by attempting to get that thing.
Think of a car salesman. When he has a prospect hemming and hawing over a car, he knows that if he tells the prospect the car won't be there tomorrow because several other people are interested in purchasing it, there's a good chance the prospect will buy the car on the spot.
But, when you spark this tension in the context of dating and attraction, it becomes sexualized.
Active Sexual Tension should be structured as a tension loop...
1). Tension is sparked.
2). Tension is increased
3). Tension is released.
4). Tension is spark all over again.
Good movies have this structure…
The movie begins by introducing conflict or drama, sparking unresolved emotional tension inside the viewer.
Emotional tension increases up until the point of the climax.
The tension, then, is released by bringing some resolution to the conflict or drama.
And, finally, the movie ends by sparking that tension all over again, compelling you to see the sequel.
To get a feel for this, here's a real life dialogue…
It started off with the woman commenting on something I was saying to her friend.
Girl: Ew… that's gross. You're gross.
Swinggcat: (said after a long sigh) I had a feeling you couldn't handle me!
Girl: No no! That's not true. I can handle you.
Swinggcat: Alright… let's see how well you thumb wrestle.
(I win the thumb wrestling competition by shamelessly cheating).
Girl: You cheated! That's no fair. I want a rematch.
Swinggcat: You know what… you're a feisty woman who knows what she wants. I like that about you.
Girl: Thanks
Swinggcat: You just went up a notch in my book. Now you're at a one.
Girl: (laughing) You're F- ing really funny!
Swinggcat: You have good taste.
Girl: You have good taste. You're talkin' to me.
Swinggcat: Let's find out (I grab her and kiss her).
Swinggcat: Mm! I do have good taste.
This isn't just some cutesy conversation I had with a woman. There are a lot of deep, psychological mechanisms at work here and many layers of communication taking place.
One you might be familiar with is Push-Pull: emotionally pushing a woman a way from you, and then pulling her back in. Notice how one piece of communication pushes her away... and then next pulls her in. This builds heaps of sexual tension.
But there's something else that's very powerful going on here...
I'm using a special class of sexual tension.
Each type of sexual tension in this class does a heck of a lot more than just arousing women.
Each one emotionally drives women to behave in a unique way.
I call this special class of sexual tension "compliance triggers."
Over the past several years I've discovered dozens of these compliance triggers for getting you the outcome you want with women.
Let me ask you a question...
If you had control over women's behavior, how would your life be different? Just imagine how much success you would experience with women.
You could physically coerce women into doing things.
But that's morally icky. Not mention, it could land you in prison.
The other option is mastering the compliance triggers that get you the success with women you deserve.
