Post by Grape on Jun 27, 2009 21:35:26 GMT -5
Changing up your daily life [being unpredictable]
You are constantly being judged. It's the truth. You also judge others constantly. It's a tool of survival that has been implanted into our instincts and we learn that we must judge others to be able to know who is dangerous, who is valuable, and who is weak. But over the centuries, humans have learned the game of lying and deceiving. Many people fake themselves, create illusions, and manipulate others into thinking what they'd like to be thought as, and for the most part, they succeed in doing this act. Even we fake ourselves many times, sometimes we do it consciously and other times subconsciously. Let's go through what people look for when judging someone and how we can apply this concept to our own advantage.
People judge other people by their:
- Intelligence & Skills
- Personality & Identity
- Outer-Validation & Rapport
If one can make these three traits about him unpredictable, he will instill tension inside everyone around him.
How to be unpredictable:
Intelligence & Skills
Constantly change their focus on a good skill you possess and then a not so good skill. For example, I am an amazing guitarist but I can't sing so well. I tell a story about how I was on stage playing music and how I am glad I don't sing for my band anymore because I'm so bad at it. Also, demonstrate your intelligence through everyday role-playing. If you're working on a science project in class, help others succeed in their work while asking for help to better your own. It's a mutual benefit and you gain the respect and good judgment from others.
Personality & Identity
Once people have you figured out, they'll either stick around or avoid you when they can. Have them around for a long time wondering what kind of person you are by acting bi-polar with multiple ATTRACTIVE personalities. Be cute and adorable, and then act cocky and funny, and then like a father figure, and so forth. All these personalities are attractive to women, so if you keep switching between, they'll be amazed and want you around forever.
The one thing that's iffy about this tactic is the whole concept of incongruency. Once they've labeled you, it'll be hard to get away from that label. Guys will receive a "shit-test" from girls in which girls will ask indirectly "Did you really change or are you faking it for attention?"
If you pass, she will be attracted. If not, bye bye girl.
Outer-Validation & Rapport
This tactic will be explained in further detail by our lovely Andrew and our magnificent Luc.
People crave attention. Attention gives proof of value and importance in the world. Without importance, we are nothing. Once people receive your full validation, they'll seek for others' validation right away; after all, we only have so much time to live. We can constantly change our validation towards people and keep them around forever. This is a reason on why some relationships last forever. It's because playing a game of validation can last a lifetime. It instills emotion inside a person and the participant is never bored of it or satisfied with it. It's an unresolved mystery that is heavily manipulated by their own imaginations!! A wonderful tool us PUAs like to call Push-Pull.
Overall:
Don't focus on being one kind of person. Don't label yourself as being purely cute and funny. Be natural, and just go with the flow. You will realize you could be more than you ever thought possible. Be alpha, be receptive, be nice, be cocky, be ALPHA.
Tell it like it is. Don't hide your true feelings just so someone will think their pants make them look skinny. Everyone has their goods and bads. Every day you will notice a good thing and a bad thing about a person. Instead of flattering them with compliments or being a complete asshole, just tell them the things you like and don't like about them in a nice way.
Also, control your own life. As soon as people label you, you must know that you have to change just to have them not be able to label you for a long time. Don't let others limit you from the great aspirations you have in life. You control your own life, so go create yourself.
- Grape
You are constantly being judged. It's the truth. You also judge others constantly. It's a tool of survival that has been implanted into our instincts and we learn that we must judge others to be able to know who is dangerous, who is valuable, and who is weak. But over the centuries, humans have learned the game of lying and deceiving. Many people fake themselves, create illusions, and manipulate others into thinking what they'd like to be thought as, and for the most part, they succeed in doing this act. Even we fake ourselves many times, sometimes we do it consciously and other times subconsciously. Let's go through what people look for when judging someone and how we can apply this concept to our own advantage.
People judge other people by their:
- Intelligence & Skills
- Personality & Identity
- Outer-Validation & Rapport
If one can make these three traits about him unpredictable, he will instill tension inside everyone around him.
How to be unpredictable:
Intelligence & Skills
Constantly change their focus on a good skill you possess and then a not so good skill. For example, I am an amazing guitarist but I can't sing so well. I tell a story about how I was on stage playing music and how I am glad I don't sing for my band anymore because I'm so bad at it. Also, demonstrate your intelligence through everyday role-playing. If you're working on a science project in class, help others succeed in their work while asking for help to better your own. It's a mutual benefit and you gain the respect and good judgment from others.
Personality & Identity
Once people have you figured out, they'll either stick around or avoid you when they can. Have them around for a long time wondering what kind of person you are by acting bi-polar with multiple ATTRACTIVE personalities. Be cute and adorable, and then act cocky and funny, and then like a father figure, and so forth. All these personalities are attractive to women, so if you keep switching between, they'll be amazed and want you around forever.
The one thing that's iffy about this tactic is the whole concept of incongruency. Once they've labeled you, it'll be hard to get away from that label. Guys will receive a "shit-test" from girls in which girls will ask indirectly "Did you really change or are you faking it for attention?"
If you pass, she will be attracted. If not, bye bye girl.
Outer-Validation & Rapport
This tactic will be explained in further detail by our lovely Andrew and our magnificent Luc.
People crave attention. Attention gives proof of value and importance in the world. Without importance, we are nothing. Once people receive your full validation, they'll seek for others' validation right away; after all, we only have so much time to live. We can constantly change our validation towards people and keep them around forever. This is a reason on why some relationships last forever. It's because playing a game of validation can last a lifetime. It instills emotion inside a person and the participant is never bored of it or satisfied with it. It's an unresolved mystery that is heavily manipulated by their own imaginations!! A wonderful tool us PUAs like to call Push-Pull.
Overall:
Don't focus on being one kind of person. Don't label yourself as being purely cute and funny. Be natural, and just go with the flow. You will realize you could be more than you ever thought possible. Be alpha, be receptive, be nice, be cocky, be ALPHA.
Tell it like it is. Don't hide your true feelings just so someone will think their pants make them look skinny. Everyone has their goods and bads. Every day you will notice a good thing and a bad thing about a person. Instead of flattering them with compliments or being a complete asshole, just tell them the things you like and don't like about them in a nice way.
Also, control your own life. As soon as people label you, you must know that you have to change just to have them not be able to label you for a long time. Don't let others limit you from the great aspirations you have in life. You control your own life, so go create yourself.
- Grape