Post by Grape on Jun 27, 2009 21:39:25 GMT -5
Social Value plays a BIG role in the art of pick up.
It shows that you're a cool person who has a successful social life.
How can we apply the concept of social value to our lives and pick up?
Well first of all, we don't have to focus on getting it so much once we've obtained some of it and we can now focus on using it on getting girls, establishing relationships, etc.
At school, I did an experiment where I would act the same but change up my social value every period. It made a HUGE difference.
During one period, I would be my friendly self but not mention anything that would indicate I'm a man of high value.
Another period, I just mentioned ONE story about how I'm trying to cut down on phone time because my grades are falling.
Talking on the phone indicates I'm a social person.
This ONE story subconsciously communicated to my peers that I had social value.
This ONE story changed their actions towards me.
Value may not seem important at times, but without it, one has a risk of being used, manipulated, ignored, and look down on.
So now we use this value to generate attraction.
In general, girls are much more instinctive and emotional than guys and they're more likely to follow the code of nature rather than the code of logic.
They'll naturally be attracted to the guys with more value and popularity.
A relationship between two opposites sexes occur in the following: Attraction, then Comfort, then Seduction.
Once you've gained this value, you don't have to worry about attracting her. You can automatically talk friendly with her and found out more things about her, which you can later accept as attractive and qualify her as being a girl worthy of your presence.
The way I view social dynamics, it all depends on these things:
- Value
- Personality
- Validation
Now you only have to focus on 2 of 3 things: personality and validation.
Personality is strongly connected to value. The right personality will receive the right value.
So don't be the shy guy anymore, it won't get you anywhere.
You MUST be willing to change.
You will need to:
1. Set a goal
2. Take action
3. Assess yourself
4. Be flexible with your options
Be willing to change your personality and be the guy who's:
- Playful
- Confident
- Energetic
- Ambitious
- Intelligent
- Caring
- Leading
Stay away from:
- Neediness
- Desperation
- Violence
- Anger
- Immaturity
- Shyness
Validation is given and taken by people and you also give and take value from people.
Letting someone know exactly what you think about them isn't as effective as making them constantly wonder about how you view them.
So, we use techniques such as push-pull and bait-reel-hook-release.
It's all about making someone think you see them as one thing, and then confusing them by saying something the opposite.
EX: Hey you're cute, but you're too quiet.
The "you're cute" part makes them feel as if you validate them and you like them, as where the "but you're too quiet" part makes them feel as if they've lost the validation you gave them half a second before.
Validation feels good!! No one wants to be hated.
Once you give them a taste of your validation, take it away from them and make them reach after it.
This is how you keep relationships up and alive! Otherwise it gets boring and turns into a pile of moosh.
<33 Grape
It shows that you're a cool person who has a successful social life.
How can we apply the concept of social value to our lives and pick up?
Well first of all, we don't have to focus on getting it so much once we've obtained some of it and we can now focus on using it on getting girls, establishing relationships, etc.
At school, I did an experiment where I would act the same but change up my social value every period. It made a HUGE difference.
During one period, I would be my friendly self but not mention anything that would indicate I'm a man of high value.
Another period, I just mentioned ONE story about how I'm trying to cut down on phone time because my grades are falling.
Talking on the phone indicates I'm a social person.
This ONE story subconsciously communicated to my peers that I had social value.
This ONE story changed their actions towards me.
Value may not seem important at times, but without it, one has a risk of being used, manipulated, ignored, and look down on.
So now we use this value to generate attraction.
In general, girls are much more instinctive and emotional than guys and they're more likely to follow the code of nature rather than the code of logic.
They'll naturally be attracted to the guys with more value and popularity.
A relationship between two opposites sexes occur in the following: Attraction, then Comfort, then Seduction.
Once you've gained this value, you don't have to worry about attracting her. You can automatically talk friendly with her and found out more things about her, which you can later accept as attractive and qualify her as being a girl worthy of your presence.
The way I view social dynamics, it all depends on these things:
- Value
- Personality
- Validation
Now you only have to focus on 2 of 3 things: personality and validation.
Personality is strongly connected to value. The right personality will receive the right value.
So don't be the shy guy anymore, it won't get you anywhere.
You MUST be willing to change.
You will need to:
1. Set a goal
2. Take action
3. Assess yourself
4. Be flexible with your options
Be willing to change your personality and be the guy who's:
- Playful
- Confident
- Energetic
- Ambitious
- Intelligent
- Caring
- Leading
Stay away from:
- Neediness
- Desperation
- Violence
- Anger
- Immaturity
- Shyness
Validation is given and taken by people and you also give and take value from people.
Letting someone know exactly what you think about them isn't as effective as making them constantly wonder about how you view them.
So, we use techniques such as push-pull and bait-reel-hook-release.
It's all about making someone think you see them as one thing, and then confusing them by saying something the opposite.
EX: Hey you're cute, but you're too quiet.
The "you're cute" part makes them feel as if you validate them and you like them, as where the "but you're too quiet" part makes them feel as if they've lost the validation you gave them half a second before.
Validation feels good!! No one wants to be hated.
Once you give them a taste of your validation, take it away from them and make them reach after it.
This is how you keep relationships up and alive! Otherwise it gets boring and turns into a pile of moosh.
<33 Grape
