Escalating sexually

[samiam]

Well, I've been going out with this girl for almost a month now, and I'm trying to get more out of her. We haven't really been able to hang out and get comfortable with each other until the past two weeks, but since then we've had some extended make-out sessions, but I'm aiming for more.

Trouble is, when I've tried to escalate past just kissing/groping she's stopped me. I've been acting like it's no big deal that she doesn't feel ready, because I thought making a big deal about it would not be a smart move. Plus, pretty sure I'm the first guy she's ever done anything with.

So, I could use some help. How do I get my inexperienced girlfriend to be more sexually open with me? If it's relevant at all, I'm leaving on saturday to go live in DC for a month, so maybe her missing me might help out when I return?

[extra]

Honestly i'm not sure how to help you, however I will leave a few ideas because i do know how this can be frustrating. After a month of being together you guys should at the least be starting to ease into actual sexual pleasing stuff.

Try getting her turned on more. Rub your knee against her vag, simulate fucking motions while you kiss, kiss her neck and stuff, make her feel sexy (though don't be too AFC about it obviously). Make sure she's COMFORTABLE! This is IMPORTANT, especially if this is the first time she's gone into this territory. Be alone and know that you won't be interrupted when you try new things.

Do you know how to escalate semi-smoothly? How does she stop you? Don't just go for the vag and stuff, work your way around. Caress her whole body, don't stay anywhere too long. If you're getting a bad reaction back off and go back later if you want to. If she stops you by grabbing your hand when you go to near wherever, like i've experienced in the past, one way i've dealt with it is by grabbing her hand back like it was what you wanted and continuing to make out, or grabbing her and pulling her close, then going back later, and repeat. Don't push her into anything, but repeatedly give her the opportunity. Don't jump around, be predictable with where you're going. Surprises can force nos where she would normally be comfortable. I'm not the best, but this has worked for me. Look up last minute resistance for more about this.

It might just be she isn't ready or is afraid she'll embarass herself or something. If the above doesn't work, talk about it! Be clear that you WILL NOT AND DO NOT WANT TO force her into doing ANYTHING she isn't comfortable with, but you feel that the relationship should keep going and get better. Also be clear that while you don't just want to get in her pants or whatever, you want to give her pleasure and enhance the relationship you both have together (assuming this is true, don't lie). Talk about why she is so hesitant, and if she still needs time, it's up to you whether to put up with it or let her know that you can't keep the relationship going if this is the end game, as it isn't fair to either of you.

[SenorBubbz]

With the talking about it thing that extra said, be sure to use the word progress.

girls love that word when it comes to relationships

[Alek]

I got the perfect plan for u. Night before u leave, go to her house..but earlier make sure its light out. Chill nothing sexual, but tell her that ur going to dc and u gotta wake up early. So eventually, make out and once u feel resistance, just get up and say. Hey, its getting late. I gotta wake up early tomorrow. If this doesn't plow thru the resistance, then Walk towards the door, and say bye. She will feel the sense of loss, but then say actually...and motion for her to come here.

That should do the trick, but the key is to tell her that day prior to, that you have to go to dc tomorrow and wake up early

Oh, and also make sure you imply at some point that it feels weird when she isnt around you, will break thru lmr. So like, if she leaves the room be like..wow this is really strange but it felt so weird when you were gone.

If you wanna get the girl, you have to be willing to lose her

Good luck man, and bring rubbers ;p

[sharkoffs]

Two words....Freeze Out

[Johnny Bravo]

Jun 30, 2009 0:30:59 GMT -5 extra said:

Honestly i'm not sure how to help you, however I will leave a few ideas because i do know how this can be frustrating.

Out of all he posted...this is all that holds true.


Heres what you do....
First girls won't want to do anything unless they are really really wet.

What I would do personally, make out with her. Pull her hair, bite her neck. Do all the sexual techniques from David shades 'Give women multiple screaming orgasms' book.

Once she is wet, after about 5 minutes of all those things (pulling hair, bitting, rubbing your hands up and down her body) get in her ear and bite her ear. Then whisper "Baby your so wet right now huh?"

IF SHE SAYS NO.

Shes a fucking liar. Slap the bitch and tell her don't ever fucking lie to you again....


don't do that....but let me tell you, girls get wet just as much as we get hard. FACT.

Anyway, so once you say that, she can respond in any way. If shes like "how did you know?" "oh yeah I am" "your turning me on stop it" (which means fuck me) then be like "I want to make you wetter baby"

Take your hand, pull her hair. Then Slide your other hand down her pants (ass part, like litterally in her pants, past her asshole and you'll have to reach over to get her pussy. Feel it.)

She is less likely to reject it if you go from behind. FACT

Then finger her for a bit. Shove one in.

FIRST TIME I DID THIS I WAS FINGERING HER ASSHOLE. fact.

Don't do that. It will be realllllyyyyy wet. Trust me.


Finger her until shes moaning a bit.

Take your other hand thats not soaked in pussy juice and WHILE MAKING OUT. Un button her pants. If she moves your hand, take hers and put it above her...like this


Took like forever to find that. But just like that. you know. Where she can't move your hand.


Then stop pinning her hands and unbutton her pants. Once unbuttoned, just take your other hand out of her pussy and pull them AND the underwear off.

your choice here: Take off her bra (easy for her to stop you, blah blah we shouldn't do this, I wanna wait.

A girl's boobs are very sensitive and very sexual. So when that shit comes off, it means business.

Or just push her on the bed and start to finger her while making out/eat her out.





There you go. I could write pages on eating out/fingering/sex. The rest is up to you.