Personality Traits that are attractive to women.
Oct 8, 2008 19:55:09 GMT -5
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Post by Andrew on Oct 8, 2008 19:55:09 GMT -5
These are some universal attraction "switches" almost all women are affected by. Some are used better with others, some not so much. All should be looked at and are important. (fyi, traits are David D's, descriptions are my own.
Funny
Every girl when asks what they want with a guy they say "funny" "a sense of humor." They arent just messing with us here. If you can make a woman laugh, you'll do well. However, its important to make sure that you dont become "goofy." Ive fallen into this trap before. Stay funny, but dont be like, silly. This overall is still one of the most important things.
Intelligent/Creative/Educated
Intelligence can be very useful but needs to be used in a way thats interesting and creative. Do interesting things, USE THAT BRAINPOWER! If you do things to charm her, she'll be yours. Education can be a very powerful tool, but again, if used right. Some women can be intimidated by a guy being smarter than them. Many of the naturals that i know do very well in school. Learn to spell xD.
Classy/Cultured
Match your clothes, dress nice, dont be sloppy. Women notice sooo much more than guys do about whether or not your shoes match the belt that you SHOULD be wearing. None of this pants around the ass business. Also, ladies love a well traveled man. Ive found it fantastic to have gone to France (romance), and Amsterdam (excitement). Go places. I know you may not have much say in whether or not you get to go to Europe, but take part in the discussion anyway.
Dominant
BE ALPHA. David D shows a fact that in some primate groups dominant males account for 75% of all mating. Theres tons of stuff on this forum about alpha-ing it up. Very important to be and do.
Thoughtful
Women like that you were thinking of them. This can work in your favor in SOOO many ways. Don't buy flowers cause your trying to impress them on a first date; if your gonna do it do it because your in a relationship and your thinking of them. Even if your telling her that you didnt like it that she was hanging out with someone else, she'll like that you were thinking of her. Girls will do things to piss you off purposely just to see if your paying attention.
Notice Significant Details
In Adam Sandler's Click, Adam forgot his and his wife's song. HE then impressed her even further by telling her what shirt she was wearing. Notice EVERYTHING, pick up on EVERYTHINGGGGGG. If shes dressed at all nicely and looks good, its not by accident. Women LOVE this, and anybody with a female friend who has a boyfriend will vouch for this too.
Be Unpredictable
They might not ever admit it, but many women love guys and want guys they cant control or predict. Do surprising things. KEEP THEM ON THEIR TOES. Flirt heavily one day then kinda be distant or dont call them the next. Predictability is only a good factor when choosing a husband, but i dont think anybody's QUITE there yet.
Enthusiastic/Fun/Happy
I dated a girl once who had the worst self-body image in the world. She was soo depressing. Girls hate this too. Enthusiasm IS contagious! Be happy all the time and always fun. Because hey, when is FUN ever a turn-off?
Adventurous
Women are attracted to men who do different, exciting, dangerous, or extreme things. Take up rock climbing or something. Plus things that involve danger usually keep you in shape.
Passion
Women like a guy who knows what he wants to do and goes and gets it. A Go-Getter. Have goals and meet them.
Confident/Cocky
Its weird, i know. Women are attracted to men who are a little bit to cocky or confident. Some guys go one way and arent like this at all, while others Go completely the other way and be arrogant. I fell into the second trap when i started off doing C&F. You want "Mild overconfidence mixed with humor." If being cocky "doesnt work" for you, the least you can be is confident. Confidence is probably the most important thing for you to have.
Expert
Know how to do things. The more things you know how to do the more your likely to be awesome at something she loves or finds attractive or hot. A good bet is guitar or another instrument. This should be done with a "Im good at this, lemme show you," rather than "Im good at this and your not so nyeah."
Attention
Women like attention. Its important, however not to wait on them hand and foot. This is a little in contradiction with...
...Disinterest/A Challenge
If your goin after a smokin hot girl, or at least one who gets a lot of attention, chances are they get hit on. A lot. Be different from those guys. If your indifferent, or dont give them the CONSTANT attention (remember, keep her with you. Think Push/Pull) that shes used to, the more likely it is that she'll chase you. This drives women CRAZY. As much as they might not want to admit it, this is super-interesting.
Charm
This is hard to explain. Have charisma. Be the guy who knows everybody. I found what works for developing charisma is talk to a lot of different people. A LOT. find out what they like and dont like and exploit what they like, a lot. Get to know what makes people tick.
Romantic Imagination and Perspective
See the beauty in every woman. And in everything. This is where your gonna want to know all the emotional things that women love.
Expert in Body Language
Women pick up on things more than men do. They always do. Just have an understanding of body language and implement it always. Just have a subtext of different type of language.
Sexual Mastery
"Women love sex just as much as men do. But
just like everything else in life, a great lover is not easy to find.
Women become instantly addicted to skillful lovers who know
how to make them feel ecstasy and teach them new ways of
feeling incredible."
Hey, It doesn't hurt to ask someone. BE WILLING TO GO DOWN ON HER. Basically, there are two types of people: sexual givers, and sexual takers. I happen to be a sexual giver, in that I would rather go down on her first. I think its fucking hot. Know what your doing, and even if you dont, have some confidence in yourself. Read up on ways to help you last longer, moves, and other things like that. If you make her happy first, befor eyou even think about yourself, its gonna be HUGE for you.
Every woman is different. Not all of these will work on every girl the same way. But its a good idea to have a good grasp on each of these.
In addition, if you cannot master any or all of these, or have a short time frame with which to work, fake it. This has a lot to do with frames. How you frame yourself is very important, and if you can frame yourself with these traits, its going to be verrry benficial to you. Check out my post on framing for more info if its something your interested in.
Go get 'em
-Andrew
Funny
Every girl when asks what they want with a guy they say "funny" "a sense of humor." They arent just messing with us here. If you can make a woman laugh, you'll do well. However, its important to make sure that you dont become "goofy." Ive fallen into this trap before. Stay funny, but dont be like, silly. This overall is still one of the most important things.
Intelligent/Creative/Educated
Intelligence can be very useful but needs to be used in a way thats interesting and creative. Do interesting things, USE THAT BRAINPOWER! If you do things to charm her, she'll be yours. Education can be a very powerful tool, but again, if used right. Some women can be intimidated by a guy being smarter than them. Many of the naturals that i know do very well in school. Learn to spell xD.
Classy/Cultured
Match your clothes, dress nice, dont be sloppy. Women notice sooo much more than guys do about whether or not your shoes match the belt that you SHOULD be wearing. None of this pants around the ass business. Also, ladies love a well traveled man. Ive found it fantastic to have gone to France (romance), and Amsterdam (excitement). Go places. I know you may not have much say in whether or not you get to go to Europe, but take part in the discussion anyway.
Dominant
BE ALPHA. David D shows a fact that in some primate groups dominant males account for 75% of all mating. Theres tons of stuff on this forum about alpha-ing it up. Very important to be and do.
Thoughtful
Women like that you were thinking of them. This can work in your favor in SOOO many ways. Don't buy flowers cause your trying to impress them on a first date; if your gonna do it do it because your in a relationship and your thinking of them. Even if your telling her that you didnt like it that she was hanging out with someone else, she'll like that you were thinking of her. Girls will do things to piss you off purposely just to see if your paying attention.
Notice Significant Details
In Adam Sandler's Click, Adam forgot his and his wife's song. HE then impressed her even further by telling her what shirt she was wearing. Notice EVERYTHING, pick up on EVERYTHINGGGGGG. If shes dressed at all nicely and looks good, its not by accident. Women LOVE this, and anybody with a female friend who has a boyfriend will vouch for this too.
Be Unpredictable
They might not ever admit it, but many women love guys and want guys they cant control or predict. Do surprising things. KEEP THEM ON THEIR TOES. Flirt heavily one day then kinda be distant or dont call them the next. Predictability is only a good factor when choosing a husband, but i dont think anybody's QUITE there yet.
Enthusiastic/Fun/Happy
I dated a girl once who had the worst self-body image in the world. She was soo depressing. Girls hate this too. Enthusiasm IS contagious! Be happy all the time and always fun. Because hey, when is FUN ever a turn-off?
Adventurous
Women are attracted to men who do different, exciting, dangerous, or extreme things. Take up rock climbing or something. Plus things that involve danger usually keep you in shape.
Passion
Women like a guy who knows what he wants to do and goes and gets it. A Go-Getter. Have goals and meet them.
Confident/Cocky
Its weird, i know. Women are attracted to men who are a little bit to cocky or confident. Some guys go one way and arent like this at all, while others Go completely the other way and be arrogant. I fell into the second trap when i started off doing C&F. You want "Mild overconfidence mixed with humor." If being cocky "doesnt work" for you, the least you can be is confident. Confidence is probably the most important thing for you to have.
Expert
Know how to do things. The more things you know how to do the more your likely to be awesome at something she loves or finds attractive or hot. A good bet is guitar or another instrument. This should be done with a "Im good at this, lemme show you," rather than "Im good at this and your not so nyeah."
Attention
Women like attention. Its important, however not to wait on them hand and foot. This is a little in contradiction with...
...Disinterest/A Challenge
If your goin after a smokin hot girl, or at least one who gets a lot of attention, chances are they get hit on. A lot. Be different from those guys. If your indifferent, or dont give them the CONSTANT attention (remember, keep her with you. Think Push/Pull) that shes used to, the more likely it is that she'll chase you. This drives women CRAZY. As much as they might not want to admit it, this is super-interesting.
Charm
This is hard to explain. Have charisma. Be the guy who knows everybody. I found what works for developing charisma is talk to a lot of different people. A LOT. find out what they like and dont like and exploit what they like, a lot. Get to know what makes people tick.
Romantic Imagination and Perspective
See the beauty in every woman. And in everything. This is where your gonna want to know all the emotional things that women love.
Expert in Body Language
Women pick up on things more than men do. They always do. Just have an understanding of body language and implement it always. Just have a subtext of different type of language.
Sexual Mastery
"Women love sex just as much as men do. But
just like everything else in life, a great lover is not easy to find.
Women become instantly addicted to skillful lovers who know
how to make them feel ecstasy and teach them new ways of
feeling incredible."
Hey, It doesn't hurt to ask someone. BE WILLING TO GO DOWN ON HER. Basically, there are two types of people: sexual givers, and sexual takers. I happen to be a sexual giver, in that I would rather go down on her first. I think its fucking hot. Know what your doing, and even if you dont, have some confidence in yourself. Read up on ways to help you last longer, moves, and other things like that. If you make her happy first, befor eyou even think about yourself, its gonna be HUGE for you.
Every woman is different. Not all of these will work on every girl the same way. But its a good idea to have a good grasp on each of these.
In addition, if you cannot master any or all of these, or have a short time frame with which to work, fake it. This has a lot to do with frames. How you frame yourself is very important, and if you can frame yourself with these traits, its going to be verrry benficial to you. Check out my post on framing for more info if its something your interested in.
Go get 'em
-Andrew
