Post by Paetar on Jul 18, 2009 19:19:25 GMT -5
(the poll is included for more feedback. if you feel like it, comment)
I have won my inner game. At least what I consider inner game to be.
AND HOW?
BY Accepting Myself And My Needs And Feelings.
FOR FOUR YEARS, since I've gotten into pickup, I was trying to be something I wasn't. Is this the process of growing up? I don't know. Anyways, this gives me confidence, happiness, inner peace and million other good feelings.
I am who I am. I am not definable by words, but by my feelings and actions. I am who I am, that's all the cards I have. I can't be someone else, for I am not them. They can get million girls in one day. Well, I can't (perhaps I will after few years) and I accept it. It's my "attribute." I can't work around it, and I can't deny it.
That's it. I've been in denial all this time. I've always talked so much about "being yourself," perhaps to (subconsciously) cover up me NOT being myself. Every time I felt some insecurity, I denied it. In my mind, I was trying to be a PUA; but I wasn't. I was not much more than a poser (again, in my mind). And that's where most of my insecurity originated from. I was afraid of my actions and consequences they might make, because if it wasn't congruent with the PUA I wanted to be, I'd unhappy. If it wasn't congruent with me as a person (under the mask) then I just couldn't do it.
So now; every time I feel something I accept it. My actions, I accept it. I DO think about it, rationally and logically - because once you accept your feeling, the feeling goes away. In your mind. AND you have to accept it, because it is part of you as a person. And by denying it, you're only making it stronger. Yes, the feeling is there. So what? Now that it's accepted as a feeling (nothing more and nothing less) you can change your actions. Channel the energy in your body in the right way. AND you'll see that 99 percent of our behavior isn't unchangeable (after all, it's just learned habit) because of the feeling.
I hope it made some sense.
I have won my inner game. At least what I consider inner game to be.
AND HOW?
BY Accepting Myself And My Needs And Feelings.
FOR FOUR YEARS, since I've gotten into pickup, I was trying to be something I wasn't. Is this the process of growing up? I don't know. Anyways, this gives me confidence, happiness, inner peace and million other good feelings.
I am who I am. I am not definable by words, but by my feelings and actions. I am who I am, that's all the cards I have. I can't be someone else, for I am not them. They can get million girls in one day. Well, I can't (perhaps I will after few years) and I accept it. It's my "attribute." I can't work around it, and I can't deny it.
That's it. I've been in denial all this time. I've always talked so much about "being yourself," perhaps to (subconsciously) cover up me NOT being myself. Every time I felt some insecurity, I denied it. In my mind, I was trying to be a PUA; but I wasn't. I was not much more than a poser (again, in my mind). And that's where most of my insecurity originated from. I was afraid of my actions and consequences they might make, because if it wasn't congruent with the PUA I wanted to be, I'd unhappy. If it wasn't congruent with me as a person (under the mask) then I just couldn't do it.
So now; every time I feel something I accept it. My actions, I accept it. I DO think about it, rationally and logically - because once you accept your feeling, the feeling goes away. In your mind. AND you have to accept it, because it is part of you as a person. And by denying it, you're only making it stronger. Yes, the feeling is there. So what? Now that it's accepted as a feeling (nothing more and nothing less) you can change your actions. Channel the energy in your body in the right way. AND you'll see that 99 percent of our behavior isn't unchangeable (after all, it's just learned habit) because of the feeling.
I hope it made some sense.
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