Post by Grape on Aug 16, 2009 8:35:12 GMT -5
The world of adolescent teenagers today is one full of confusion, insecurities, and unpredictability. Every teenager desires to express his or her pubescent instincts of experimenting to gain Value, Power, and Control.
For these 3 things, some start changing their habits completely. To exemplify, a teenage guy may start smoking and get involved in other various drugs NOT for the emotional hype or the sensual pleasures, but for the SOCIAL VALUE they may get from doing these things.
Hollywood today strongly stereotypes the 'groups' in high school.
- There are the asshole football jocks who enjoy smoking weed and fucking women in the backseat of their car.
- There are the mindless rockers who deal drugs and smoke A LOT of shit.
- There are the slutty cheerleaders who smoke cigarettes, get drunk with men, and love having sex.
All of these 'groups' are seen as those of high value people. and as growing children, we are bombarded with cliche movies and tv shows that show the stereotypes of these high value social circles.
As middle schoolers, kids start modeling them. They start becoming these Hollywood stereotyped people and start digging themselves in a hole that'll be very hard to step out of once they face a reality check.
As the kids start going into high school and start maturing, one by one they realize they've been living a lie. They either change for the better or worse. Some step out to fix their lifestyles and others just keep on digging their hole.
Most high schoolers know that these cliche models that Hollywood presents to us are not natural at all. They know that these models aren't high value, or even cool. And they become more realistic with themselves.
But there are the handful of people in high school who still see these people as cool and socially valuable. It is for these people that this article will matter the most. Let's begin.
Before we start getting into the misconceptions of social value, let's define what exactly social value is.
Social value is the amount of respect, admiration, and friendship that a person has from other people.
This automatically shows that assholes, bitches, and sluts do NOT have much social value. People are annoyed and angered by them.
"Wait wait wait, I know a kid at my school who is a complete DICK to everyone but is still invited to all the parties and hangs out with the cool crowd. How can this be?"
Simply put, this guy is PLEASING to people in another way. Maybe he's funny. Maybe he's the real cool kids' lap dog. Maybe he's nice to people that he only needs to be nice to.
So okay, this guy hangs out with people will social value. But he is NOT respected or admired. These kind of people are known as TOOLS.
You will notice that not everyone likes him and that many people talk shit behind his back. You will notice he is especially nice to those who have high social power and is a complete dick to those who have low social power.
This guy does not have social value. He is simply used by those who actually have it.
Capiche?
Here's another easily misconceived fellow: The tall, scary looking kid who doesn't talk much.
He is seen hanging around the cool crowd. But he rarely opens his mouth. He smiles every now and then, but something about him just scares you.
This guy, my friend, is actually not that scary at all. The fact that he doesn't talk much shows one of two things:
- He's Shy.
- He's Mad/Sad/Caught in something else.
These two indicate that he does NOT have social value. He is probably very talkative to only a handful of people. But he doesn't know how to work a big set or work a group of strangers.
This guy isn't an asshole nor a really cool guy. He's just a normal guy who happens to be shy in social situations.
Stop seeing this tall guy as extremely cool, rather get to know him and decide whether or not you want him as your friend.
In my own personal experience, I have yet to meet one of these guys who is an asshole. In fact, one of my best friends is one of these guys, and he's a very nice person. Just a little shy is all.
Let's start looking into the girls.
Think about Ms. Bitchy Cheerleader. She's SURROUNDED by other women and they're all pretty bitchy. How are these girls ever seen as popular? They're not pleasing to people or friendly. All they do is hang out with popular guys and get drunk with them.
Look at it this way: The popular guys are the ones with the social value. The cheerleaders are only going to go after the best. Other than that, they're too busy to be friends with every guy in the school.
Of course the cheerleaders will be admired (a trait of social value). They get to hang out with the cool guys!
But are they themselves are nothing without these guys. Without these guys, they would be down in the food chain.
This is why you'll notice that the ugly girls who have no hot friends are all the way on the bottom. They have no valuable guys who'll hang out with them. Those guys have hotter girls to do.
This 'bitchy' thing about cheerleaders brings me to my next point. Girls who are bitches to strangers. Girls love power as much as men do. They'll do anything it takes to get it. This is why many of them like to be bitchy to people. Bitchiness is shown as a high value characteristic by HOLLYWOOD.
But are they truly valuable? Absolutely not. They're insecure of who they really are and are afraid many people won't like them. So they put on this fake mask, and unfortunately many many chumps who are also living with the Hollywood mindset let them get away with this.
These girls are very very easily seduced. Show the slighest bit of social value and they'll be very very attracted to you. But one thing you MUST do is be friendly. Being friendly shows that you're a nice guy and that you probably have a lot of social value. It also helps her open up and be herself around you.
A misconception of this is that one has to be VERY VERY VERY friendly. DO NOT DO THIS. If you come off as TOO friendly, it'll just be plain on creepy and obvious what you're trying to do. Why would anyone be THAT nice to someone they don't even know??
We will get into this more later on in the book.
So now you know. Social value is the amount of respect, admiration, and friendship one receives from others. Acts of being stuck up, unfriendly, and mad are not true signs of social value rather impositions made by Hollywood. Girls who act this way are the easiest to break down. Be generally friendly to people, but don't be too friendly for it may come off as creepy.
<33 Grape
For these 3 things, some start changing their habits completely. To exemplify, a teenage guy may start smoking and get involved in other various drugs NOT for the emotional hype or the sensual pleasures, but for the SOCIAL VALUE they may get from doing these things.
Hollywood today strongly stereotypes the 'groups' in high school.
- There are the asshole football jocks who enjoy smoking weed and fucking women in the backseat of their car.
- There are the mindless rockers who deal drugs and smoke A LOT of shit.
- There are the slutty cheerleaders who smoke cigarettes, get drunk with men, and love having sex.
All of these 'groups' are seen as those of high value people. and as growing children, we are bombarded with cliche movies and tv shows that show the stereotypes of these high value social circles.
As middle schoolers, kids start modeling them. They start becoming these Hollywood stereotyped people and start digging themselves in a hole that'll be very hard to step out of once they face a reality check.
As the kids start going into high school and start maturing, one by one they realize they've been living a lie. They either change for the better or worse. Some step out to fix their lifestyles and others just keep on digging their hole.
Most high schoolers know that these cliche models that Hollywood presents to us are not natural at all. They know that these models aren't high value, or even cool. And they become more realistic with themselves.
But there are the handful of people in high school who still see these people as cool and socially valuable. It is for these people that this article will matter the most. Let's begin.
Before we start getting into the misconceptions of social value, let's define what exactly social value is.
Social value is the amount of respect, admiration, and friendship that a person has from other people.
This automatically shows that assholes, bitches, and sluts do NOT have much social value. People are annoyed and angered by them.
"Wait wait wait, I know a kid at my school who is a complete DICK to everyone but is still invited to all the parties and hangs out with the cool crowd. How can this be?"
Simply put, this guy is PLEASING to people in another way. Maybe he's funny. Maybe he's the real cool kids' lap dog. Maybe he's nice to people that he only needs to be nice to.
So okay, this guy hangs out with people will social value. But he is NOT respected or admired. These kind of people are known as TOOLS.
You will notice that not everyone likes him and that many people talk shit behind his back. You will notice he is especially nice to those who have high social power and is a complete dick to those who have low social power.
This guy does not have social value. He is simply used by those who actually have it.
Capiche?
Here's another easily misconceived fellow: The tall, scary looking kid who doesn't talk much.
He is seen hanging around the cool crowd. But he rarely opens his mouth. He smiles every now and then, but something about him just scares you.
This guy, my friend, is actually not that scary at all. The fact that he doesn't talk much shows one of two things:
- He's Shy.
- He's Mad/Sad/Caught in something else.
These two indicate that he does NOT have social value. He is probably very talkative to only a handful of people. But he doesn't know how to work a big set or work a group of strangers.
This guy isn't an asshole nor a really cool guy. He's just a normal guy who happens to be shy in social situations.
Stop seeing this tall guy as extremely cool, rather get to know him and decide whether or not you want him as your friend.
In my own personal experience, I have yet to meet one of these guys who is an asshole. In fact, one of my best friends is one of these guys, and he's a very nice person. Just a little shy is all.
Let's start looking into the girls.
Think about Ms. Bitchy Cheerleader. She's SURROUNDED by other women and they're all pretty bitchy. How are these girls ever seen as popular? They're not pleasing to people or friendly. All they do is hang out with popular guys and get drunk with them.
Look at it this way: The popular guys are the ones with the social value. The cheerleaders are only going to go after the best. Other than that, they're too busy to be friends with every guy in the school.
Of course the cheerleaders will be admired (a trait of social value). They get to hang out with the cool guys!
But are they themselves are nothing without these guys. Without these guys, they would be down in the food chain.
This is why you'll notice that the ugly girls who have no hot friends are all the way on the bottom. They have no valuable guys who'll hang out with them. Those guys have hotter girls to do.
This 'bitchy' thing about cheerleaders brings me to my next point. Girls who are bitches to strangers. Girls love power as much as men do. They'll do anything it takes to get it. This is why many of them like to be bitchy to people. Bitchiness is shown as a high value characteristic by HOLLYWOOD.
But are they truly valuable? Absolutely not. They're insecure of who they really are and are afraid many people won't like them. So they put on this fake mask, and unfortunately many many chumps who are also living with the Hollywood mindset let them get away with this.
These girls are very very easily seduced. Show the slighest bit of social value and they'll be very very attracted to you. But one thing you MUST do is be friendly. Being friendly shows that you're a nice guy and that you probably have a lot of social value. It also helps her open up and be herself around you.
A misconception of this is that one has to be VERY VERY VERY friendly. DO NOT DO THIS. If you come off as TOO friendly, it'll just be plain on creepy and obvious what you're trying to do. Why would anyone be THAT nice to someone they don't even know??
We will get into this more later on in the book.
So now you know. Social value is the amount of respect, admiration, and friendship one receives from others. Acts of being stuck up, unfriendly, and mad are not true signs of social value rather impositions made by Hollywood. Girls who act this way are the easiest to break down. Be generally friendly to people, but don't be too friendly for it may come off as creepy.
<33 Grape
