Post by OHM on Aug 17, 2009 14:22:35 GMT -5
I wrote this in my journal and spent a good 40 minutes on it
Also, the term "Intrigue Factor" and it's variation (not used here) "Factor of Intrigue" has been trademarked by me, but you can use it if you want.
Expressing Sexuality v.s. Using Sexual Tension
Sexuality is something a lot of people are uncomfortable expressing out to the public. Part of being a guy the ladies want it being able to do exactly just that. There are a few things you can do to express yourself sexually and just be a more sexual person.
But what is sexual tension?
Sexual tension is the presence of a controlled arousal state, in the absence of overt sexual interest.
I might as well just get this out of the way because it has to do with every facet of pick up: Confidence.
Besides that though, you need to walk the walk, and talk the talk.
Express Your Sexuality
Flirting is an art in of itself that really is, the bread and butter of pick up, knowing how to successfully flirt and escalating into more sexual context is the easiest way to get from open to close without physically just throwing the target on the ground and pounding her right there. (Besides, that is usually thought of as immoral, or illegal, and no matter how congruent and confident you are when you do that, you probably won't get away with it).
Your choice of words will be the links that bind the proverbial chain of sexuality together, at least in the verbal sense.
Using words with double meanings can help a lot to increase the sexual tension or escalate the situation and still leaving an air of mystery in the interaction.
Then there's the NLP/Speed Seduction route where you use intricate language patterns that place ideas of sex into the target's head.
Have a Sexually Aroused State!
Women love sex, a man can give a woman pleasure, a sexual man is therefore valuable to a woman.
By you having a sexually aroused state, you can "transfer" (for lack of a better word) your state to her. Kind of goes along with that whole "smiles spread" thing or whatever.
You know, you're in a great mood, your friend comes over in a bad mood, then just by you being in a good mood, they become in a good mood.
Yeah, you get it.
Anyway, when you're turned on, everything you do will be much more sexual, your eye contact, the tone of your voice, the way you move/body language, etc...
To get into a sexual state you need to be calm and comfortable with where you are and the only way to do that is to go out and experience different social situations. You know the whole "practice makes perfect!" mantra.
Another thing that will help if you find yourself nervous when interactions become more sexual, and things become more "sexually tense", is to meditate.
You must realize that sex is built into our DNA, that by the laws of nature, our whole lives revolve around sex, to mate/procreate, and reproduce. Liberate yourself from the mindset that sexuality should be kept hidden or personal.
David Shade teaches the idea that being a masterful lover (in essence being sexual) is based on beliefs, not experience. Being sexual and in turn giving pleasure to others is based in the mind and you must realize that you can do it because we are all born with the ability to do it.
Well by golly, now you must want to create sexual tension and use it to your advantage, I daresay we'll get right on that.
Create Sexual Tension
Sexual tension is sexual interest without verbally stating it, it's still held back to make things more "intriguing" or "mysterious".
As said before about being sexual, used "charged" vocabulary to increase what I shall now call the "Intrigue Factor".
Such examples would be, "arouse, hard, deep, thrust, pleasure, ecstasy, desire, pulse, throbb" I think you get the idea.
Using double meanings/double entendres. "Deep inside you, you're warm and soft."
Tell stories with sensual themes. Use descriptive imagery (no it's not English class, but I digress...) For example, "When I was in Cancun I went on a zipline course that was over 3 miles long, the sun was hot and the wind caressed my body like a gentle hand as I went through the trees. By the end of the course, we were at a huge sink hole, a 15 foot drop at least into 40 foot deep water. I dove off the edge and it was amazing, incredible to feel my body spear through the air and then hit the water, the dark cool water washing over my body..."
Use "incidental kino", the "accidental" kino so to speak, brushing her arm with yours, standing closer during the interaction.
Then use more overt kino, touch just for the sake of touching, come close to, but don't actually touch the sexual parts of her body. For example, slide your hands down her side just missing her breasts, slipping a pinky finger just inside the waisteband of her jeans (or whatever she happens to be wearing on the lower half of her body, if the answer is nothing, you don't need this), smell her neck but don't kiss her, playfully push up against a wall, get very close, then pull away again for no reason.
All of these actions will cause her to think along the lines of "Did he mean to do that?!?!" and she will become emotionally excited due to this ambiguity, the INTRIGUE FACTOR! (Wanted to use that term).
Place in mind, "I'm going to be sexual, how sexual can I be without saying it? Without being overt about it?)
Being sexual and sexual tension go hand in hand, and by being the former, you will undoubtedly create the latter.
One Final Note
Build the anticipation because not only do women love it, but once you start doing it and getting the hang of it, it's fun, and really, isn't that the most important part and yet continuously overlooked?
Remember, have fun.
pc n' love,
OhMega
Also, the term "Intrigue Factor" and it's variation (not used here) "Factor of Intrigue" has been trademarked by me, but you can use it if you want.
Expressing Sexuality v.s. Using Sexual Tension
Sexuality is something a lot of people are uncomfortable expressing out to the public. Part of being a guy the ladies want it being able to do exactly just that. There are a few things you can do to express yourself sexually and just be a more sexual person.
But what is sexual tension?
Sexual tension is the presence of a controlled arousal state, in the absence of overt sexual interest.
I might as well just get this out of the way because it has to do with every facet of pick up: Confidence.
Besides that though, you need to walk the walk, and talk the talk.
Express Your Sexuality
Flirting is an art in of itself that really is, the bread and butter of pick up, knowing how to successfully flirt and escalating into more sexual context is the easiest way to get from open to close without physically just throwing the target on the ground and pounding her right there. (Besides, that is usually thought of as immoral, or illegal, and no matter how congruent and confident you are when you do that, you probably won't get away with it).
Your choice of words will be the links that bind the proverbial chain of sexuality together, at least in the verbal sense.
Using words with double meanings can help a lot to increase the sexual tension or escalate the situation and still leaving an air of mystery in the interaction.
Then there's the NLP/Speed Seduction route where you use intricate language patterns that place ideas of sex into the target's head.
Have a Sexually Aroused State!
Women love sex, a man can give a woman pleasure, a sexual man is therefore valuable to a woman.
By you having a sexually aroused state, you can "transfer" (for lack of a better word) your state to her. Kind of goes along with that whole "smiles spread" thing or whatever.
You know, you're in a great mood, your friend comes over in a bad mood, then just by you being in a good mood, they become in a good mood.
Yeah, you get it.
Anyway, when you're turned on, everything you do will be much more sexual, your eye contact, the tone of your voice, the way you move/body language, etc...
To get into a sexual state you need to be calm and comfortable with where you are and the only way to do that is to go out and experience different social situations. You know the whole "practice makes perfect!" mantra.
Another thing that will help if you find yourself nervous when interactions become more sexual, and things become more "sexually tense", is to meditate.
You must realize that sex is built into our DNA, that by the laws of nature, our whole lives revolve around sex, to mate/procreate, and reproduce. Liberate yourself from the mindset that sexuality should be kept hidden or personal.
David Shade teaches the idea that being a masterful lover (in essence being sexual) is based on beliefs, not experience. Being sexual and in turn giving pleasure to others is based in the mind and you must realize that you can do it because we are all born with the ability to do it.
Well by golly, now you must want to create sexual tension and use it to your advantage, I daresay we'll get right on that.
Create Sexual Tension
Sexual tension is sexual interest without verbally stating it, it's still held back to make things more "intriguing" or "mysterious".
As said before about being sexual, used "charged" vocabulary to increase what I shall now call the "Intrigue Factor".
Such examples would be, "arouse, hard, deep, thrust, pleasure, ecstasy, desire, pulse, throbb" I think you get the idea.
Using double meanings/double entendres. "Deep inside you, you're warm and soft."
Tell stories with sensual themes. Use descriptive imagery (no it's not English class, but I digress...) For example, "When I was in Cancun I went on a zipline course that was over 3 miles long, the sun was hot and the wind caressed my body like a gentle hand as I went through the trees. By the end of the course, we were at a huge sink hole, a 15 foot drop at least into 40 foot deep water. I dove off the edge and it was amazing, incredible to feel my body spear through the air and then hit the water, the dark cool water washing over my body..."
Use "incidental kino", the "accidental" kino so to speak, brushing her arm with yours, standing closer during the interaction.
Then use more overt kino, touch just for the sake of touching, come close to, but don't actually touch the sexual parts of her body. For example, slide your hands down her side just missing her breasts, slipping a pinky finger just inside the waisteband of her jeans (or whatever she happens to be wearing on the lower half of her body, if the answer is nothing, you don't need this), smell her neck but don't kiss her, playfully push up against a wall, get very close, then pull away again for no reason.
All of these actions will cause her to think along the lines of "Did he mean to do that?!?!" and she will become emotionally excited due to this ambiguity, the INTRIGUE FACTOR! (Wanted to use that term).
Place in mind, "I'm going to be sexual, how sexual can I be without saying it? Without being overt about it?)
Being sexual and sexual tension go hand in hand, and by being the former, you will undoubtedly create the latter.
One Final Note
Build the anticipation because not only do women love it, but once you start doing it and getting the hang of it, it's fun, and really, isn't that the most important part and yet continuously overlooked?
Remember, have fun.
pc n' love,
OhMega
