Post by jsquared11 on Oct 11, 2008 21:55:31 GMT -5
I'm sure some of you see this title and are thinking there's no way to break down confidence and how to build it. The fact of the matter is for those of you who don't innately have confidence, you have to work to build it. However, reading books and literature on pickup and confidence isn't going to create it.
The fact of the matter is, you can study all this you want. But, until you go out there and do it, you'll never be successful and you'll never be confident. If anything, knowing all the "steps and idiosyncracies" will only make it more difficult. You would have to much to think about and get confused and ultimately fail. After thinking about this, now you probably telling me...."Ok, but what is this magical equation?"
The equation for confidence is as follows:
D(A) + TE = Confidence
D = Desire : a longing or craving, as for something that brings satisfaction or enjoyment
A = Ambition : a longing or craving, as for something that brings satisfaction or enjoyment
T = Trial : the act of trying, testing, or putting to the proof.
E = Error : a deviation from accuracy or correctness; a mistake, as in action or speech.
C = Confidence : belief in oneself and one's powers or abilities.
With all that in mind, lets start with a question to each and everyone of who reads this and uses it. Before you can understand this idea, you need to understand yourself. Why are you here, and what are your goals?
I ask this, becasue you have to center your desire. You need to have focuse on what you want. If you can't pinpoint a goal, then you are just shooting a gun blind. Once you answer this question fully you can proceed to achieve your goal.
Desire and ambition. The keystones to achievement. You must desire something, and the have the ambition to get it. If you want something bad enough, you can toss aside your personal barriers and press on. Have you ever wanted something so badly that you did everything in your power to get it. Doesn't it feel good in the end when you get what you wanted and your hard work payed off. AA, can't stop a man who has a goal ready to be achieved. Think of the PUGs; like Adam, Gambler, Sinn, Mystery, and Style. They truely wanted to improve themselves. They wanted it with all their heart, and when that happens nothing can stop you. Once your desire is found, and you have the ambition to obtain your goal; you press on to "Trial and Error".
For those of you who aren't naturals and haven't been successful with women, you have to start somewhere. This is where the trial and error comes into the equation. In order to achieve what ever goal you want from the community, you have to go out there and be social. You learn as you go. Sometimes you are highly successful, and others you'll fail. There is nothing wrong with failing. as long as you get back up and try again. Practice makes perfect gentlemen, like anything you have to work for it to get good.
With success, comes a measure of confidence. Once you are successful you become to feel more comfortable with the concept. The truth is there is no magic spell to be confident. You have to get out there, talk to girls and get used to the idea. Before to long, you'll notice trends in conversations. You'll calibrate how to handle anything. However, the only way to do this is if you go out.
The fact of the matter is, you can study all this you want. But, until you go out there and do it, you'll never be successful and you'll never be confident. If anything, knowing all the "steps and idiosyncracies" will only make it more difficult. You would have to much to think about and get confused and ultimately fail. After thinking about this, now you probably telling me...."Ok, but what is this magical equation?"
The equation for confidence is as follows:
D(A) + TE = Confidence
D = Desire : a longing or craving, as for something that brings satisfaction or enjoyment
A = Ambition : a longing or craving, as for something that brings satisfaction or enjoyment
T = Trial : the act of trying, testing, or putting to the proof.
E = Error : a deviation from accuracy or correctness; a mistake, as in action or speech.
C = Confidence : belief in oneself and one's powers or abilities.
With all that in mind, lets start with a question to each and everyone of who reads this and uses it. Before you can understand this idea, you need to understand yourself. Why are you here, and what are your goals?
I ask this, becasue you have to center your desire. You need to have focuse on what you want. If you can't pinpoint a goal, then you are just shooting a gun blind. Once you answer this question fully you can proceed to achieve your goal.
Desire and ambition. The keystones to achievement. You must desire something, and the have the ambition to get it. If you want something bad enough, you can toss aside your personal barriers and press on. Have you ever wanted something so badly that you did everything in your power to get it. Doesn't it feel good in the end when you get what you wanted and your hard work payed off. AA, can't stop a man who has a goal ready to be achieved. Think of the PUGs; like Adam, Gambler, Sinn, Mystery, and Style. They truely wanted to improve themselves. They wanted it with all their heart, and when that happens nothing can stop you. Once your desire is found, and you have the ambition to obtain your goal; you press on to "Trial and Error".
For those of you who aren't naturals and haven't been successful with women, you have to start somewhere. This is where the trial and error comes into the equation. In order to achieve what ever goal you want from the community, you have to go out there and be social. You learn as you go. Sometimes you are highly successful, and others you'll fail. There is nothing wrong with failing. as long as you get back up and try again. Practice makes perfect gentlemen, like anything you have to work for it to get good.
With success, comes a measure of confidence. Once you are successful you become to feel more comfortable with the concept. The truth is there is no magic spell to be confident. You have to get out there, talk to girls and get used to the idea. Before to long, you'll notice trends in conversations. You'll calibrate how to handle anything. However, the only way to do this is if you go out.
