Post by hotdemon on Aug 22, 2009 8:57:05 GMT -5
part 2 oghttp://highschoolpuas.proboards.com/index.cgi?board=staffonlypage&action=display&thread=2277
This fear is allll in the mind too my friend. And it’s because us humans plan our actions based on plans and EXPECTATIONS.
Having NO expectations means everything at every moment in your life is a pleasant surprise. Let’s do a little thought experiment here and see what your dating world would look like if you had no expectations:
You wouldn’t worry about how she’d react when you approached her..
Acceptance and rejection would become meaningless. Why? There is no failure anymore, only feedback. Something is going to happen a 100% of the time when you approach and meet women, so you are guaranteed feedback and can NOT possibly fail, but only LEARN from the experience!
And what is rejection anyway? If a girl doesn’t respond to you, gets mad at you for doing/saying something or says something like ‘go away!’ to you? Is it because YOU are wrong there? Who even made you THINK that!? Communication happens between TWO stations…YOU…and HER.
If your TV doesn’t receive the correct channels anymore, but still displays DVDs perfectly..is it broke? HELL NO.
So why do you think YOUR game is BROKE when YOU are displaying all the right behaviors then? Have you ever thought about when you approach a girl and she waves you away and says go away, that SHE is the fucked up receiving station here? That SHE is in a bad mood, unsecure, not feeling comfortable?
No you haven’t, because you’ve attached your self-worth to an outcome and if there’s no outcome, there’s no self-worth. WRONG!
If you don’t have any expectations, are just driving along the road in your brand new car for the first time after you got the car AND your driving license…do you STOP driving forever at the first moment you don’t recognize the road anymore? Do you STOP driving forever, after the first time you made a mistake by say…forgetting to look in the mirrors? Do you STOP driving forever, because you can’t drive to your destination in one go? No you DON’T.
My point is: if you want to start and keep having success with women and dating, the road IS your destination. If there are three million women out there for you to date, why get bothered about one single outcome, one single mistake, one single woman?
Just learn a way to drive past the obstacle more smoothly next time, but keep on driving!
And if you had no expectations you wouldn’t worry about whether she’s going to call back. You wouldn’t worry about what to wear, where to take her, whether or not to pay the bill, or when to call her again. You wouldn’t worry if she’s going to kiss you goodnight or sleep with you. You would reside fully in the present and just LIVE the moment, be spontaneous and have FUN! You wouldn’t worry about a damn thing.
Without expectation, you would never experience disappointment. And without disappointment, your spirit would never grow bitter, fearful of change, of failure, of rejection…because ALL outcomes are welcome since NO outcome is expected!
Start welcoming all outcomes when you're approaching and meeting women..and you'll see for yourself the HUGE impact it will have on your success with women & dating..
This fear is allll in the mind too my friend. And it’s because us humans plan our actions based on plans and EXPECTATIONS.
Having NO expectations means everything at every moment in your life is a pleasant surprise. Let’s do a little thought experiment here and see what your dating world would look like if you had no expectations:
You wouldn’t worry about how she’d react when you approached her..
Acceptance and rejection would become meaningless. Why? There is no failure anymore, only feedback. Something is going to happen a 100% of the time when you approach and meet women, so you are guaranteed feedback and can NOT possibly fail, but only LEARN from the experience!
And what is rejection anyway? If a girl doesn’t respond to you, gets mad at you for doing/saying something or says something like ‘go away!’ to you? Is it because YOU are wrong there? Who even made you THINK that!? Communication happens between TWO stations…YOU…and HER.
If your TV doesn’t receive the correct channels anymore, but still displays DVDs perfectly..is it broke? HELL NO.
So why do you think YOUR game is BROKE when YOU are displaying all the right behaviors then? Have you ever thought about when you approach a girl and she waves you away and says go away, that SHE is the fucked up receiving station here? That SHE is in a bad mood, unsecure, not feeling comfortable?
No you haven’t, because you’ve attached your self-worth to an outcome and if there’s no outcome, there’s no self-worth. WRONG!
If you don’t have any expectations, are just driving along the road in your brand new car for the first time after you got the car AND your driving license…do you STOP driving forever at the first moment you don’t recognize the road anymore? Do you STOP driving forever, after the first time you made a mistake by say…forgetting to look in the mirrors? Do you STOP driving forever, because you can’t drive to your destination in one go? No you DON’T.
My point is: if you want to start and keep having success with women and dating, the road IS your destination. If there are three million women out there for you to date, why get bothered about one single outcome, one single mistake, one single woman?
Just learn a way to drive past the obstacle more smoothly next time, but keep on driving!
And if you had no expectations you wouldn’t worry about whether she’s going to call back. You wouldn’t worry about what to wear, where to take her, whether or not to pay the bill, or when to call her again. You wouldn’t worry if she’s going to kiss you goodnight or sleep with you. You would reside fully in the present and just LIVE the moment, be spontaneous and have FUN! You wouldn’t worry about a damn thing.
Without expectation, you would never experience disappointment. And without disappointment, your spirit would never grow bitter, fearful of change, of failure, of rejection…because ALL outcomes are welcome since NO outcome is expected!
Start welcoming all outcomes when you're approaching and meeting women..and you'll see for yourself the HUGE impact it will have on your success with women & dating..
