Post by nutrick on Sept 22, 2009 18:19:31 GMT -5
From Sinn's Newsletter, fucking brilliant, pertains to High School as well:
Hey guys,
Today I wanted to talk to you guys about one of the most misunderstood ideas in the field of seduction today.
Namely, the idiotic idea perpetuated by Mystery, that attraction comes before comfort.
Before I eviscerate this idea like a rabid wolfman eating a lost towns' child, I want to present a quick hypothetical question for you dear reader.
Let's say that you're out for a night on the town, as you're walking through a darktown club district you hear a voice. You down a dark scary alley and see the hottest girl you've ever seen in your life. You are amazingly attracted to her. However you can't really make out if she's alone in the alley and she keeps asking you to walk down the alley to talk to her.
Are you walking down that alley?
Unless you're an MMA fighter, or ex- Navy Seal, chances are you're gonna pass. Because no matter how much attraction is there, it doesn't make up for a lack of comfort. If you're uncomfortable, you cannot be attracted to someone.
That's why it's important to make a distinction between the types of comfort. There is the rapport based comfort that is accepted in the community as the only kind. There is sexual comfort, and there is social comfort, which I want to discuss here.
A lot of students ask what they should do after theyt start a conversation with a woman or group of women. While there's one school of thought out there that says " Run transition x, then attraction piece y then neg Z." my answer is always the same; establish social comfort.
When I joined the SUISC 6 years long ago, there was something called "fluff talk" that got a lot of attention. This was before Mystery Method totally dominated everything with the ideas that EVERY single thing you said needed to be a "demonstration of higher value." Fluff talk was simply the stuff you talked about when you weren't running material. In other words a "normal conversation."
In fact I like to have a normal situationally relevant conversation about the girl or the bar until I notice that the girl is open to talking to me. This is social comfort, you don't need the girls to love you and want to jump your bones right away you need them socially comfortable, so that they can become attracted.
If you've ever come off as "weird" or been asked " are you a comedian?", you're problem was social comfort. If you've ever had problems with teasing girls, and having them get offended a lack of social comfort was the culprit. If you've ever wondered seen the bored stares of death as you try to tell the group about your stripper ex girlfriend in the first 3 minutes of a conversation, that's right you skipped social comfort.
Hope that helps you guys,
JS
Hey guys,
Today I wanted to talk to you guys about one of the most misunderstood ideas in the field of seduction today.
Namely, the idiotic idea perpetuated by Mystery, that attraction comes before comfort.
Before I eviscerate this idea like a rabid wolfman eating a lost towns' child, I want to present a quick hypothetical question for you dear reader.
Let's say that you're out for a night on the town, as you're walking through a darktown club district you hear a voice. You down a dark scary alley and see the hottest girl you've ever seen in your life. You are amazingly attracted to her. However you can't really make out if she's alone in the alley and she keeps asking you to walk down the alley to talk to her.
Are you walking down that alley?
Unless you're an MMA fighter, or ex- Navy Seal, chances are you're gonna pass. Because no matter how much attraction is there, it doesn't make up for a lack of comfort. If you're uncomfortable, you cannot be attracted to someone.
That's why it's important to make a distinction between the types of comfort. There is the rapport based comfort that is accepted in the community as the only kind. There is sexual comfort, and there is social comfort, which I want to discuss here.
A lot of students ask what they should do after theyt start a conversation with a woman or group of women. While there's one school of thought out there that says " Run transition x, then attraction piece y then neg Z." my answer is always the same; establish social comfort.
When I joined the SUISC 6 years long ago, there was something called "fluff talk" that got a lot of attention. This was before Mystery Method totally dominated everything with the ideas that EVERY single thing you said needed to be a "demonstration of higher value." Fluff talk was simply the stuff you talked about when you weren't running material. In other words a "normal conversation."
In fact I like to have a normal situationally relevant conversation about the girl or the bar until I notice that the girl is open to talking to me. This is social comfort, you don't need the girls to love you and want to jump your bones right away you need them socially comfortable, so that they can become attracted.
If you've ever come off as "weird" or been asked " are you a comedian?", you're problem was social comfort. If you've ever had problems with teasing girls, and having them get offended a lack of social comfort was the culprit. If you've ever wondered seen the bored stares of death as you try to tell the group about your stripper ex girlfriend in the first 3 minutes of a conversation, that's right you skipped social comfort.
Hope that helps you guys,
JS
