The Goal Of Life

[Grape]

This is pretty much just like all the other posts I've been making for the past couple of months.

It focuses heavily on mindset and beliefs.

Soo many people ask "How do I become more confident? How do I get rid of my shyness? How do I become funnier?"

The answer is very very simple: Be Happy.

Happiness is a word all my successful friends use along with me. It's a word of greatness. Let's define it:

Happiness -
good fortune; pleasure; contentment; joy. (Dictionary.com)

a state of well-being and contentment. a pleasurable or satisfying experience (merriam-webster.com/dictionary/happiness)

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And here's the best part: Every desire we have is a specific kind of happiness.
The desire for love.
The desire for attention.
The desire for power.
The desire for intelligence.
The desire for wealth.
The desire for skill.
The desire for EVERYTHING.

ALL OF THESE ARE FORMS OF HAPPINESS.
So what do we live for? Why do we try so hard to relieve our desires?

Simple Again: To Be Happy.

So all these little goals in life sum up to one ULTIMATE goal in life: To Be Happy.


Not only is happiness a 'goal', but it's also the greatest motivator of man-kind.

We strive for happiness. We do things to be happy. We WANT happiness.

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So how does all of this fit in with your problems of being shy and quiet? Of being rejected? Of being lonely?

You can not simply use logic to motivate your emotions. No.
You can not simply just say "I need to push my comfort zone." to actually push your emotions away and do it.

The EASIEST way to get rid of shyness and anxiety is to replace these emotions with that of happiness.

The feelings one gets when he feels anti-social, unaccepted, embarrassed, are all very negative. They are NEGATIVE.

So many successful people advise the world to think POSITIVELY.
They do this by word of mouth, by writing books, and much more.

But how can one think positively while all these negative emotions are instilled inside them??!!!

Simple AGAIN: As important thinking Positively is, it is absolutely useless without FEELING Positive.

Focus on the emotion of happiness. Focus on how happy you will feel when you do what you KNOW is right and will lead you to your goals.

Forget your negative thoughts. They can not be fixed, but they can be forgotten from your mind. You can be focusing on Happy thoughts and feelings.

Instead of trying to solve your problems of negative thoughts and feelings, make GOALS with positive thoughts and feelings.

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How does this even work???
Okay fine. Look at the successful people. What about them would you say they all have in common??

Could it be that they are HAPPY??
Could it be that they are having fun, smiling and laughing, telling jokes, respecting others, being nice, and simply living in a world of positivity?

Are they even thinking about BEING ALPHA and BEING HIGH VALUE??

Of course not. So stop trying to model and simply become. Become one of them.
Become the person who also simply focuses on having fun, laughing, enjoying life, sensing pleasures.
Become the person who doesn't even have the concepts of Alpha, High Value, etc.

Become the Natural.

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So enough "How do I blablabla"
Simply say it:
"I want to have fun."
"I want to laugh."
"I want to be successful."

And then turn those phrases from WANT into WILL
"I will have fun."
"I will laugh."
"I will be funny."
"I will make friends."

And when you achieve these points, go from WILL to AM.
"I am having fun."
"I am fun."
"I am laughing."
"I am enjoying life."

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So overall, the point of life is to be happy. Happiness is the ultimate motivator. Negative feelings and thoughts can only be Forgotten, not fixed. Forget and start over. Start over with POSITIVE goals. Start over to be Happy and have fun and sense pleasure.

<33 Grape

[Calli]

This is a great post +1

What you are saying definitely makes sense, when I am feeling happy things always seem to go well. But becoming happy is much easier said than done, although the advice about not over analyzing and just enjoying yourself is a help.

[Grape]

well it can't be done with logic. you have to recall your past experiences of happiness and feel those emotions.

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[krabby]

I was thinking about this just last night. This is an amazing post. Also I think the thing people call state is really a mental state of happiness. Great post

[pokemon]

Honestly, I really prefer this stuff to all of the woman center things that a lot of the PUA community preaches.
Thank you Grape. It's about us and being happy.

[jupiterpitter]

Yes it is right that to achieve any goal we have to be confident about that , that I will achieve that confidence is a thing that motivate us to do more and fight with problem and to achieve the goal and my goal is to be successful in life.

[smritipakar]

In every one life there is some goal to achieve and for that confidence and positive nature is require to achieve the goal, that motivate you to achieve the goal of your life .