Post by Grape on Oct 15, 2008 15:49:04 GMT -5
Written by Swinggcat
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A big part of motivating people to do what you desire is having value – or what I like to call “Prizability” – in their eyes.
Think about it…
What happens when a stranger sporting the Prizability of a dingle berry tells you to do something? I’m willing to bet, you’ve got the motivation of a Jerry Springer watching, bonbon eating couch potato.
Do you need a Herculean physique, Brad Pitt’s mug, Ron Jeremy’s schlong, and Warren Buffett’s bank account for women to think you’re the Prize?
Do you have to squander away your hard-earned moollah on women for them to see you as Prizable?
Short answer: A big fat in-your-face NO!
Long answer: There’s a much easier road to becoming the Prize in the eyes of many a woman that doesn’t involve pissing away your cash or letting a surgeon carve Brad Pitt’s face into your mug.
It’s called the Meta-Frame. (If you’ve been reading my letters for a while you know about the Meta-Frame. If you haven’t, don’t worry. You’re about to get a crash course on it.)
Every male/female interaction has a Meta-Frame that defines (and assigns) the role each person plays: one as the Prize, the other as trying to win over the Prize.
Your job is to establish a Meta-Frame that defines you as the Prize.
Most men make one of two mistakes...
1). They establish a Meta-Frame that defines their role in the interaction as the one trying to win the woman over.
2). Like spineless wimps, they let the woman establish the Meta-Frame. (If you let a woman control the Meta-Frame, you’ll get defined as the one trying to win her over.)
Alas, once a man loses the role of the Prize, the woman stops feeling attraction and starts perceiving him as having little to no Prizability.
As a crippling consequence, his chances of pulling her into his Meta-Intent teeter on impossible.
Let’s look at a few examples…
Imagine a guy with his balls intact strutting up to a cold-as-ice vixen. But before he utters a single word she hisses, “If you wanna talk to me, you need to buy me a martini.”
If he buys her a drink, who’s in control of the Meta-Frame?
If you think he’s in control, do yourself a favor and man-slap yourself across the face – you’ll thank me later.
If you answered “her,” you’re on the right track, my man.
By him buying her a drink, he’s taking on the role of the chaser.
How do I keep the interaction alive if I don’t buy her a drink? Won’t she ask me to leave?
Good questions.
Try to think of a rebuttal that uses her words “get me a drink” to affirm that your role is the Prize and hers is trying to win you over.
With a little practice, this is easier than you might think.
You could scold her with, “How dare you tell me to buy you drink, you classless peasant.”
Will this work?
Probably not. It lacks two key pieces: humor and playfulness.
Without humor and playfulness, your response will come across as an emotional reaction to her. Anytime your response to a woman is fraught with emotion, you’re playing the role of the chaser, not the Prize.
Plus, without humor and playfulness, it’s about as subtle as a freight train that you’re trying to shove her out of the role of the Prize and push her into the role of the chaser.
There’s nothing that makes a woman resist your Meta-Frame more than feeling muscled out of one role and forced into another.
On the other hand, when your rebuttal packs plenty of humor and playfulness, it demonstrates that you’re emotionally non reactive and assumes – not coerces – that the woman’s role is the chaser. (In the last several months I’ve discovered a slew of secrets about being non reactive. If I get enough requests, I’ll put together a letter on my recent findings.)
Try to come up with a few examples on your own.
How about saying aloud in a playful tone, “Mental note self: Get her a copy of the Emily Post book of etiquette for her birthday”?
Now that’s great. It uses humor to call her on acting classless.
Unless she’s lumbered with an IQ barely hovering into the double digits, she’s gonna laugh.
By her laughing, she’s acknowledging that asking you to get her a drink lacks class.
This implies the Meta-Frame that you’re the Prize she’s trying to win over.
You can also change the Meta-Intent by changing the Meta-Frame.
Let’s pretend you’re talking to a girl and your Meta-Intent is to sleep with her. If she blurts out, “I gotta go home,” you could retort with, “Look, I hardly even know you and you’re already trying to get me to go home with you. It just proves that girls are bigger perverts than guys.”
This defines the words “I gotta go home” as her trying to get you into bed and establishes the Meta-Frame that you’re the Prize she’s trying to win over.
But it also establishes your Meta-Intent. It does this by defining her role as a pervert trying to get you into bed.
Using this example by itself probably won’t get you your desired outcome.
But if you sprinkle this kind of communication throughout your interactions with women, getting your intended outcome becomes as easy as turning on the TV.
If you’re really serious about taking your game to the next level, there’s something even more powerful than Meta-Frames…
It’s called “Sexual Frames.”
Sexual Frames do everything Meta-Frames do plus they activate compliance triggers hardwired into every woman’s brain.
In case you’re wondering, compliance triggers are neurological structures that when activated unconsciously compel a person to comply with your every whim.
Advertisers spend a great deal of time and money studying how to activate these compliance triggers because they know this is the key to emotionally driving people to do what the they want them to do.
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A big part of motivating people to do what you desire is having value – or what I like to call “Prizability” – in their eyes.
Think about it…
What happens when a stranger sporting the Prizability of a dingle berry tells you to do something? I’m willing to bet, you’ve got the motivation of a Jerry Springer watching, bonbon eating couch potato.
Do you need a Herculean physique, Brad Pitt’s mug, Ron Jeremy’s schlong, and Warren Buffett’s bank account for women to think you’re the Prize?
Do you have to squander away your hard-earned moollah on women for them to see you as Prizable?
Short answer: A big fat in-your-face NO!
Long answer: There’s a much easier road to becoming the Prize in the eyes of many a woman that doesn’t involve pissing away your cash or letting a surgeon carve Brad Pitt’s face into your mug.
It’s called the Meta-Frame. (If you’ve been reading my letters for a while you know about the Meta-Frame. If you haven’t, don’t worry. You’re about to get a crash course on it.)
Every male/female interaction has a Meta-Frame that defines (and assigns) the role each person plays: one as the Prize, the other as trying to win over the Prize.
Your job is to establish a Meta-Frame that defines you as the Prize.
Most men make one of two mistakes...
1). They establish a Meta-Frame that defines their role in the interaction as the one trying to win the woman over.
2). Like spineless wimps, they let the woman establish the Meta-Frame. (If you let a woman control the Meta-Frame, you’ll get defined as the one trying to win her over.)
Alas, once a man loses the role of the Prize, the woman stops feeling attraction and starts perceiving him as having little to no Prizability.
As a crippling consequence, his chances of pulling her into his Meta-Intent teeter on impossible.
Let’s look at a few examples…
Imagine a guy with his balls intact strutting up to a cold-as-ice vixen. But before he utters a single word she hisses, “If you wanna talk to me, you need to buy me a martini.”
If he buys her a drink, who’s in control of the Meta-Frame?
If you think he’s in control, do yourself a favor and man-slap yourself across the face – you’ll thank me later.
If you answered “her,” you’re on the right track, my man.
By him buying her a drink, he’s taking on the role of the chaser.
How do I keep the interaction alive if I don’t buy her a drink? Won’t she ask me to leave?
Good questions.
Try to think of a rebuttal that uses her words “get me a drink” to affirm that your role is the Prize and hers is trying to win you over.
With a little practice, this is easier than you might think.
You could scold her with, “How dare you tell me to buy you drink, you classless peasant.”
Will this work?
Probably not. It lacks two key pieces: humor and playfulness.
Without humor and playfulness, your response will come across as an emotional reaction to her. Anytime your response to a woman is fraught with emotion, you’re playing the role of the chaser, not the Prize.
Plus, without humor and playfulness, it’s about as subtle as a freight train that you’re trying to shove her out of the role of the Prize and push her into the role of the chaser.
There’s nothing that makes a woman resist your Meta-Frame more than feeling muscled out of one role and forced into another.
On the other hand, when your rebuttal packs plenty of humor and playfulness, it demonstrates that you’re emotionally non reactive and assumes – not coerces – that the woman’s role is the chaser. (In the last several months I’ve discovered a slew of secrets about being non reactive. If I get enough requests, I’ll put together a letter on my recent findings.)
Try to come up with a few examples on your own.
How about saying aloud in a playful tone, “Mental note self: Get her a copy of the Emily Post book of etiquette for her birthday”?
Now that’s great. It uses humor to call her on acting classless.
Unless she’s lumbered with an IQ barely hovering into the double digits, she’s gonna laugh.
By her laughing, she’s acknowledging that asking you to get her a drink lacks class.
This implies the Meta-Frame that you’re the Prize she’s trying to win over.
You can also change the Meta-Intent by changing the Meta-Frame.
Let’s pretend you’re talking to a girl and your Meta-Intent is to sleep with her. If she blurts out, “I gotta go home,” you could retort with, “Look, I hardly even know you and you’re already trying to get me to go home with you. It just proves that girls are bigger perverts than guys.”
This defines the words “I gotta go home” as her trying to get you into bed and establishes the Meta-Frame that you’re the Prize she’s trying to win over.
But it also establishes your Meta-Intent. It does this by defining her role as a pervert trying to get you into bed.
Using this example by itself probably won’t get you your desired outcome.
But if you sprinkle this kind of communication throughout your interactions with women, getting your intended outcome becomes as easy as turning on the TV.
If you’re really serious about taking your game to the next level, there’s something even more powerful than Meta-Frames…
It’s called “Sexual Frames.”
Sexual Frames do everything Meta-Frames do plus they activate compliance triggers hardwired into every woman’s brain.
In case you’re wondering, compliance triggers are neurological structures that when activated unconsciously compel a person to comply with your every whim.
Advertisers spend a great deal of time and money studying how to activate these compliance triggers because they know this is the key to emotionally driving people to do what the they want them to do.