Post by Grape on Oct 15, 2008 15:56:11 GMT -5
Written by Swinggcat
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I was out with a buddy of mine the other night. He struck up a conversation with a plain Jane adorned in Paris Hiltonesque couture and P Diddy bling.
My eyeballs glanced at her mug and then relayed an unsightly snapshot to my brain: acne, liver spots, and crow’s feet shrouded behind a coat of foundation thick as stucco.
Her neck skin, resembling alligator hide. Her scalp buckled to horsehair extensions.
Although she made my throat spasm and dry heave, my buddy’s heart ached for a date with her.
I don’t judge what type of girl’s my friends are into. But I do want them to achieve their aspirations with women.
And here lies the problem…
Because my friend didn’t know how to shepherd his interaction with her in the direction he wanted, she slipped away without him getting a kiss… a number… or a date.
Goals with women often differ from one man to the next.
Maybe you want a girlfriend or wife, a soul mate, a booty call you can drunk dial at 4 o’clock Saturday morning, a one-night-stand, a threesome, a maid to cook and clean for you… or something entirely different?
But there’s a universal truth about all heterosexual males (minus priests) bigger than Britney Spear’s camel toe…. bigger than Jenna Jameson’s moose knuckle…
We all want more control over our desired outcome with females.
And that’s precisely what you’ll learn in this letter.
I wanna introduce you to a concept I call the Meta-Intent.
One of the many meanings of the word ‘intent’ is to move towards a specific goal.
Your intent during your next interaction with a woman may be to get a phone number, play tonsil hockey, make mad passionate monkey into the wee hours of the morning… or something else.
But…
The woman’s intent might be to make you a Platonic friend she can yap about her guy problems to, turn you into an ATM machine with feet, coax you into buying her overpriced dinners and jewelry… and so on.
During the course of your interaction with her, your intent as well as hers may change several times.
But there’s something ominous lurking in the background.
Before I tell you what it is, I wanna ask you a quick question…
Has a parent or boss ever told you to do something you didn’t want to do but you did it anyway? Maybe you even thought about not doing it. But in the end you caved.
One more quick question…
Have you ever had a girl you lusted after make it clear as day that your chances of moving beyond “friends only’ with her were whump shut and, like a big passive bottom, you accepted this?
Perhaps, every time you felt an unspeakable urge in your crotch to make a move on her, you stopped yourself, fearing that you’d cross a dangerous barrier?
You were trapped inside her Meta-Intent.
In this letter you’re gonna learn skills for pulling women into your Meta-Intent and staying outside of theirs.
The first half of the letter focuses on the inner game – the mental part – to establishing and controlling the Meta-Intent. (This is damn important, my man. Without having all of the unconscious parts of your mind on board with the Meta-Intent you want to establish with a woman, success with her has the vitality of a Dutch Euthanasia ward.)
The second half concentrates on the outer game: specific technique for pulling a woman into your Meta-Intent and keeping her there.
As you’ll see, the inner and outer game are connected at the hip.
The Inner Game To Establishing & Controlling the Meta-Intent…
The first step is to get crystal-clear on what you want out of your interactions with women.
It’s okay to change what you want as your relationship progresses. For example, my goal with some women started off as casual sex but eventually developed into wanting a serious relationship.
But here’s a big ol’ fat red flag: Often, when men think their priorities have changed with a woman, they’ve unknowingly slipped into her Meta-Intent. So if your wants and desires begin to change, ask yourself…
Have my goals changed or have I become the bitch-slave to her Meta-Intent?
Step 2 is developing the unwavering belief that you’re intended outcome with her is inevitable.
How do beliefs operate? A belief directs your mind at things consistent with it. Likewise, it blinds you from perceiving anything inconsistent with it.
Let’s look at an example...
As hapless Joe goo-goo eyes a piece of T&A origami his down-below parts rise to full attention. He fantasizes about moist relief with this hunk of Darwinian perfection.
But he doesn’t believe it’s possible.
As a crippling consequence, success with her is grim.
Even if he does approach her, his mind will focus on everything that’s going wrong.
If she gets distracted, momentarily looks bored, or disagrees with him, he’ll interpret it as evidence that he doesn’t have a chance with her.
His belief will blind him from noticing all the subtle I-wanna-fuck-your-brains-out bread crumbs she’s dropping.
But it gets worse…
What you put your focus of attention on is where the women will put hers.
Take a wild guess what happens when hapless Joe puts all of his attention on things that don’t bode well for him achieving his desired outcome?
The woman will put her attention on these things as well.
From the get-go, she may have found him, as Fat Bastard would say, “dead sexy.”
But by the time his negative beliefs infect her, the only thing she’ll notice about him are the words “I’m a big fat loser” push-pinned to his forehead.
I’ve experienced this hundreds of times myself. Styling my hair is like trying to discipline a feral child.
However, last year my hairstylist accomplished the impossible by giving me a kickass haircut. I felt like a billion big ones and believed every woman in the world would sleep with me at my whim.
That night I met a blonde sporting Brigitte Bardot’s mug in her prime and two basketball sized tah tahs itching to get out of her low cut top.
Within fifteen minutes of meeting her, I pulled her into the bathroom for a midnight hump-a-thon.
Later that night, when I brushed my teeth for bed I caught a glimpse of my reflection in the mirror.
To the horror of my eyeballs, a ghastly boil sat dead center on my schnozz.
Quickly, I grabbed my camera to see if I’d been lugging around this hideous growth all night. Sure enough, it accompanied me in every picture.
On the other hand, I’ve had nights where I felt about as attractive as varicose veins spider webbing across a fat woman’s thighs.
I’d struggle to get laid in brothel with a fist full of hundred dollar bills, I thought.
Not surprisingly, women avoided me like a leper.
But when I looked at pictures of myself the next day, I realized that I was oozing sex appeal.
Here’s an exercise for developing the belief that you’re destined to get the outcome you desire with a woman…
Find a quiet place without any distractions eager to pull you away from this exercise. Put on your movie director’s cap and get ready to design your reality.
Visualize the kinda girl you want to attract. Add in as many details as you can.
What color is her hair? How tall is she? What color are her eyes? What is she wearing?
Next, create a movie in your mind going from meeting this woman to getting the outcome you want with her.
Then play this movie over and over again in your mind. Spend a minimum of twenty minutes watching this mental movie before going out to meet women. As time goes on you’ll do some editing and fine tuning.
Step 3 is to detach yourself like a Buddhist monk from your desire to achieve your intended outcome.
This is easier than it sounds. You don’t need to cloister yourself away in a monastery for the next decade to achieve this.
When most men approach a woman, they unconsciously create a rule that all of their self worth and source of happiness is dependent upon getting the outcome they desire with her. (I’m sure a few people reading this are chuckling with guilt. You know why? Because we’ve all committed this sin.)
Right before you approach the next woman you want to meet, take a few minutes to meditate on all of the things that bring you happiness and validation besides achieving your intended outcome with her.
Does this make your desire disappear? Not at all. But it does rip to shreds your attachment to the desire.
Something magical happens when you know what you want, believe you’ll get it, yet aren’t emotionally attached to the outcome: you magnetically draw women into your Meta-Intent.
On Friday I’m going to email you part 2 to this article: the outer game to getting what you want with women.
Before I let you go, I wanna bring up an important facet to getting what you want from women.
Without the ability to vibe with women, these inner game techniques are rendered useless.
When in the presence of attractive women, do you ever feel tongue-tied, suspect they’re bored silly, need a prepared piece of conversion just keep the interaction alive, or ache with frustration that you aren’t getting the outcome you want with them?
If so, take it as a sign that you need improve your vibing skills.
In fact… one of the biggest things holding guys back from succeeding with women is their lack of ability to vibe with women.
=================
I was out with a buddy of mine the other night. He struck up a conversation with a plain Jane adorned in Paris Hiltonesque couture and P Diddy bling.
My eyeballs glanced at her mug and then relayed an unsightly snapshot to my brain: acne, liver spots, and crow’s feet shrouded behind a coat of foundation thick as stucco.
Her neck skin, resembling alligator hide. Her scalp buckled to horsehair extensions.
Although she made my throat spasm and dry heave, my buddy’s heart ached for a date with her.
I don’t judge what type of girl’s my friends are into. But I do want them to achieve their aspirations with women.
And here lies the problem…
Because my friend didn’t know how to shepherd his interaction with her in the direction he wanted, she slipped away without him getting a kiss… a number… or a date.
Goals with women often differ from one man to the next.
Maybe you want a girlfriend or wife, a soul mate, a booty call you can drunk dial at 4 o’clock Saturday morning, a one-night-stand, a threesome, a maid to cook and clean for you… or something entirely different?
But there’s a universal truth about all heterosexual males (minus priests) bigger than Britney Spear’s camel toe…. bigger than Jenna Jameson’s moose knuckle…
We all want more control over our desired outcome with females.
And that’s precisely what you’ll learn in this letter.
I wanna introduce you to a concept I call the Meta-Intent.
One of the many meanings of the word ‘intent’ is to move towards a specific goal.
Your intent during your next interaction with a woman may be to get a phone number, play tonsil hockey, make mad passionate monkey into the wee hours of the morning… or something else.
But…
The woman’s intent might be to make you a Platonic friend she can yap about her guy problems to, turn you into an ATM machine with feet, coax you into buying her overpriced dinners and jewelry… and so on.
During the course of your interaction with her, your intent as well as hers may change several times.
But there’s something ominous lurking in the background.
Before I tell you what it is, I wanna ask you a quick question…
Has a parent or boss ever told you to do something you didn’t want to do but you did it anyway? Maybe you even thought about not doing it. But in the end you caved.
One more quick question…
Have you ever had a girl you lusted after make it clear as day that your chances of moving beyond “friends only’ with her were whump shut and, like a big passive bottom, you accepted this?
Perhaps, every time you felt an unspeakable urge in your crotch to make a move on her, you stopped yourself, fearing that you’d cross a dangerous barrier?
You were trapped inside her Meta-Intent.
In this letter you’re gonna learn skills for pulling women into your Meta-Intent and staying outside of theirs.
The first half of the letter focuses on the inner game – the mental part – to establishing and controlling the Meta-Intent. (This is damn important, my man. Without having all of the unconscious parts of your mind on board with the Meta-Intent you want to establish with a woman, success with her has the vitality of a Dutch Euthanasia ward.)
The second half concentrates on the outer game: specific technique for pulling a woman into your Meta-Intent and keeping her there.
As you’ll see, the inner and outer game are connected at the hip.
The Inner Game To Establishing & Controlling the Meta-Intent…
The first step is to get crystal-clear on what you want out of your interactions with women.
It’s okay to change what you want as your relationship progresses. For example, my goal with some women started off as casual sex but eventually developed into wanting a serious relationship.
But here’s a big ol’ fat red flag: Often, when men think their priorities have changed with a woman, they’ve unknowingly slipped into her Meta-Intent. So if your wants and desires begin to change, ask yourself…
Have my goals changed or have I become the bitch-slave to her Meta-Intent?
Step 2 is developing the unwavering belief that you’re intended outcome with her is inevitable.
How do beliefs operate? A belief directs your mind at things consistent with it. Likewise, it blinds you from perceiving anything inconsistent with it.
Let’s look at an example...
As hapless Joe goo-goo eyes a piece of T&A origami his down-below parts rise to full attention. He fantasizes about moist relief with this hunk of Darwinian perfection.
But he doesn’t believe it’s possible.
As a crippling consequence, success with her is grim.
Even if he does approach her, his mind will focus on everything that’s going wrong.
If she gets distracted, momentarily looks bored, or disagrees with him, he’ll interpret it as evidence that he doesn’t have a chance with her.
His belief will blind him from noticing all the subtle I-wanna-fuck-your-brains-out bread crumbs she’s dropping.
But it gets worse…
What you put your focus of attention on is where the women will put hers.
Take a wild guess what happens when hapless Joe puts all of his attention on things that don’t bode well for him achieving his desired outcome?
The woman will put her attention on these things as well.
From the get-go, she may have found him, as Fat Bastard would say, “dead sexy.”
But by the time his negative beliefs infect her, the only thing she’ll notice about him are the words “I’m a big fat loser” push-pinned to his forehead.
I’ve experienced this hundreds of times myself. Styling my hair is like trying to discipline a feral child.
However, last year my hairstylist accomplished the impossible by giving me a kickass haircut. I felt like a billion big ones and believed every woman in the world would sleep with me at my whim.
That night I met a blonde sporting Brigitte Bardot’s mug in her prime and two basketball sized tah tahs itching to get out of her low cut top.
Within fifteen minutes of meeting her, I pulled her into the bathroom for a midnight hump-a-thon.
Later that night, when I brushed my teeth for bed I caught a glimpse of my reflection in the mirror.
To the horror of my eyeballs, a ghastly boil sat dead center on my schnozz.
Quickly, I grabbed my camera to see if I’d been lugging around this hideous growth all night. Sure enough, it accompanied me in every picture.
On the other hand, I’ve had nights where I felt about as attractive as varicose veins spider webbing across a fat woman’s thighs.
I’d struggle to get laid in brothel with a fist full of hundred dollar bills, I thought.
Not surprisingly, women avoided me like a leper.
But when I looked at pictures of myself the next day, I realized that I was oozing sex appeal.
Here’s an exercise for developing the belief that you’re destined to get the outcome you desire with a woman…
Find a quiet place without any distractions eager to pull you away from this exercise. Put on your movie director’s cap and get ready to design your reality.
Visualize the kinda girl you want to attract. Add in as many details as you can.
What color is her hair? How tall is she? What color are her eyes? What is she wearing?
Next, create a movie in your mind going from meeting this woman to getting the outcome you want with her.
Then play this movie over and over again in your mind. Spend a minimum of twenty minutes watching this mental movie before going out to meet women. As time goes on you’ll do some editing and fine tuning.
Step 3 is to detach yourself like a Buddhist monk from your desire to achieve your intended outcome.
This is easier than it sounds. You don’t need to cloister yourself away in a monastery for the next decade to achieve this.
When most men approach a woman, they unconsciously create a rule that all of their self worth and source of happiness is dependent upon getting the outcome they desire with her. (I’m sure a few people reading this are chuckling with guilt. You know why? Because we’ve all committed this sin.)
Right before you approach the next woman you want to meet, take a few minutes to meditate on all of the things that bring you happiness and validation besides achieving your intended outcome with her.
Does this make your desire disappear? Not at all. But it does rip to shreds your attachment to the desire.
Something magical happens when you know what you want, believe you’ll get it, yet aren’t emotionally attached to the outcome: you magnetically draw women into your Meta-Intent.
On Friday I’m going to email you part 2 to this article: the outer game to getting what you want with women.
Before I let you go, I wanna bring up an important facet to getting what you want from women.
Without the ability to vibe with women, these inner game techniques are rendered useless.
When in the presence of attractive women, do you ever feel tongue-tied, suspect they’re bored silly, need a prepared piece of conversion just keep the interaction alive, or ache with frustration that you aren’t getting the outcome you want with them?
If so, take it as a sign that you need improve your vibing skills.
In fact… one of the biggest things holding guys back from succeeding with women is their lack of ability to vibe with women.
