Post by Andrew on Nov 4, 2009 20:57:38 GMT -5
NOTE: this is sort of a corollary to my post titled "Owning Yourself." If you havent read it yet, I would ;]
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What does it mean to be shameless? Merriam-Webster defines 'Shame' as "a painful emotion caused by consciousness of guilt, shortcoming, or impropriety." (They define impropriety as an improper or act or remark for you guys like myself who may have to look that up xD)
But if we as men meant to do something, if we made an action, a comment, or made a choice that we MEANT to do, why do we feel shame about it?
Well first of all we haven't owned it yet (read up, folks). But also because we are still afraid of what others might think or say. Because we haven't started living for ourselves yet.
We need to act WITHOUT a painful emotion caused by knowledge of a remark that someone may have taken offense to. we need to live WITHOUT shame.
Being Shameless
A lot of you guys could see this, and say that I could have just made this a post on being direct, and on direct game. However, guys who go direct usually work off of the inital adrenaline rush from going in and telling a girl exactly how they feel, and then feel stuck, and don't know what to do because direct game tells you how to go in, and then says "just have a conversation."
Yeah. Thats true. But being shameless isnt about opening or routines. Being shameless is how you go about doing things in your daily life. guys can overall be shameless, but you never hear someone say "that guy has balls, hes pretty damn direct"
Its more like,
"Owning your emotions."
We are MEN. Most of us like GIRLS. We think that they are HOT. Some of us may even have the AUDACITY to watch PORN. We can all agree that that is normal.
Why would you EVER tell a girl otherwise? She knows your lying haha.
If you do this, you right off the bat are lying to a girl, and then she knows that you are A) insecure about yourself, and what you want, B) nervous around her, and C) THAT YOU ARE LYING TO HER, DO I NEED TO EXPLAIN WHY THAT IS BAD?!
Instead, by being shameless, you convey these things. That you A) are mature about women. Your not nervous anytime boobies come into sight. B) that have a lot of self confidence to tell her what you really think, and C) THAT YOU ARE INDEED A MAN. YOU ARE INDEED A MAN, ARENT YOU? (any women on the forum, thank you, we need more of you here =D)
"But Andrew, PUA has INGRAINED INTO MY BRAIN that we are never supposed to convey interest! Isnt this completely against everything I've ever learned?"
Here's the deal, reader, conveying interest and thinking that she has a nice ass are different. Fact is, she has a nice ass. Fact is NOT that because she has a nice ass that makes you her bitch. Don't let her think that xD.
There are a lot of guys that think because they are telling a girl what they really think, that that means they will do whatever she wants. OR, EVEN WORSE, girls who think because you said she has a nice ass, she becomes a pretty pretty princess. And if you know me, I NEVER let a girl think she is a pretty pretty princess, unless she deserves it from me.
EXAMPLE TIME:
My little brother, actually, was at a pool party over the summer. He was telling some story about how he was sitting down watching his friends fake-fight or do something stupid or something, and a girl came in front of him, and bent down to pick something up. This girl, obviously used to male attention, said "ROB! You better not be staring at my ass!"
Now, my brother could have easily said, course not, and proceeded to call his friends over to see this amazing bikini-clad
ass right in front of him, or make ass slapping gestures, but instead he said,
"EMMA! You PLANTED your ass RIGHT IN FRONT OF ME and bent over! Combine that with the fact that you basically have a nice ass and how do you HONESTLY expect me not to?"
SERIOUS props to him, both from the girl, and from his bros. That takes balls, but really, theres nothing to worry about it because:
GIRLS THINK HONESTY AND CONFIDENCE IS SEXY ESPECIALLY COMINED. I CANT STRESS THIS ENOUGH!
Need another example?
A HUGE thing with guys is getting caught staring at a girls cleavage. Its all happened to us, but some guys are proud of the fact that theyve never been caught. I find that creepy, honestly.
Heres how I would play it out:
GRL: Andrew, are you staring at my boobs?
ADRW: Honey I'm basically staring at them.
GRL: Excuse me? Dont you think thats a little rude?
ANRW: RUDE?! Itd be rude not to. They look great. YOu honestly dont have to offended, random GRL, you have nice boobs.
GRL: well I guess its nice to meet a guy thats honest.
Your a MAN! OWN YOUR EMOTIONS! Be SHAMELESS!
-Andrew <3
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What does it mean to be shameless? Merriam-Webster defines 'Shame' as "a painful emotion caused by consciousness of guilt, shortcoming, or impropriety." (They define impropriety as an improper or act or remark for you guys like myself who may have to look that up xD)
But if we as men meant to do something, if we made an action, a comment, or made a choice that we MEANT to do, why do we feel shame about it?
Well first of all we haven't owned it yet (read up, folks). But also because we are still afraid of what others might think or say. Because we haven't started living for ourselves yet.
We need to act WITHOUT a painful emotion caused by knowledge of a remark that someone may have taken offense to. we need to live WITHOUT shame.
Being Shameless
A lot of you guys could see this, and say that I could have just made this a post on being direct, and on direct game. However, guys who go direct usually work off of the inital adrenaline rush from going in and telling a girl exactly how they feel, and then feel stuck, and don't know what to do because direct game tells you how to go in, and then says "just have a conversation."
Yeah. Thats true. But being shameless isnt about opening or routines. Being shameless is how you go about doing things in your daily life. guys can overall be shameless, but you never hear someone say "that guy has balls, hes pretty damn direct"
Its more like,
"Owning your emotions."
We are MEN. Most of us like GIRLS. We think that they are HOT. Some of us may even have the AUDACITY to watch PORN. We can all agree that that is normal.
Why would you EVER tell a girl otherwise? She knows your lying haha.
If you do this, you right off the bat are lying to a girl, and then she knows that you are A) insecure about yourself, and what you want, B) nervous around her, and C) THAT YOU ARE LYING TO HER, DO I NEED TO EXPLAIN WHY THAT IS BAD?!
Instead, by being shameless, you convey these things. That you A) are mature about women. Your not nervous anytime boobies come into sight. B) that have a lot of self confidence to tell her what you really think, and C) THAT YOU ARE INDEED A MAN. YOU ARE INDEED A MAN, ARENT YOU? (any women on the forum, thank you, we need more of you here =D)
"But Andrew, PUA has INGRAINED INTO MY BRAIN that we are never supposed to convey interest! Isnt this completely against everything I've ever learned?"
Here's the deal, reader, conveying interest and thinking that she has a nice ass are different. Fact is, she has a nice ass. Fact is NOT that because she has a nice ass that makes you her bitch. Don't let her think that xD.
There are a lot of guys that think because they are telling a girl what they really think, that that means they will do whatever she wants. OR, EVEN WORSE, girls who think because you said she has a nice ass, she becomes a pretty pretty princess. And if you know me, I NEVER let a girl think she is a pretty pretty princess, unless she deserves it from me.
EXAMPLE TIME:
My little brother, actually, was at a pool party over the summer. He was telling some story about how he was sitting down watching his friends fake-fight or do something stupid or something, and a girl came in front of him, and bent down to pick something up. This girl, obviously used to male attention, said "ROB! You better not be staring at my ass!"
Now, my brother could have easily said, course not, and proceeded to call his friends over to see this amazing bikini-clad
ass right in front of him, or make ass slapping gestures, but instead he said,
"EMMA! You PLANTED your ass RIGHT IN FRONT OF ME and bent over! Combine that with the fact that you basically have a nice ass and how do you HONESTLY expect me not to?"
SERIOUS props to him, both from the girl, and from his bros. That takes balls, but really, theres nothing to worry about it because:
GIRLS THINK HONESTY AND CONFIDENCE IS SEXY ESPECIALLY COMINED. I CANT STRESS THIS ENOUGH!
Need another example?
A HUGE thing with guys is getting caught staring at a girls cleavage. Its all happened to us, but some guys are proud of the fact that theyve never been caught. I find that creepy, honestly.
Heres how I would play it out:
GRL: Andrew, are you staring at my boobs?
ADRW: Honey I'm basically staring at them.
GRL: Excuse me? Dont you think thats a little rude?
ANRW: RUDE?! Itd be rude not to. They look great. YOu honestly dont have to offended, random GRL, you have nice boobs.
GRL: well I guess its nice to meet a guy thats honest.
Your a MAN! OWN YOUR EMOTIONS! Be SHAMELESS!
-Andrew <3
