Post by Andrew on Nov 23, 2009 23:26:03 GMT -5
I always believe that life is about the doors that you want to keep open. Each open door represents a possibility, a choice that you can make. The more doors you keep open, the better off you’ll be.
Unfortunately ALL doors can’t be open. Keeping one opportunity open may close another. It isn’t possible to keep every door open.
I apply the same rule and mindset with women. The more doors you keep open the more abundant and happy your life with women (and especially those that you are able to attract) will be.
Its all about what doors you want to keep open!
Lets say I want to attract really quiet conservative girls. I wouldn’t want to dress in an XXL Biggie Smalls t-shirt, pants around my knees, and have gold chains would I? If I wanted to attract girls named Shaniqua, then that’s my wardrobe of choice.
Lets say I smoke pot. I open all the doors of the other people in my school who smoke pot. I can add to their hilarious stoner stories, compare pieces, engage in the social behavior, all those things. But if I DO smoke, I close the doors to all those kids who look down upon it, all the girls who are athletes, smart girls, girls who drink but wouldn’t touch weed, and probably my parents, who are a HUGE support system.
Dressing
While you go out, and check out girls based on what they wear, girls are doing the exact same thing to you.
What is he wearing? Why is he wearing it? How does he look it in? How does he carry himself? How confident is he? How does he react to the people around him? What does his style of dress say about whom he is or what he likes?
Women think all of this based on how you look to see if they would even want to TALK to you. To be attractive a certain type of girl, you need to dress the part. THEIR part.
That isn’t to say that you should go out and change yourself based on a girl you think is attractive. If your attracted primarily to a certain type of girl, generally your likely to be something like that yourself.
(Also, if you are having trouble determining your own sense of style, look at the girls that you are attracted to and want to attract, and dress to match that.)
This is why most guys tend to dress generically. By dressing in normal conspicuous clothing, they are much less likely to offend and close doors. However, they do close doors. They close the doors of any girl who likes guys who dress in tight pants. Or v-necks. Or flannel. Or those chain pants. Or a suit and tie every day to school. They also close the doors of those around them who may not like a guy of a particular style, but cant stand generic.
It is extremely hard to keep all doors open, especially in high school where you’re around all the same people all day every day. Out there in the big boy world, it’s easier to change to attract a certain girl, but then it is less than truthful to yourself and her. Your call.
All that being said, your confidence is the sexiest thing that you possess. If you go out and where whatever you want and believe that you look good and project your mindset and frame, youll be going places.
Flirting
One thing most guys don’t realize is that who they flirt with has an impact on the doors that they keep open or closed.
Don’t flirt with anything that comes equipped with tits. You’ll come across as shallow and someone without standards!
Girls who are smart, attractive and good flirts will see you flirting with easy targets, girls for practice, or girls that you don’t care about in the least and they will draw conclusions.
They’ll see first that you don’t have any standards. If you flirt with anything, it makes it look like you will TAKE anything. This opens doors with girls that you don’t necessarily want to have opened all the time, and DEFINITELY closes doors with those you really want to keep open.
The community drills into your brain that you need to be pre-selected to get with the women you want, but you don’t want to be pre-selected by girls that wouldn’t be associated by those you DO want to be with.
To be strongly pre-selected and open the doors with women that you want to, one would need to associate himself with girls he DOES want to be with, or those above.
If you are a guy who isn’t great with girls or doesn’t have the strongest social standing, the more you associate with and talk to confidently those girls that are you target attraction range, the better your chances of opening doors will be.
To attract the girls that you WANT to attract, you need to be attractive to them. Not all styles will attract all girls, and some will attract some girls more than others. Make sure that your style is cohesive to who you are AND the types of girls that you want to attract.
Also, who you flirt with and associate yourself with has a big impact on what doors you open for yourself and the opportunities you can obtain socially. Surround yourself with people you WANT to surround yourself with, rather than those who bring you down, either mentally, emotionally, or just those people you don’t like.
Life is about opportunities,
Make the best of them!
-Andrew ♥
Unfortunately ALL doors can’t be open. Keeping one opportunity open may close another. It isn’t possible to keep every door open.
I apply the same rule and mindset with women. The more doors you keep open the more abundant and happy your life with women (and especially those that you are able to attract) will be.
Its all about what doors you want to keep open!
Lets say I want to attract really quiet conservative girls. I wouldn’t want to dress in an XXL Biggie Smalls t-shirt, pants around my knees, and have gold chains would I? If I wanted to attract girls named Shaniqua, then that’s my wardrobe of choice.
Lets say I smoke pot. I open all the doors of the other people in my school who smoke pot. I can add to their hilarious stoner stories, compare pieces, engage in the social behavior, all those things. But if I DO smoke, I close the doors to all those kids who look down upon it, all the girls who are athletes, smart girls, girls who drink but wouldn’t touch weed, and probably my parents, who are a HUGE support system.
Dressing
While you go out, and check out girls based on what they wear, girls are doing the exact same thing to you.
What is he wearing? Why is he wearing it? How does he look it in? How does he carry himself? How confident is he? How does he react to the people around him? What does his style of dress say about whom he is or what he likes?
Women think all of this based on how you look to see if they would even want to TALK to you. To be attractive a certain type of girl, you need to dress the part. THEIR part.
That isn’t to say that you should go out and change yourself based on a girl you think is attractive. If your attracted primarily to a certain type of girl, generally your likely to be something like that yourself.
(Also, if you are having trouble determining your own sense of style, look at the girls that you are attracted to and want to attract, and dress to match that.)
This is why most guys tend to dress generically. By dressing in normal conspicuous clothing, they are much less likely to offend and close doors. However, they do close doors. They close the doors of any girl who likes guys who dress in tight pants. Or v-necks. Or flannel. Or those chain pants. Or a suit and tie every day to school. They also close the doors of those around them who may not like a guy of a particular style, but cant stand generic.
It is extremely hard to keep all doors open, especially in high school where you’re around all the same people all day every day. Out there in the big boy world, it’s easier to change to attract a certain girl, but then it is less than truthful to yourself and her. Your call.
All that being said, your confidence is the sexiest thing that you possess. If you go out and where whatever you want and believe that you look good and project your mindset and frame, youll be going places.
Flirting
One thing most guys don’t realize is that who they flirt with has an impact on the doors that they keep open or closed.
Don’t flirt with anything that comes equipped with tits. You’ll come across as shallow and someone without standards!
Girls who are smart, attractive and good flirts will see you flirting with easy targets, girls for practice, or girls that you don’t care about in the least and they will draw conclusions.
They’ll see first that you don’t have any standards. If you flirt with anything, it makes it look like you will TAKE anything. This opens doors with girls that you don’t necessarily want to have opened all the time, and DEFINITELY closes doors with those you really want to keep open.
The community drills into your brain that you need to be pre-selected to get with the women you want, but you don’t want to be pre-selected by girls that wouldn’t be associated by those you DO want to be with.
To be strongly pre-selected and open the doors with women that you want to, one would need to associate himself with girls he DOES want to be with, or those above.
If you are a guy who isn’t great with girls or doesn’t have the strongest social standing, the more you associate with and talk to confidently those girls that are you target attraction range, the better your chances of opening doors will be.
To attract the girls that you WANT to attract, you need to be attractive to them. Not all styles will attract all girls, and some will attract some girls more than others. Make sure that your style is cohesive to who you are AND the types of girls that you want to attract.
Also, who you flirt with and associate yourself with has a big impact on what doors you open for yourself and the opportunities you can obtain socially. Surround yourself with people you WANT to surround yourself with, rather than those who bring you down, either mentally, emotionally, or just those people you don’t like.
Life is about opportunities,
Make the best of them!
-Andrew ♥
