Being Too Attractive is COUNTERPRODUCTIVE

[Grape]

I'll probably right an actual article on this if I have time later on in my busy life, but what do you guys think about this??


Being too attractive or too popular or too good can be counter-productive.

If this were the case, then just like how 90% of guys have AA to approach the 10s and absolutely beautiful girls, 90% of girls will have extreme AA to approach you.

Do you want to limit your field of women into just 10% of all women. Beauty has hardly anything to do with confidence btw.
And because of that, you're actually limiting yourself to 10% of all beautiful girls.

Is it not better, just as White Knight proposed symmetry theory, to not try to come off as overly high value or attractive and rather be focused on making her feel she's only SLIGHTLY less valuable than you are??

This way, you can still attract her without a problem. But you can also establish comfort much much faster.

After all, and I have been saying this for over a year now, RAPPORT IS THE GAME in high school.

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ideas, comments, thoughts, etc.

[nora]

I think part of what your saying is totally true. How do you think that fat funny guy gets the hot blonde?
physical attraction isnt always the most important thing to girls, they'll date guys who arnt as atractive. but vise versa i think its much more important to guys becasue you dont see goodlooking guys with fat chicks, i mean in that sense it doesnt matter if your girl has an awsome personality, if shes ugly shes ugly and i think its alot more embarising for a guy to have a girl on a lower stature than it is for a girl to have a less than perfect boy.

like you said making her feel like shes slightly less valuble I think can be very effective, but sometimes, alot of times, making her feel like shes slightly more valuble than you can also be effective

When I'm seeing a guy I really like it when I know hes proud to show me off, he acts like Im a catch, hes unworthy kinda thing.

[Chris]

I agree Grape, its almost like being a movie star, and the girl
knows she doesn't have a chance, which is why you should be
down to earth in a sense.

Nora, you might say you WANT a guy to do that, but what
women want and what they actually respond to are often two
different things. I do agree with being vulnerable from time to
time, however, if thats what your saying

[nora]

no your right chris, I was thinking about it and thats not atractive when your first trying to persue a guy, its kinda nice after words but nobody wants something they know they can have

[Calli]

I can see your point, but I probably wouldn't go so far as to say you can be too attractive. This also seems like over analyzing to me

Even if girls with lower confidence may not approach you directly, they will still be receptive to your approaches. So I would not agree that you are limiting yourself to 10% of beautiful girls. Some may be a little intimidated, but this doesn't mean you don't have a chance with them.

I can see more of a disadvantage for long term relationships though, if the girl feels your value is much higher than hers, she may feel slightly uncomfortable or nervous being around you, and may display more needy behavior such as being clingy and jealous.

[Jenkinz]

So what if they dont approach you? it increases your chances of getting with them if you approach them.
I've seen it happen..

[Grape]

What if she feels soo nervous or intimidated by your presence as to want to shoo you away?
I mean I've personally had moments in the past where an HB was so attractive as to make me feel too uncomfortable, so I acted like a dick to make her stop talking to me.

Obviously I don't do this any more Dx

But I'm sure I'm not the only one who has done this, and I'm also sure that girls do this to guys just as guys do it to girls.

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[nutrick]

I agree. Although I think you CAN be too attractive/good/popular, if you KNOW you are and act like you are, then that's where we run into problems. Big headed, egotistical, those little bastards.

[Jenkinz]

True^ but a pua who is a looker... would benefit
Is what i mean.. You apporach them and your a good looking guy and thats already +1 in their books. Women always analyse shit, thats whats driven us to these sorts of boards haha
working out what they like most and giving it to them through ourselves just to get some action xD

[Sloth]

I think being attractive does't hinder you in any way, but if you let being attractive make you seem cocky, then true, girls will be hesitant to approach.

Also i guess being attractive and confident may do this, but i really think an attractive person makes it easier to open, even if the unattractive person would eventually #close etc.

[sharkoffs]

Listen, being attractive doesn't hinder you neither does it make everything else not matter anymore.

It's just another crutch, if I took away my attraction and switched it with MASSIVE social proof do you think I would still get the girl? The answer is yes.

You don't see every amazing looking guy with hot girls just like you don't see every ugly guy with no girls.

Like I said before, just another crutch...