friend to wingman the transformation...

[blaze]

and yeah after three months of high school. on the first day i made friends with this cool good looking guy.

he jokes around makes my day, and has some kinda game...
the thing is yeah.... he's extreemly shy !

and he has this BIG crush on this girl , holy crap it's a 10 ! ( meh nothing is a 10 , so she's a 8.9 ) . and is there something wrong with me that i'm not attracted to that girl , meh attraction is not a choice, as the man david D said.

so further on, she saw us , sent us IoI's that she wanted to talk to either to me or to him.

we were on lunch the other day, and we planned that we should dress in shirts and ties, wich looked awesome on me !

and she IoI-ed us , wanting to talk to us.
and I said : let's go dude can't you see that she wants to talk to us ?
he said : NOO! dude ,
me : come on ! let's try it
him : what are we gonna talk about
*instant brainstorm* i had a tie , he had a tie, so i would open up with that, i instantly pictured myself talking to the girls and asking how my tie looks, then introduce him to his target and keep the obstacles busy by doing something physical....

that never happened
because he was too shy to approach,
he wouldn't know what to say.

so that moment passed away.. and he said: damn i messed up man , WTF is wrong with me it never happened when i talked to girls, i messed around with them and chilled, but it;s this girl that i like ,a and cant say anything to her.....

so i'm trying somehow to loose his fear of approaching his target ( even though he hasn't got this problem with all of the girls , just the one that he LIKES a lot ! )

i tried style's approach 5 people exercise, and he didn't want to do that . that helped me a lot.... so i guess i'm stuck here... what should i do ?

and also a female friend of mine keeps giving him advice , because he's acting like a totall... W- word i dont like to call hime like that because i know he's a good guy, and with a little bit of practice he'll become good...

the question is how though ?

It's probably a good thing for me to make friends with her, and then introduce her to my friend... and try to make her feel attraction for her... i thing it's gonna be hilarious. XD
we'll see....
oh yeah i also love social proof... ( that was right out of the blue, it hasn't to do anything with my friend XD )

[acezero]

I can understand him, you care what a girl you like thinks.

Best thing I can say is to explain to him that he is a man, men get what they want.

I tell myself that all the time when I start to wuss out and it makes the feeling completely go away.

[nikkisixx]

You can talk with him about indirect C&F openers (did you just grab my ass, Can you cook, etc.) It's no risk because it's indirect. Honestly man, looks like she's going to jump at either one of you guys. When she does just make sure one of you close her, I've made the mistake many many times (God damnit why cant I be attracted to girls that are attracted to me?).

[acezero]

Dec 12, 2009 17:41:29 GMT -5 nikkisixx said:

You can talk with him about indirect C&F openers (did you just grab my ass, Can you cook, etc.) It's no risk because it's indirect. Honestly man, looks like she's going to jump at either one of you guys. When she does just make sure one of you close her, I've made the mistake many many times (God damnit why cant I be attracted to girls that are attracted to me?).

I don'tthink that would work since he'd probably look at him like wtf? All this stuff I assumed was for confidence, which is the key ingredient in everything.

[Ant]

he has to put himself out there it is the first step he needs to leave his comfort zone and then he can start to get chicks